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TJT
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It has yet to be a problem. But doing so isn't hard or time consuming. And it is useful for organizing certain events or whatever.
I just don't get too concerned about privacy in the online capacity. I absolutely dont care who looks me up or sees it for whatever reason.
I just don't get too concerned about privacy in the online capacity. I absolutely dont care who looks me up or sees it for whatever reason.
Hoss
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Meh, I felt like the attention it got from that banned superbowl comemrcial was a master stroke of genius, I was single at the time and had no qualms with fucking lonely married women, and I was curious how they were getting paid.
Elaborate please. You mean you're going to fucking garage sales and they're checking your facebook before giving you that entire box of books for $5?
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I read that Ashley Madison does not require email verification when you open an account. This means anyone can use your email address to sign you up and then fuck with you.
Things are going amazingly well with this new chick from Match. She thinks I'm great and I think she's awesome. Something must be wrong. Will I awake one morning to a knife against my penis? She doesn't use Facebook. Maybe I should worry.
Things are going amazingly well with this new chick from Match. She thinks I'm great and I think she's awesome. Something must be wrong. Will I awake one morning to a knife against my penis? She doesn't use Facebook. Maybe I should worry.
Famm
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I'd read this before as well, that AM was basically a complete scam designed to simply get you to spend money.
Hackers say most female profiles on Ashley Madison are fake CBS Tampa
Hackers say most female profiles on Ashley Madison are fake CBS Tampa
Dandai
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Somewhat related: A couple years ago my buddy and I had read an article about how profitable dating sites were, so we looked at some of the more popular ones (on the top grossing iPhone store) to see what the user experience was like. The idea was that we would gamify the experience, helping the betas actually get past the initial awkwardness of introductions and getting-to-know you. If we could actually get these typically unsuccessful dudes out on dates we figured we'd be looking at some big bucks.
We got to work right away and split up our research efforts. I won the coin toss so he took Match, Scruff, and Grindr (gay male Tinder, essentially). This left me Zoosk, OkCupid, and Ashley Madison. I knew within a couple hours that AM was a scam because I wasn't bothering to put any actual details in my profiles I was making (after all, this was just for research on the user experience - finding other users, interacting with them, etc).
Anyway, I received my first message within a couple hours of creating the profile. I received a second message a few days later. Remember, I don't have a picture, and I don't have any details in my profile. Of course, to read messages you must be a subscriber. Out of curiosity, I look to see how much it would cost me to actually read the messages, and it's something like $40 for 30 days.
At this point I'm thinking, "How are they getting away with fake messaging their users?" I look at the terms of service (possibly for the first time in my adult life) and see - in small print of course - that they will message users from time to time so that they can "experience interacting with the message system"... or something like that.
So yeah, 90-95% of the female profiles being fake is absolutely not a surprise to me.
We got to work right away and split up our research efforts. I won the coin toss so he took Match, Scruff, and Grindr (gay male Tinder, essentially). This left me Zoosk, OkCupid, and Ashley Madison. I knew within a couple hours that AM was a scam because I wasn't bothering to put any actual details in my profiles I was making (after all, this was just for research on the user experience - finding other users, interacting with them, etc).
Anyway, I received my first message within a couple hours of creating the profile. I received a second message a few days later. Remember, I don't have a picture, and I don't have any details in my profile. Of course, to read messages you must be a subscriber. Out of curiosity, I look to see how much it would cost me to actually read the messages, and it's something like $40 for 30 days.
At this point I'm thinking, "How are they getting away with fake messaging their users?" I look at the terms of service (possibly for the first time in my adult life) and see - in small print of course - that they will message users from time to time so that they can "experience interacting with the message system"... or something like that.
So yeah, 90-95% of the female profiles being fake is absolutely not a surprise to me.
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Hoss
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dandai, if you'd waited long enough, those fake messages would have been readable because the 'girls' would have 'spent AshleyMadison bucks' to allow you to read it. And you should buy some ashleymadison bucks to send them some virtual roses in return.
Kriptini
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My ex and I broke up three years ago. I haven't dated anyone since then, and I haven't even been on a date since then.
I've changed a lot since I broke up with my ex. I feel less confident and more socially awkward. Three years ago I graduated from high school. I was one of the top dogs. I have my AA now but I've been telling myself to focus on school and my career, and not date anyone especially because I'm embarrassed of the fact that I'm still living with my parents (even though everyone tells me it's nothing to be ashamed of at this age).
But I've gotten very lonely. I've lost contact with a lot of my old female friends and the few that I've met through friends or other functions have either given me the cold shoulder or outright told me to kill myself. I now have no female friends (I don't have a good relationship with my sister and my two female friends that I do have go to college far away) and while I have lots of guy friends, I feel like not having female friends has been subconsciously effecting me where I start to feel more nervous around them. I have trouble striking conversations with people I don't know, especially women, and I have a really hard time mentioning my gaming hobby around women because I feel stigmatized.
Should I start dating again? Should I wait it out? Should I become a robot? Any advice in general would be great.
I've changed a lot since I broke up with my ex. I feel less confident and more socially awkward. Three years ago I graduated from high school. I was one of the top dogs. I have my AA now but I've been telling myself to focus on school and my career, and not date anyone especially because I'm embarrassed of the fact that I'm still living with my parents (even though everyone tells me it's nothing to be ashamed of at this age).
But I've gotten very lonely. I've lost contact with a lot of my old female friends and the few that I've met through friends or other functions have either given me the cold shoulder or outright told me to kill myself. I now have no female friends (I don't have a good relationship with my sister and my two female friends that I do have go to college far away) and while I have lots of guy friends, I feel like not having female friends has been subconsciously effecting me where I start to feel more nervous around them. I have trouble striking conversations with people I don't know, especially women, and I have a really hard time mentioning my gaming hobby around women because I feel stigmatized.
Should I start dating again? Should I wait it out? Should I become a robot? Any advice in general would be great.
Am I retarded?
We first I'd change so you don't reek of desperation and loneliness if you do happen to meet someone for a first date. I know first hand because it took me at least 10 failed first dates to realize I was the one fucking everything up because I was so desperate to be with someone. Also the best way to handle that you play video games is to not talk about it. It is only when you talk about it does the girl think you're obsessed and will stigmatize you.
Khane
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Talking about video games has never hurt me in the dating game. But then again I'm a borderline arrogant mother fucker who does a lot of other fun and interesting things.
Video games aren't a problem. If video games are the only thing you ever do in your spare time that is the problem.
Video games aren't a problem. If video games are the only thing you ever do in your spare time that is the problem.
Khane
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I think the trick isn't to not talk about video games period, but rather, not to go into gory detail unless she plays them too. This is true for any hobby.
Talking too much about shit the person you're out with doesn't care about is a bad move regardless of topic. If you shred on the guitar and the woman you're with doesn't like anything but classical she's going to yawn once you start talking about it. It's not dialogue at that point, it's boring ass monologue. Engage your date, don't force uninteresting conversations.
If you're a guitar lord you better as fuck talk about it on the first date. Same goes for a ton of other hobbies. The only issue is if you go "My #1 hobby is video games" there will be a stigma attached to that. And pretty much rightfully so. But if you talk about all the stuff you do and also weave in you play video games it isn't that bad. But if your response to "What do you do for fun?" is "Video games all day erry day" things aren't going to end well.
Eomer
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You can bring it up, but only in passing. "Oh yeah, sometimes I might game a bit when I've got some spare time. Otherwise I like XYZ as well, which coincidentally you are also interested in!" However if you start talking about specific games, your sweet gaming rig, and that time you got a server first in EQ then you've just stigmatized yourself. Like Khane said, video games aren't a problem in and of themselves. But if all you do is play video games in your spare time and you don't have much else for hobbies, don't be surprised when you have a difficult time finding a girl that's going to be in to that.
Basically, if you live your life like the video gaming nerd caricature, don't be surprised when you're treated like one. If all you do is game in your spare time, you damn near can't help turning in to a fucking weirdo. It's all about balance.
BrotherWu
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Pretty normal to live with parents at your age, assuming you are legitimately full time combination of school and employment.
My suggestion:
- School is most important. Focus on it. Do it well. Finish it. Your ability to earn a nice salary is going to be one of the tools you use to dig yourself out of this funk.
- If you don't already, start working out with a serious nutrition program. 3-5 days per week at the gym. If you can't afford a membership, do some research on a no-gym-required routine that involves at least some resistance training. Seriously get after it. If you can't afford supplements, just eat as clean as possible, high protein and veggies, if you don't already. This will help build your confidence.
- If video games is all you do, reduce your time on them and find some new stuff. Hiking. Softball. Coaching. Dog training. Volunteering. Something that interests you and gets you out of the house and into social situations.
I have not played the dating game in a while. I'll let others comment on how to get going on that but my suggestion is to not put the pussy on a pedestal.
My suggestion:
- School is most important. Focus on it. Do it well. Finish it. Your ability to earn a nice salary is going to be one of the tools you use to dig yourself out of this funk.
- If you don't already, start working out with a serious nutrition program. 3-5 days per week at the gym. If you can't afford a membership, do some research on a no-gym-required routine that involves at least some resistance training. Seriously get after it. If you can't afford supplements, just eat as clean as possible, high protein and veggies, if you don't already. This will help build your confidence.
- If video games is all you do, reduce your time on them and find some new stuff. Hiking. Softball. Coaching. Dog training. Volunteering. Something that interests you and gets you out of the house and into social situations.
I have not played the dating game in a while. I'll let others comment on how to get going on that but my suggestion is to not put the pussy on a pedestal.
Khane
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If you want to find a hobby that most anyone can find interesting and women will respond to. Learn how to cook. 99% of the time talking about cooking and what you like to make leads to great conversation in my experience. And if you can make things that people typically only get at restaurants it often legitimately impresses women. And hey, ya gotta eat anyway so it's also a very useful skill to have.