Some people are really good at leading, and some of my friends in that group probably are. The problem I have is that when you have group activities (PnP RPGs, stuff like this, some group online games) and the same people constantly run the show, you aren't really playing the game WITH them as much as you are showing up to help them play the game for themselves.Yeah this my worry as well. You need people to do their jobs but some people just shouldn't be allowed near leadership roles. I'll put my hand up and I'm one of those people. I'll happily man any station on a cap ship knowing that my contributions will lead to victory or defeat but yeah leadership is fucking hard. No thanks.
I'll still say that for MMOs, a single strong leader with everyone falling in behind is preferred. And I'm willing to do that in an MMO, but you need to have the right people or it all falls apart. But with friends I know IRL, it's just 100 times harder. And the weird thing is, I don't necessarily WANT to be in charge, but I at least like being given the opportunity instead of it being assumed that Friend #3 is running the show yet again.