I do not "need money" to watch my kids and I never ever ever set those as the rules. Ever. Tyen owes me and my mom a lot of fucking money. It's annoying he isn't stepping up to pay it. He was actually the one who offered me $100 everytime I watch them 3 days in a row. In classic Tyen fashion he didn't. Back when I was watching them every day he worked I told him we need a new plan because I needed a job and HE TOLD ME he'd pay me $40 a day. I barely have any bills so this totally worked. Then I relapsed. And broke his femur. Shitty timing.
I stayed home and was with them 24/7 for the first three years. I have a problem with alcohol. I'm not sure what all the blame shifting shit is about. I take full responsibility for where I am in my life. It escalated when the youngest was about 4mo old. Not while he was in utero. Fucking dumb ass. I was the one who went to him and my mom and told them I think I have an alcohol problem. I I was the one that for the next year and a half chose to take that first drink. I was the one who decided to switch from beer and wine to vodka when I knew it was a bad idea. I was naive and 22 and thought a baby and a marriage was all I wanted. Wasn't thinking clearly and was lost in an alternate Mormon reality. I didn't think it's fair to have my kids hang out with an alcoholic mother 4 days a week. When I get a few more months of sobriety this will all change, and tyen knows that. The only thing I'm blaming him for is shoving our kids in the middle and painting this picture that they have this super difficult life when they have nothing of the sort...they have a great life, a
Mom, Dad, Step-mom, step-dad and a grandma and grandpa who all love them deeply and see them regularly and want the best for them and do what they can to be excellent caregivers. ...and publicly saying I'm an alcoholic. It's called alcoholics ANONYMOUS for a reason. It's my decision who I tell or don't tell. It's only embarrassing for me when I'm an alcoholic who is drinking. Sober alcoholic is whatever. We all have our problems, mine just so happens to be alcoholism.
Tyen only did this because I told his teenage gf he sends me Dick pix and sexually harasses me every time we're alone together and he knew this would get to me. I actually thought I was doing her a favor because I was once that 21 year old girl who believed his lies. Hindsight: it wasn't my place to step in the middle of their relationship and my partner and I can stand up to that horseshit ourselves. He just pushes buttons for the fun of it. He and C were screaming at each other on my bday last year and tyen later admitted he was just trying to get C to punch him so he could press assault charges. Of course C didn't. Five years of age difference in them. About 30 in maturity levels.
Lately whenever he drops the kids off he asks C all kinds of tech questions and when we get inside C says that tyen has no idea what he's doing or talking about. Or idk why he's doing it that way, people did it that way 10 years ago.
Tyen, your ego is so giant you don't think you have a big ego. You're upset I left you. You're upset I'm sick. "Everyone" who "has to deal with me" is upset I'm sick, too. You're retaliating and trying to publicly humiliate me. How bout you try an al-anon meeting instead? (He's always refused to go, even with my mom) Maybe quit all this horseshit with your exwife and move the fuck on and be an A+ coparent? Maybe get a doc and some meds to help your mania and depression? Just a thought. I understand you are extreamly upset right now. Divorce sucks. In two weeks it will be a year since we broke up though. Try and remember you won't feel this way forever and you having the kids 90% of the time is also not forever. ...and calm the fuck down.
To pull a camerous, the cool thing about this forum and this retarded shit is when I close the tab it all goes away. Idc if people I don't know say I'm a bad mom. I know I'm not.
Peace out.
