Most women don't like hugely muscular freaks anyway. You're doing it to impress the other dudes at the gym and no other real reason at that point.
I think you're 100% right. When I was still teaching I had an "academic body." I wasn't overweight, but I was flabby. No muscle definition. My wife and I had a lot of sex. Now I'm doing more physical things by choice, including some working out. I'm quite defined at this point. 6'2" at 175 and absolutely no pudge anywhere. My wife and I still have a lot of sex. It hasn't changed. Just like her pre-children, pregnant, post-pregnant, and menopausal doesn't change my attraction to her. My wife is happy that I am healthier, and so am I. But if I bulked up with roids or whatever she would be very unimpressed.
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