Aldarion
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I mean, you're using it in a context where it could make sense to have the term used. I am not involved in many domestic abuse situations so I cant speak to how often its used in that context.This isn't was gaslighting is though? Like many things nowadays it's being misused I guess but it'd often be the opposite. Usually it's someone in the wrong applying pressure on the other person to get them to admit/think that they're in the wrong instead, which then would result in the first person being "right". Like "I beat my wife but she's such a bitch she gets on my nerves and I just can't control myself, I'm a totally cool guy otherwise it's just her making me like that" kind of thing. Shit happens a lot in the domestic violence situations and in the bad parents/adult children relationships(also mother-in-law and such).
What I know for damn sure is approximately half the women I know use it on a damn near daily basis anytime they're told theyre in the wrong. As soon as you point out why they're crazy or wrong they say you're gaslighting them.