I really wish The Secret World gave me a reason to play... just anything. I enjoyed the early days just questing. But there is no real progression, no levels, not really anything. And then later you do Nightmare Mode dungeons, get a bunch of purple shit and then that's pretty much it. You are expected to do it again and again for slightly better purple shit, but why? What for? I'm not going to do tedious grinds for no reason.
At least with games like EQ, you would eventually get an expansion that was more or less like a whole new game all over again, and your hard work grinding previously allowed you to just jump in to the new stuff feet first and do whatever you wanted. But in TSW there is just no reason. I would have to grind the NM's for another week or two just to be at the level to raid, but there's only one or two raid encounters anyway, so why bother. And I doubt they will ever expand it much beyond that. Just sad. I enjoyed just questing and the lore but it just feels weird. It reminds me of when you used to download demos of games or get them as a cover disk on a magazine. You would love it but then it would end and you had to wait for the full game to come out. Only with TSW it never will.
For me the biggest problem is that it's really hard to set your own difficulty in these games now.
The mentality of the genre is just boring.
I thought this EXACT same thing just the other day when I played Vanguard! It would be so cool if you could have different servers that had different rule sets that changed things. So you could have one which has really tough mobs that can barely be soloed except maybe by only the most uber people. And maybe make it so they don't leash or something so it's more of a survival experience. Maybe even a permadeath server or something. That way you could have the exact same game but play it how it suits you, and not just have one way that is expected to please everyone. I wish I could enjoy Vanguard, I just love how it looks and it has cool classes, but the game bores the shit out of me. The solo quest grind is horrible at the best of times, and even group bores me probably even more. I wish I hated it so I could ignore it forever but it has a lot going for it.
I pretty much only play League of Legends now. That and HEX alpha. Either probably doesnt' count.
Have you tried DOTA2 or Heroes of Newerth? After playing a lot of HoN I can't really play LoL any more because the graphics are so basic and the gameplay is so much slower. I am totally hooked on HoN, even though it has the worst community of any game you could ever even dream of. And the heroes are not very well balanced either. But it's still very addictive and fun.
DOTA 2 I haven't really played yet. I downloaded it once but it forces you to do a tutorial and I got bored and quit. That was like 8 months ago. I suffer from motivational issues apparently.