Would you ever cheat on your other half?
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Gorehack
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Never thought about having an affair, probably. Never thought about banging the hell out of some big tittied chick you saw while shopping with your wife? Unlikely.
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Is the issue here that people are categorizing desires as cheating? Is looking at porn cheating? If a guys says they don't have eyes for anyone but their wife, I'm calling bullshit.
But to be able to restrain yourself enough not to cheat? That shouldn't be too hard if you actually love your partner and aren't in it for the convenience.
But to be able to restrain yourself enough not to cheat? That shouldn't be too hard if you actually love your partner and aren't in it for the convenience.
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Caeden
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Been cheated on and did cheat on. I would think but never do it again. I felt like shit and it wasn't really worth it. I also didnt enjoy coming clean and asking for forgiveness while being raked over the coals only to be told later "oh yeah, i sucked so and so's cock last year a few times". Outstanding! We're even right? No? I'd rather she fucked the dude with a rubber than swallow his jizz.
In my opinion, all it takes for ANYONE, including women, is the right guy. Same goes for sex on first dates. Unless she's a virgin, they will ALL do it if you push the right buttons
In my opinion, all it takes for ANYONE, including women, is the right guy. Same goes for sex on first dates. Unless she's a virgin, they will ALL do it if you push the right buttons
It really amazes me sometimes the low threshold that it takes women to cheat. You turn some pretty basic switches, and you can get super committed "one man only" chicks to be ready and willing. It is really scary, actually, and once you start seeing it in action, it will make you insecure about whatever relationship you have at the time. As much as guys like to blame genetics/evolution for their propensity for cheating, the same forces mean that women pretty much always have the chance to go for the alpha, despite their rational thought processes.
I would like to think I'd never cheat. I haven't before, and I've had a couple of chicks attempt to seduce me while I've been in relationships. Honestly, I get fairly single-minded when I am in love...I mean, of course I think about banging big-tittied chicks, but acting on fantasies like that is stupid. What I would worry about would be falling out of love after making a commitment. In that case, I might end up cheating. I would like to think that my word is my bond...but if another woman came along that I fell for, and I was just with my wife or long-termer due to comfort or laziness or whatever...well, then I might cheat. I don't know...never really been in that situation, and would hope that I never do get into it.
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Caeden
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^ yup.
I was honestly one of the most trusting guys. My best friend used to go nuts and ask how I could stand it the way the soon to be ex would flirt with every dude in the room. And I was always "Naw man, she's loyal" From what I can tell we made it roughly 4 years before what I suspect was the first time. I ignored it after the blow up and she never was in a similar situation for about 5 more years...year 9 of marriage....holy hell did it go bad. It didn't help she had a best friend that would fuck married guys like nothing and that I watched take two morning after pills myself and heard stories of my wife driving her to get one..at least it had better of been for her. We slowly changed to where I had one set of friends and her another. That was what did it. Then found pics on one of her friend's FB's of the wife at a lingerie type "ball" that I totally misunderstood what was going on there and being fondled by no less than three guys. Yet I stuck it out then blew the fuck up over vaca one time. She decided we were separated despite not telling me the same and proceeded to suck dicks galore. Yay.
On the plus side, her new bf got the same treatment I did too only with me being on the receiving end of oral. Fuck 'em. She spends half the time texting me about missing me despite me now being 400 miles away and I'm not entirely sure that isn't because I have a few degrees and a good job and this guy is "just" a fiber optic installer (which for all I know could be a great fucking job - no insult intended - just relaying her apparent attitude). Its funny because the guy she blew prior to my escapades was some local "mma" dude who's only job was hawking Ed Hardy shit at the local mall and drove a 1991 ford probe yet its painfully obvious that money is important to her.
I was honestly one of the most trusting guys. My best friend used to go nuts and ask how I could stand it the way the soon to be ex would flirt with every dude in the room. And I was always "Naw man, she's loyal" From what I can tell we made it roughly 4 years before what I suspect was the first time. I ignored it after the blow up and she never was in a similar situation for about 5 more years...year 9 of marriage....holy hell did it go bad. It didn't help she had a best friend that would fuck married guys like nothing and that I watched take two morning after pills myself and heard stories of my wife driving her to get one..at least it had better of been for her. We slowly changed to where I had one set of friends and her another. That was what did it. Then found pics on one of her friend's FB's of the wife at a lingerie type "ball" that I totally misunderstood what was going on there and being fondled by no less than three guys. Yet I stuck it out then blew the fuck up over vaca one time. She decided we were separated despite not telling me the same and proceeded to suck dicks galore. Yay.
On the plus side, her new bf got the same treatment I did too only with me being on the receiving end of oral. Fuck 'em. She spends half the time texting me about missing me despite me now being 400 miles away and I'm not entirely sure that isn't because I have a few degrees and a good job and this guy is "just" a fiber optic installer (which for all I know could be a great fucking job - no insult intended - just relaying her apparent attitude). Its funny because the guy she blew prior to my escapades was some local "mma" dude who's only job was hawking Ed Hardy shit at the local mall and drove a 1991 ford probe yet its painfully obvious that money is important to her.
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Yes. A thousand times yes. But learn from my mistakes, guard your phone with your LIFE. Password protect it, have your own plan, get the free app audio manager that hides your pics / texts. Also, don't let her know where you life and never go out anywhere by your house or where your SO hangs out. Also never fuck someone your own age. Either have her be 7 years your junior or senior. The sex is better either way and you wont have the same friends.
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I wouldn't cheat. It's not about opportunity it's about how I view myself as a person. I don't want to be disloyal so I won't be. If meth was offered free on every street corner I still wouldn't do it because I don't want to be a meth addict. That being said, the whole "Monogamy isn't natural argument" really rustles my jimmies. Really? Do you have any idea how many things you do in a day "aren't natural?" Grocery stores aren't natural. Do you feel the unrelenting urge to go out and run down a wildebeest once you've had a few beers? Personally, I think it's bullshit. If you don't want to be with just one person at a time that's fine but take responsibility for it. Don't act like it's just so ingrained in your nature you can't possibly help yourself.
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Confirmed no opportunities.
You're ignoring that we have hardwired biological reproductive strategies that create predictable responses to monogamous relationships. Women are coded to have the best provider/protector for themselves and their offspring. This is why when a long term relationship is stale they are so easily swept off their feet by a male who is still trying hard to present himself as a prize. Versus the guy at home who has given up and gotten comfortable. All the bells go off in their heads when they meet someone new and biology overrides social constructs.
Similarly, as males we feel the need to spread as much seed as possible to diversify and propagate our species. Hence players, dogs, "cheaters", etc
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Never have, never will. I know how horrendous it feels when someone you love has an affair (even just a one-night stand) and I couldn't put someone else through the pain and doubt and loneliness that creates, let along the mental scars that can stay with you!
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I remember seeing a documentary about who cheats more men or women.
I remember them saying in the 70's and 80's.. Men were more likely to cheat than women and comparing it today 85% of women cheat and 25% of men.
And the reason they gave was this exact thing. Women rationalize it better as well as women are more likely to cheat out of spite than anything else.
I wish I could find that damn documentary.