Being an adult sucks

Noodlemod_sl said:

I only got to play 2 video games the entire month of paid paternity leave I got

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Woah, you got to play 2 games as a parent? That's amazing.

Noodlemod_sl said:

I only got to play 2 video games the entire month of paid paternity leave I got

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Wow you got a month off paid as the father? When my kid is born I have 2 choices, use my vacation, or take unpaid FMLA. I work for a huge worldwide corporation with otherwise great benefits, so I was pretty damn shocked when I learned this.

Izo_sl said:

Woah, you got to play 2 games as a parent? That's amazing.

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I have around 700 million credits in assets in Elite Dangerous as well as third highest ranks in exploration, combat and trading, and my daughter was born a week after it came out. I also didn't have paid paternity leave yet. Did however have paid vacation until January 12th

Quineloe_sl said:

I have around 700 million credits in assets in Elite Dangerous as well as third highest ranks in exploration, combat and trading, and my daughter was born a week after it came out. I also didn't have paid paternity leave yet. Did however have paid vacation until January 12th

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So you are missing out on the first weeks of your child's life so you can play a video game? Fantastic. You probably won't regret that at all.

lurkingdirk_sl said:

It's not. And you'll never understand how parents can bitch and moan about having kids while being incredibly happy to be parents and loving kids more than you thought possible until you have your own. I'm not trying to be condescending, or anything of the sort. This is simply something that you need to experience to fully understand and appreciate.

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We like what we like. Truisms all around.

Arakkis_sl said:

So you are missing out on the first weeks of your child's life so you can play a video game? Fantastic. You probably won't regret that at all.

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She sleeps a lot. Like 8pm to bed and I can play for the rest of the evening a lot. I don't get the whole "piss and moan" part lurkingdirk is going on about.

There are life altering events. Yeah some folks won't be impacted as much as others, but when certain things happen life fucking changes.
Just a few I can think of.

First kiss.
First blowjob
First fuck
Graduation
First time you truly realize you are gonna die someday.
Having someone you truly care about die.
Parent death
First Pet death
I am sure there are a bunch of others for folks, those are the majors for me. Does that make me an adult? I think the one that truly made me an adult was realizing just how easy it would be to die. Then thinking back to my BMX Bike days and saying to my self.... Fuck, I am an idiot.

Dudebro_sl said:

Wow you got a month off paid as the father? When my kid is born I have 2 choices, use my vacation, or take unpaid FMLA. I work for a huge worldwide corporation with otherwise great benefits, so I was pretty damn shocked when I learned this.

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Yeah man. I work for a great company. Actually January of this year they announced the new parental leave policy, 4 weeks paid time off for each kid (one per year) so I really lucked out. They take care of us very well and I love my job, nothing but support the whole pregnancy. Even sent my wife flowers to the hospital from the team. It may not be as posh as Google, but I can't complain.

Kids do sound terrible, and I respect anyone's choices, but in between the 330 AM explosive diarrhea shooting across the room during a diaper change you'll see the kid smiling and know everything is going to be alright.

I'm the first and possibly only person in my family to have a kid, so it was really important for me to continue the name.

Do I envy people without kids now? Fuck yes. Oh fuck yes. My brother and his fiance are buying a condo with a $500 mortgage and will have such an excess of funds they literally can do anything they want. I Have to plan my finances down to the penny even though I make a shit load more than them. I'm also attached to a person now. I can't just leave work and go out to eat or see a movie, I'm responsible for another human.

Maybe it sounds shitty to some from the outside, but I'm excited to raise the little man.

Here you can get up to 12 paid months off as one parent, or 13 with both doing at least 2 months.

Quineloe_sl said:

Here you can get up to 12 paid months off as one parent, or 13 with both doing at least 2 months.

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Be a whining, entitled, useless meat-sack ("oh poor me" minority or illegal immigrant) and you can get 18 years paid time off from the Taxpayers, for each kid!

Anyway; being an adult is bitter-sweet. Can do anything I want. Have my own house. My own cars. If I want something, I get it - no credit cards; don't fall into this trap people. Debt is bad. But, I am responsible for other people who work for, or with me. And, like many others have stated already; losing loved ones is painful. As a kid, you never consider those things.

If I could stop at the mid 30's, that would be ideal. Shit, wish vampires were real....

Fuck, most mothers in America don't even get paid maternity leave, let alone fathers

Yep my wife got nothing besides standard FMLA, and she works for the post office. It's a really shitty deal in America.