Depression
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Koushirou
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Sadly, the LGS near here just isn't good. Small place, not much variety and honestly the people sucked. Used to play Magic there once or twice a week, but finding decent people to play with was basically impossible. Either no one wanted to play with us or the people we got stuck with were low-functioning autists, pubstompers or trannies or some combination thereof. So yeah, haven't been back there in a while. I don't really do much painting, anyway, just the occasional mini here and there if I feel inspired. I mostly do model kit building and try to do some detail painting on top of that.
I'm already balls deep back into EQ TLPs, and MMOs are what I enjoy the most with my time. Playing with some of the board folks already doing that. Pretty much takes up most of my free time, already, but I'm having a lot of fun.
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Koushirou
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I wish I got to spend more time with my parents, but that's a whole nother problem in general. Compared to my brother, I've always felt like an afterthought to them, even though they're more than happy to throw financial support at me if I need it (I refuse to ever ask for it). They'll never drive up to visit me, just to go visit my brother. Luckily I'm directly on the way, so I can at least sometimes get a nice 15min Dunkin Donuts run with them or sometimes a dinner on their way before they go stay with my brother and his family. Even now, knowing how much trouble I'm having going through the divorce and feeling like shit, etc. most I got was still just a quick dinner at McDonalds to talk to them and spend time with them. Vacations have always bugged the shit out of me, too. They know I don't make nearly as much money as my brother and am pretty much just stable and slightly comfortable, but that's it. And yet all they plan is expensive shit like cruises or Disney trips, etc. and then sure enough when they'd invite me, I'd have to decline because I can't afford that shit. Eventually, they just stopped inviting me altogether. Not sure why they couldn't ever suggest something small to do as a family that we could have been included in. Pretty much the only time I get to spend with them now is Thanksgiving and a little at New Years.Yes and no. If you have no life anyways, a good old fashioned MMORPG addiction can absolutely be a good thing. If you are super into it and forget a few thousand calories a day it can even double as a diet.
Koushirou you may want to look into finding hobby/religion/activity clubs in your area if the existential loneliness thing ends up getting to be too stronk. If you have a good relationship with your parents or anyone else in your family it may even be worth moving back in that direction. My parents just moved back to this area, and getting to spend time with my dad again has been pretty damn nice. He is 76, so I am trying my best to do stuff with him while I can.
If I do end up having to sell my house because of the divorce/refinancing/etc. figure I would probably move closer to them, because I don't know where else to go and it's not like I go see my brother at all anyway despite being close. Would they actually spend more time with me if I did? Dunno, maybe. Something to think about, I guess. Heh, would put me closer to someone else I enjoy spending time with, though...
moonarchia
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Have you actually had those conversations with them? The feeling of unequal treatment and being left out of vacations because of $$$? I would imagine if you just told them earnestly that you want to spend more time with them they would be willing to change things up. Ask them to stay overnight and do something with you when they go see your brother?
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Koushirou
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Me having that conversation is what stopped them from inviting me. They also won't stay overnight with me when they have a whole bedroom of their own at my brother's place and won't sleep in anything smaller than a king bed (which husband and I didn't even have for us, much less guests). I guess I could try talking to them about it, again. You know, when they get back from Hawaii with my brother's family.
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moonarchia
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Just double checking. You would be surprised how many families don't talk that kind of thing out and just let things fester forever. If you still feel left out, ask them why they can't book a hotel in your town with a king bed for a day or three (offer to cover it or help?) and spend some time together? Could you tag along with them next time they go see your brother for a few days? Now that your husband isn't in the picture you have more flexibility to just up and do things again.
Make friends if you can. Hobby groups? Book clubs? There are always people out there. If people aren't your thing volunteer (more?) at your local animal shelters?
Depression likes to take root in the ruts our lives tend to lead us into. You made one big change, so why not take another?
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Borzak
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I'll probably get shit on. Try a church, maybe one that is more conservative than some "new age' churches but that's just me. I'm not one to talk to most people and my job never required it. Maybe take in a ball game. Like a baseball game. I met more people who are just talking about anything and everything in a pretty relaxexd atmosphere at college baseball games. Also the tail gating and food was great and a good place to meet people at them. Will vary wildly by location.