Girls who broke your heart thread

Tarrant · Oct 4, 2009

Dabamf said:
She picked some guy really far away over you. Even if she breaks up and wants to get back with you, you are #2 to a long distance relationship. She will just move on to some other guy once he comes along. After all that time, choosing the other guy was the nail in the coffin in my opinion. You"re just in for more pain if you try for it again.

edit: something is missing because you"re not in a close relationship w/ someone you really like. It"s not *her* that"s missing, it"s that role. And you can find it in someone else, perhaps better, but not if you keep holding out hope for a girl who now rejected you twice and is trying to mold you into comfort friend role.

Tenks, I"m curious how the weekend turned out w/ 3 first dates in a row..

She didn"t choose him over me, we broke up, a month later she started seeing someone else. People see others after they break up with them and I"m not holding out on her, I"m out there, I"m seeing other people and I am open to someone filling that roll eventually.

I"m not dropping anything to go back to her should she come around, what I feel for her isn"t on the same level it was before, I still care for her and yeah but its not the head over heels shit it was before. To much has changed and happened for that. Should she ever be interested int hings, if I have a good thing with someone else, tough shit to her. I"ve been in that situation before so I know that that"s how I would handle it. My ex wife at one point wanted to work things out with me, I still loved the shit out of her and I walked away from it, same goes for this.

If I"m in for more pain we"ll deal with that when it comes time for it, but I"m pretty sure if things went south again I could just detach myself enough from it after a second crash and burn to say fuck it.

For now, I"m enjoying things though, her and I are friends and that"s fine. These couple girls I"m dating are cool and ones pretty damn hot (I think anyways) so I"ll continue with that. I have another prospect this week as well that shows promise. I"m more worried about those then my ex, like I said, I"m enjoying life.

Tenks · Oct 4, 2009

Honestly you"re kinda sounding like Brad. "Oh I don"t care about my ex I"m enjoying life" followed by pages about your ex. I"m not buying into the fact you"re only attached by a thread I think you miss her horribly.

kegkilla · Oct 4, 2009

arkk123 said:
keg that website that pic from is gold, i didnt even know it existed. heres one i came across. tribute to the thread...

yea that site is pretty money

wtf is with PoF not allowing shirtless pics? that is unfair to the 2% of users on that site who aren"t fat disgusting freaks.

some chick messaged me within 15 minutes of eing on there... is that a common occurance? she was nothing special but seemed nice, id prob be down to fuck her.

Aulirophile_foh · Oct 4, 2009

Tenks said:
Honestly you"re kinda sounding like Brad. "Oh I don"t care about my ex I"m enjoying life" followed by pages about your ex. I"m not buying into the fact you"re only attached by a thread I think you miss her horribly.

Well, this is the "Girls who Broke your Heart Thread" he"s talking about the girl who broke his part, just updating us every time something happens between them. But it has been... what? Three weeks between posts? He obviously isn"t dwelling on it to much. And hell, he"s dating. I went 6-12 months before dating anyone after my bad break-ups.

Tarrant · Oct 4, 2009

Tenks said:
Honestly you"re kinda sounding like Brad. "Oh I don"t care about my ex I"m enjoying life" followed by pages about your ex. I"m not buying into the fact you"re only attached by a thread I think you miss her horribly.

-shrugs- If I don"t talk to her for another 3 or 4 weeks I"m fine with it lol

she just called me actually asking if I wanted to do something on my day off, I told her no. If I was overly attached I would have said hell yea. As it stands I"m probably going out with someone else that night.

Tarrant · Oct 4, 2009

Aulirophile said:
Well, this is the "Girls who Broke your Heart Thread" he"s talking about the girl who broke his part, just updating us every time something happens between them. But it has been... what? Three weeks between posts? He obviously isn"t dwelling on it to much. And hell, he"s dating. I went 6-12 months before dating anyone after my bad break-ups.

This.

I"m not some internet tough guy, I"ve been pretty open and upfront about shit, I"m not about to do otherwise at this point.

brekk · Oct 4, 2009

kegkilla said:
some chick messaged me within 15 minutes of eing on there... is that a common occurance? she was nothing special but seemed nice, id prob be down to fuck her.

Yes, you can sort searches by "who"s new" so when you first join you are bombarded by people looking to snag the "virgin" meat.

And yes if you lower you standards a bit you can easily snag a chick who will be down for banging really quickly. I had one girl I had been IM"ing here and there while I was dating WASD girl. She came home from Dave and Busters one night and tried to turn me into a booty call at like 2am, we had not met in person yet. I turned her down as I thought that was pretty damn sketchy.

Dabamf_sl · Oct 4, 2009

I hate when people pull that "this is the girls that broke your heart thread" line. It"s not, and it hasn"t been that for like a year. It"s the all things fucking & dating thread. Aychamo spawned the preposterous idea of crying your heart out to a bunch of strangers about some bitch you aren"t good enough for, others turned it into an actually useful and helpful thread to help people with women.

I wouldn"t go lumping tarrant in with brad, but there may be some loose similarities in this situation. She DID choose the other guy over you. Not when she first dated him, but when she started seeing you again and you had your little emotional affair for 2-3 weeks or whatever. She was obviously considering getting back with you, despite seeing the other guy, and ultimately decided against it. She wasn"t closed to the idea from the getgo because she was seeing someone else...that would not qualify. But since she considered you and ultimately chose the other guy, she DID choose him over you.

Here"s a little question, I"m not trying to bait or trap you with it. You turn down her offer, which is good, but did you WANT to accept it over whatever other plans you had? If yes, then hanging around this chick, no matter how infrequent, is only harming your ability to move on and find a healthy relationship. If the answer is no, then you"re good.

Tenks said:
Saturday. Got canceled. Won"t call again, no whore cancels on me.

i lol"d

Which reminds me I need to remember to call or text to girl from Friday. She is in class Monday night but I didn"t contact her at all this weekend and I need to make sure she knows I"m interested. My only worry is that the girl from Friday I believe is fairly active in her church. Didn"t exactly strike me as religious nutjob but my extreme disgust for organized religion may play in. Then again my brother"s wife is fairly religious and him and her get along all right.

I have some mental thing where if I"m interested in a girl and she tells me she"s religious its like telling me she used to do porn or something. My interest in something long-term immediately crumbles. Once someone demonstrates a capacity to suspend reason, I feel like I"ll inevitably encounter that same capacity in other areas of life. Queue religious debate...

Alcestis_foh · Oct 4, 2009

Tarrant said:
She didn"t choose him over me, we broke up, a month later she started seeing someone else.

If you really believe that it took her a mere month to get over you and your extended relationship, instead of the likelihood that she"d known about this guy and pondered on how she"d rather be with him long before the break-up... well, okay. *shrug*

I"m all for mental/written repetition of something you may not truly believe to get over someone, which is what this eerily sounds like, despite you saying so. I"m with Tenks. You say you could detach yourself enough after a second crash and burn to say "fuck it""? As far as I can tell, you haven"t even detached yourself from thefirstone. You even fell on the curb (and it hurt apparantly), yet you took the time to note down every reaction of hers: "kissing the top of my head, rubbing her fingers through my hair asking if I was okay". I"d never accept such intimate physical contact from someone who is supposed to be in a long-term relationship, but that"s me and my bias. There was no reason for her and her kid to stay over (or merely even GO) to your house for after what"s supposed to be a casual lunch. Before you explain it away - I"m certainly not a heartless bitch to send out a kid out there wearing shit all over his pants: washing the clothes was necessary. But they should"ve been out immediately after completion, not just lingered around for "a few hours". Is your washer and dryer from the 70s? And there"s no reason you shouldn"t have said anything but "It"s none of your business, sorry" after she stuck her nose into something that hasnothing whatsoeverto do with her, instead of you offering a coy, "oh she"s a friend tee hee".

You"rebarelysteering clear of the "boyfriend" role from what I"m reading, and you"re rushing headlong into the "father of a child that isn"t mine where the mother isn"t really interested in me" one instead. You were passed over for an out-of-state guy who would"ve cheated on her given an opportunity (and is probably doing so: let"s not gloss over probabilities here) - whom she stupidlyforgave. She"d rather be with a guy like that and be "lonely" than be with you. How on earth can you rationalize this, Tarrant? How can you agree to her thinly veiled "please somebody, anybody, spend time with me" lunch date? And she just called you, scant hours after showering more attention on her, for another go? I have a sneaking suspicion that if you didn"t have plans, you would"ve said "yes". That makes what you"re doing unhealthy... for you both.

Tarrant · Oct 4, 2009

Dabamf said:
I wouldn"t go lumping tarrant in with brad, but there may be some loose similarities in this situation. She DID choose the other guy over you. Not when she first dated him, but when she started seeing you again and you had your little emotional affair for 2-3 weeks or whatever. She was obviously considering getting back with you, despite seeing the other guy, and ultimately decided against it. She wasn"t closed to the idea from the getgo because she was seeing someone else...that would not qualify. But since she considered you and ultimately chose the other guy, she DID choose him over you.

Here"s a little question, I"m not trying to bait or trap you with it. You turn down her offer, which is good, but did you WANT to accept it over whatever other plans you had? If yes, then hanging around this chick, no matter how infrequent, is only harming your ability to move on and find a healthy relationship. If the answer is no, then you"re good.

True enough, I see your point on the first part, I still see it as the situation was still to shitty to get into and she moved on, which I don"t blame her for ultimately, I would have too, I was a pretty big douche for awhile...but I do see what you mean. However she was already seeing the other guy when she considered going back to me, so the end of your statement is more correct then the first part, but again, I"m not closed minded to it and I realize what you"re saying.

As for did I want to accept her offer even though I had plans the answer is no, otherwise I would have canceled on this girl like I would have done almost 3 months ago. Short of my ex telling me she would pleasure me like never before while slipping a hundo into my wallet afterward the plans I have weren"t getting canceled.

Tarrant · Oct 4, 2009

Alcestis said:
yet you took the time to note down every reaction of hers: "kissing the top of my head, rubbing her fingers through my hair asking if I was okay".

............How on earth can you rationalize this, Tarrant?

I noted it because to me, it felt odd, not because I was like "oh noz Im falling for you againz" yeah like I said, I have lingering feelings for her, but I do for my ex wife too...doesn"t mean I would grab her from the path of a speeding car. -shrugs-

and yes, my washer and dryer is indeed from the 70"s rofl, laundry is included in rent so I"m not bitching about it.

as far as rationalizing it, you"re right, there is no real rationalization for it when you speak of it in the light you did, she was retarded with her decisions and I was/am forgiving of them. That"s one of the reasons I"m not overly worried about the situation in general and have moved onto other things. in all seriousness and believe me or not, if she asked me right now to get back together i wouldn"t and I"m honestly wouldn"t be willing to do so unless I was completely unattached from anyone else and I was without a shadow of a doubt sure she had her shit together.

And even then, I"m not 100% sure, the more I think about the more I do realize she made some stupid decisions that I"m better deserving of, on top of that I hadn"t even thought of her much in the last few weeks and tomorrow I"ll go back to not thinking about her just like I was before.

Arkk · Oct 4, 2009

Alcestis said:
bla bla bla

pm me a picture of your tits....errr i mean cock

Eomer · Oct 4, 2009

You know, I reflexively duck and await ban hammers being swung around now. I"m scarred for life.

Zehnpai · Oct 4, 2009

Eomer said:
You know, I reflexively duck and await ban hammers being swung around now. I"m scarred for life.

~You"re~ scarred? I got banned 3 times and each time had a chick with even bigger balls go to bat for me or otherwise all eight grand and change of my posts would belong to the Samus Aran account. I can"t take a piss in the morning without checking behind my shower curtain first to make sure he"s not waiting there with an axe and rubber cement.

I just want to thank you guys for this thread. Sometimes I even print out your stories and read them out loud while jerking off and crying. Some day Sandra Bullock will realize we were meant to be together and start returning my phone calls. Until then I shall continue to live a romantic life vicariously through the countless trainwrecks this thread has treated us all with over the last 168 pages.

A salute to you my dear FoHers. May you never find happiness in the arms of a woman because then this thread would be boring as shit.

Badabidi_sl · Oct 4, 2009

You"re Samus Aran? I thought that was a chick

Zehnpai · Oct 4, 2009

Lost Ranger_sl · Oct 4, 2009

You"re in the section where someone managed to fuck up counting to six. Don"t be too hard on them. They try.

Badabidi_sl · Oct 4, 2009

I thought Samus stomped out of here when Brittney was banned, and that you were a dude. Shrug, I don"t keep tabs on everyone"s board aliases. Explains a lot in regard to Millie hating you, though. Hahaha

Soygen · Oct 5, 2009

All the post histories on the deleted accounts got turned into posts "from" the Samus account. That is what he is talking about.

lost · Oct 5, 2009

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