DisgruntledOrangatang said:
My philosophy has always been do what I can, but if the girl won"t tell me her preferences when I ask, and I can"t figure it out on my own, fuck it. Don"t rack your brain about it. She"s an Asian chick? Good luck getting past the 5 million mental barriers preventing her from just letting go completely and shutting off her mind. The only actual "technique" I consciously know is keep a steady rythm, knowing that any adjustment kinda starts her over, and maintain a dominating presence (ie don"t start seizing on top of her, keep control). Other than that, which is nothing, I don"t really know what the fuck I"m doing a majority of the time. It either happens or it doesn"t, if it doesn"t I"ll prod a little for preferences. If she doesn"t spill any info, I give up. I"ve been lucky I guess that the only 2 relationships that were 3+ months that I"ve had have been with girls that are easy to please. The downside is neither liked oral so in that department I"m 100% clueless. I"m gonna be like 30 with a chick one day and almost no experience with that.
It"s as much her responsibility to ensure she has an orgasm as it is yours. You could be 100% on and she is the reason it doesn"t happen. IMO do what you can, and not worry about the rest. You can pm me in specific about asian chicks (though I probably know less than you) and I"ll help with what I can, but again I don"t truly know what I"m doing, and I"m not gonna shit up the thread with crib notes.
Apartments, 2nd boyfriends, and black men:
I met DG last night after work and we went to her apartment. She didn"t want to go once again, multiple times said to go to mine, but I persisted. It felt stupid and I really didn"t handle it well, not being in any way assertive, just persistent, but it worked eventually, and I stayed the night. No kids or family to be seen, but I did see one of the black guys" 10 inchers sticking out from behind a box. He wasn"t a good hider. Just a slightly messy place packed full of her work supplies. And later in the night we"re layin in the bed she"s in a pretty ecstatic mood and mentioned she was glad I came over. HEY WHAT A SHOCKER you let down your pointless guard and nothing terrible happens for no reason? She also explained her
realreasoning for not wanting me to come over...only it was all quickly spoken in Korean so I have no idea what the fuck she said. Haha, that"s all I can really expect really when our communication ability is shitty. I sometimes think what a preposterous relationship when our conversation can break down at "why did you move to Seoul from Busan?" She"s been waiting for like 2 weeks for me to buy her the english book I said I"d buy. I fail pretty hard in some ways as well.
P.S.
kasey said:
At this point i was reading interested but then
i was irritated.
I probably wasn"t clear. I meant that
she actedas if all was suddenly well, and that was confusing to me.
P.P.S. Well played brad