Girls who broke your heart thread

Eomer said:

As it turns out I"m probably not gonna be in town on the actual day, which alone takes pressure off. We"ll probably do something on the usual Monday, if she"s around. It"s a holiday that day as well, maybe go skating and cook at my place. To be honest I"ll probably get her to cook, since I"m mediocre at best and she enjoys cooking anyway. Cooking for someone as a guy is something you do for a girlfriend, not someone you"re just starting to date. In my opinion. But girls will cook for the sake of it.

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Will you be in town for Saturday? Aim for saturday, and get her a small box of chocolates. Doing something the day after the holiday is about as good as forgetting about it (or avoiding it). Not to mention that she might want to be with her family ON FAMILY DAY.

You"ve had a bunch of dates with her; certainly more than enough to not ignore the holiday. Don"t blow it.

edit: Also, don"t GET her to cook. Maybe invite her to HELP you cook which will inevitably lead to her doing most of the cooking and you helping out. But at least make it seem like you genuinely wanted to do most of the work.

Eomer said:

I refuse. She doesn"t have to learn how to unplug toilets, kill bugs, do random carpentry, lift heavy objects or open jars. I don"t have to learn how to cook well.

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Fail.

1. get plan b
2. crush
3. cook a special after coitus dinner
4. rawdog it with no worries of babies

apparently plan b does not work preemptively. Sigh

Eomer said:

Not to mention your snowballing habit. /rimshot

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I see what you did there.

TheCutlery said:

You"re always gonna have fights. Anyone who tells you their relationship is 100% solid and they never fight is full of shit. I"ve also never claimed as much. You have 2 different people with 2 different viewpoints on shit and you"re gonna have disagreements about how shit should be handled. Reason I bring that up is that it seems to be a common occurrence amongst my married friends too. "Helping out around the house" means working 40+ hours a week, doing all the preconceived male chores, and then doing half of the female shit too while they sit on their fucking ass or sleep all day.

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Yeah, being a one income family; I nipped that shit in the bud the minute she asked for it.

Hell, I barely have to do the preconceived male chores.

Chu said:

edit: Also, don"t GET her to cook. Maybe invite her to HELP you cook which will inevitably lead to her doing most of the cooking and you helping out. But at least make it seem like you genuinely wanted to do most of the work.

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Yeah, I"m thinking I"ll just suggest we hang out at my place and cook a meal together. I"ve got a cookbook that has a bunch of easy to make but still pretty good meals. We can just pick something out of that and cook it together (I drink beer while she cooks).

Haven"t tried contacting her since our date last Monday. We"ve gone out three times now, and up to this point I"ve been the one who has been getting in touch with her, as it should be initially I guess. But you"d think by now she"d blink and call or message, although she is super busy so I guess that"s a valid enough reason.

Eomer said:

Yeah, I"m thinking I"ll just suggest we hang out at my place and cook a meal together. I"ve got a cookbook that has a bunch of easy to make but still pretty good meals. We can just pick something out of that and cook it together (I drink beer while she cooks).

Haven"t tried contacting her since our date last Monday. We"ve gone out three times now, and up to this point I"ve been the one who has been getting in touch with her, as it should be initially I guess. But you"d think by now she"d blink and call or message, although she is super busy so I guess that"s a valid enough reason.

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In my experience women go to the "contact every day" status very quickly if they are into you. If they don"t its a sure sign that they just aren"t that interested. No matter how busy someone is it only takes 2 minutes to send an SMS or email.

Lusiphur said:

In my experience women go to the "contact every day" status very quickly if they are into you. If they don"t its a sure sign that they just aren"t that interested. No matter how busy someone is it only takes 2 minutes to send an SMS or email.

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Disagree massively. I disagree for many reasons, actually. Firstly girls love being chased. During the first few encounters they"ll love it when you"re the one messaging her. Secondly any sane girl knows the rules. She knows if she is sending you an SMS daily after the first few encounters she will, just as you would, look desperate. Girls play it cool just as well as guys do.

Tenks said:

Disagree massively. I disagree for many reasons, actually. Firstly girls love being chased. During the first few encounters they"ll love it when you"re the one messaging her. Secondly any sane girl knows the rules. She knows if she is sending you an SMS daily after the first few encounters she will, just as you would, look desperate. Girls play it cool just as well as guys do.

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Yeah that"s where I"m at. If she wasn"t interested she wouldn"t make time for me. Again, she works fulltime in a fairly high-pressure job working for the cabinet of the provincial government which just went through a shuffle and is also finishing up the last term of her MBA three nights a week, along with everything else that goes in to living. If I wasn"t interested in someone and literally could only sync my schedule once a week or two with theirs, I wouldn"t bother. Why would she?

Needless said:

I was talking to my GF today, Apologize - One republic and Timbaland came up.

Shes all "I liked that song before Timbaland brought in his EEEEEYUHS"

That is when i realized im dating a hipster, how should i dispose of her corpse?

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Lots of Arby Q and one of these-

quick snipit. met a girl last weekend at a dinner party, we hit it off, great convo, we get good and drunk, head back to her place late night, think we might have made out can"t really remember, but we end up just passing out in her bed.

nothing awkward in the morning, she"s a cool chick so I invite her over to our superbowl party later that evening, she comes over with some friends and has a good time. shoot her a text on monday and line up dinner at a nice sushi place tonight.

question is..there"s a good chance we"re probably going to want to go to either house afterwards and do whatever. I could definitely see myself getting to know this chick better and I"d like to try a different angle for once instead of going home and banging it out on the first night and keep her on her toes if you will. I do have to work early tomorrow so I wanted to pull that card if she asked me to come back or hangout at my place, girls want what they can"t have right? The same exact thing happened two months ago with another girl I met and that shit fizzled out quicker than Grobbee going down on his gf and recouping his little soldiers.

I already committed to a "sorority mixer" with her this Friday night so I"m going to see her again soon. I"m just curious to try a different angle this time around and make the girl do all the "thinking" for once instead of me.

wadda ya think?

The last girl fizzled because you fucked her immediately or because you tried to hold off and build anticipation?

I think denying her with a real/responsible reason like early work can amplify a girl"s attraction because almost no guy will turn down even the slightest chance of sex for any reason. It"s a DHV in and of itself...and yea it kinda fucks with her head too if you"re into that manipulation.

Sounds like a good call. You gotta show you"re into her though before or after you deny her, or she might actually think it"s an outright rejection.

fizzled out because of the first night bang..nothing really to look forward to after that....and she was a snobby bitch so that didn"t help.

yea I plan on wooing her over at dinner and drinks then pulling the "head on home" card