Girls who broke your heart thread
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owakefka said:
Thats not special. Every woman is attracted to guys who ignore her. Oh wait, its better the other way around: They are not interested in guys that show interest just like that. Prolly thats where you fucked up.owakefka said:
She knows that you want her and you are in her friends zone. Life is terrible, and now look for another girl because you will not get her like that. Enjoy life, have a cool life that she wants to be a part of (!) and have other girls around you to make her jealous. Maybe at some point you get lucky.
Yes.Shabado said:
Yes.findar said:
Yes.Inconsiderable said:
Just fuck it, don"t run after her. It might suck at first but once you find a worthwhile substitute you won"t think twice about her.
She sounds like a nut if she"d get annoyed over her boyfriend not converting to Islam, or any religion for that matter. You chose well by going to a Mimiron raid over going out with her. As for everything else lmao
you think this girl is perfect because you"re infatuated with her.
you think she"s extra perfect because you"re infatuated with her and she shows no interest. (she likes the guy who ignores her.. you"re in the same situation).
the "convert to islam" bit set off "retard" flags for me, but if that doesn"t faze you I suppose it doesn"t matter.
wake up brah. if you"re going to med school, you"ll find at least a few more "perfect" women, so next time, don"t fuck up. play it cool and be a bit more independent and self-driven. a woman wants to work at it and earn your affection. if you just throw ALL of it at her 100% at the start, she loses interest. it works the exact same way for a dude.
bottom line: I don"t think it"s EVER in your favor for a girl to know you"re 100% into them. and once they know you ARE 100% into them, it"s hard as hell to repair the damage. It"s not even worth trying. in your case, the damage is done, move on!
you think she"s extra perfect because you"re infatuated with her and she shows no interest. (she likes the guy who ignores her.. you"re in the same situation).
the "convert to islam" bit set off "retard" flags for me, but if that doesn"t faze you I suppose it doesn"t matter.
wake up brah. if you"re going to med school, you"ll find at least a few more "perfect" women, so next time, don"t fuck up. play it cool and be a bit more independent and self-driven. a woman wants to work at it and earn your affection. if you just throw ALL of it at her 100% at the start, she loses interest. it works the exact same way for a dude.
bottom line: I don"t think it"s EVER in your favor for a girl to know you"re 100% into them. and once they know you ARE 100% into them, it"s hard as hell to repair the damage. It"s not even worth trying. in your case, the damage is done, move on!
Jihad Jane or someshit! Yeah jebus raiding verse that shit! No sticking the pole in the crazy hole. No mas!Badabidi said:
She has no interest in you at all. She doesn"t even view you as having a penis. The reason she dates dudes who ignore her is because she"s an immature cunt who has no desire for a meaningful relationship. Nothing is going to happen here except you wasting more of your life thinking this "perfect" girl will want to marry you.
Protip: A girl cannot be perfect for you if she sees you as eunuch.
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Lol I actually read the entire thing. It was so boring it took me like 10 attempts. God damn you"re also planning on white knighting her in 3 years? Seriously? Fucking serious? Lmao she"s going to be all "OMG! I married an asshole I was attracted to physically and he kept me interested with his aloof personality but I"ve changed my ways and want to marry your boring ugly ass! We"re perfect together I was so blind! Now put on this fucking robe and ride a camel cause you"re Islamic now! I know you"ll convert since I have you in the palm of my hand and anytime my jerk (tee hee) boyfriend "breaks up" with me I can always count on your sad lonely WoW raiding ass to coddle me and fulfill my nutty emotional needs. I will forever live in mediocrity and without passion but at least I took the safe bet! Nothing more fun than walking into Vegas with $500, betting nothing, and leaving with $500. You"re my $500 chip, babe, and I"ll never bet you!"
Protip: A girl cannot be perfect for you if she sees you as eunuch.
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Lol I actually read the entire thing. It was so boring it took me like 10 attempts. God damn you"re also planning on white knighting her in 3 years? Seriously? Fucking serious? Lmao she"s going to be all "OMG! I married an asshole I was attracted to physically and he kept me interested with his aloof personality but I"ve changed my ways and want to marry your boring ugly ass! We"re perfect together I was so blind! Now put on this fucking robe and ride a camel cause you"re Islamic now! I know you"ll convert since I have you in the palm of my hand and anytime my jerk (tee hee) boyfriend "breaks up" with me I can always count on your sad lonely WoW raiding ass to coddle me and fulfill my nutty emotional needs. I will forever live in mediocrity and without passion but at least I took the safe bet! Nothing more fun than walking into Vegas with $500, betting nothing, and leaving with $500. You"re my $500 chip, babe, and I"ll never bet you!"
From a logical point of view, you contradicted yourself (in describing her strengths+flaws) several times in those paragraphs alone. Not to mention the fact that you don"t seem to be Islamic, and from what you said that seems to be a pretty big deal breaker for her - maybe not for dating; but I would assume for the person she wants to raise her children, which is your main interest in her (or so you think, I still would be willing to wager it"s the fact you thought you would have won her with your "trying harder than you ever had before" and the fact you came up empty is hard to accept, no one likes to think their best wasn"t good enough).owakefka said:
If your statement about summing up relationships when you first meet girls is true: then every good and negative thing you said about her is moot. You decided you wanted this girl from the very beginning and the fact that you can"t have her just makes you want her more. Before you even think about following any advice at all, it would probably be wise to spend some time reflecting on the possibility that a lot of the things you see in her are being projected onto her as a result of "finally finding the girl you know you want to be with". Pro tip- if you have even a slight hunch this might be the case, then it is. Hormones and the lack of being able to view things objectively are making it hard for you to accept.
Assuming this isn"t just one of your first experiences having a crush on someone. You pretty much answered your own question, as a comment in passing that you later ignored.
"what happens happens in life"
If you really do value her friendship but would be open to something more, just let her know that in a non pushy and non desperate type of way. If she is a good a friend as you say she is, she will let you know if she would be open to something more based on your personality/physical appearance if you are both at the point of your life where it is would work for you both. Assuming she is, stop contacting her until things cool down for her in your mind. Live your life until she is an after thought (make sure to actually get a different partner in this time, if you don"t you are not being fair to yourself, being with someone else is a good way to make sure your desire is somewhat logical and not completely emotional), and if at that point you still feel the same way about occasionally drop her a line to see how she"s doing and catch up with things. People here like to pull the friend zone card all the time, but the fact is you can be friends with girls and be mutually attracted but both mature and accepting of the fact it is something that would be enjoyable but just isn"t the right time for it - as long as it"s agreed upon that there is a sexual attraction it"s not that hard to do.
But don"t wait for her, don"t expect it to ever happen, don"t count on it, and definitely don"t plan your life around it. Live your life the way you should to be the best for yourself, don"t even consider her as a part of it. If something is supposed to happen, it will happen - but take it for what it would be, an extremely unlikely event that "would be nice" if it happened, but realistically probably won"t. Formulating any "plans" (at least plans that she isn"t working with you to achieve) will only increase your yearning and dependency for her, they won"t actually increase the chance of you ending up together.
Seriously though, trying to convert people to a religion (let alone becoming mad they don"t want to) is some crazy ass bullshit, and if I were you I would lose my respect for her for that alone.
BTW: The whole premise of my advice is that you actually value her as a friend, and would value her as a friend even with out the romantic interest. If that"s not the case, gtfo NOW.
Thanks, I appreciate all the advice and comments, I"m not going to defend her honor because there really is no need to I know what she is no matter what anyone says. I"m 50/50 on my whole dream aspect, I just don"t think I will ever get over her since she was my first real true crush. The whole thing about her being Islamic, most Muslims that are raised in America are just like Christians you see today, they are religious by name, doesn"t mean they practice it fully. She has a lot of good virtues because for a short time she was raised in the middle east. I don"t mind Islam, I don"t mind most religion to be honest, if I were to practice religion, I would not go to mosque, temple, church or synagogues though. And I don"t necessarily think she is perfect, but I think I would be able to put up with this woman for the rest of my life and do what"s necessary to make her happy, given the opportunity.
I"ve been in a relationship since meeting her, actually a very pretty girl and incredibly intelligent girl from Turkey. (middle eastern girls have that natural beauty, you know? even though Turkey isn"t really considered middle eastern) And we"ve never mutually broken up, things are left unsaid between us because she had to go back home. My problem is, I"m a very stubborn individual, once I get something in my mind, I pretty much stick to it forever unless someone really shows me up.
And I"ve considered myself in the friend zone for a long time actually. I was actually at the point where she was never on my mind. Then there came a point in time where her boyfriend and her were having serious issues. I gave her my opinion on life and how to treat things, she in a shocked manner said she really agreed and she would really like life like that. That day luck was on my side, she was overly interested in me, before in classes she never asked me questions or to help her and she kept looking at me while I was just paying attention to the teacher. Luck came to have it, my mother at her work found tickets for premier of X-Men Origins where Hugh Jackman was going to be and got two free tickets, when I brought this up in front of a group of friends, she immediately said "I"ll go." That night, I decided to Mmirmiron or however you spell it in a 10 man with some buddies instead of going to the movies with her. A week later, she was back to normal and she basically rekindled my whole infatuation with her. Now, she"s gone in Europe for 6-7 months and for some reason, I can"t get her off my mind.
To sum up what I wrote: Thanks for the advice, religion isn"t a big issue to me (but it depends on religious they are), I"ve gone from head over heels to not caring back to head over heels and I"m a very stubborn individual.
I"ve been in a relationship since meeting her, actually a very pretty girl and incredibly intelligent girl from Turkey. (middle eastern girls have that natural beauty, you know? even though Turkey isn"t really considered middle eastern) And we"ve never mutually broken up, things are left unsaid between us because she had to go back home. My problem is, I"m a very stubborn individual, once I get something in my mind, I pretty much stick to it forever unless someone really shows me up.
And I"ve considered myself in the friend zone for a long time actually. I was actually at the point where she was never on my mind. Then there came a point in time where her boyfriend and her were having serious issues. I gave her my opinion on life and how to treat things, she in a shocked manner said she really agreed and she would really like life like that. That day luck was on my side, she was overly interested in me, before in classes she never asked me questions or to help her and she kept looking at me while I was just paying attention to the teacher. Luck came to have it, my mother at her work found tickets for premier of X-Men Origins where Hugh Jackman was going to be and got two free tickets, when I brought this up in front of a group of friends, she immediately said "I"ll go." That night, I decided to Mmirmiron or however you spell it in a 10 man with some buddies instead of going to the movies with her. A week later, she was back to normal and she basically rekindled my whole infatuation with her. Now, she"s gone in Europe for 6-7 months and for some reason, I can"t get her off my mind.
To sum up what I wrote: Thanks for the advice, religion isn"t a big issue to me (but it depends on religious they are), I"ve gone from head over heels to not caring back to head over heels and I"m a very stubborn individual.
Big fucking deal. Live with it.
Completely cutting contact is the best way to get her off your mind.
You shouldn"t say that. Everyone here had his "first real love/crush" and thought there would be no one else..(although we were 16 at that time )owakefka said:
But honestly, just try to forget her and after a while (not 2 days and not 2 weeks) you will get over her.
Life goes on, really.
I can"t decide if you"re a troll or not. I"m just going to back away from this discussion, very slowly.
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Normally I"d say grow some balls, make a move, make something happen, and if she responds then great, and if you get rejected, you at least know the answer and you can move on.
But she"s in Europe for 6 months? What a stupid time to "realize" your infatuation for her. Sounds like you want what you can"t have. She"s gone and all of a sudden you"re dying for her? Don"t be ridiculous. You sound young, and I"ll tell you that it may seem like this girl is THE girl for you, but in 5 years you"re gonna be a different person and you"ll likely look back and giggle at your naivete. I don"t mean to be condescending, but get some perspective.
But she"s in Europe for 6 months? What a stupid time to "realize" your infatuation for her. Sounds like you want what you can"t have. She"s gone and all of a sudden you"re dying for her? Don"t be ridiculous. You sound young, and I"ll tell you that it may seem like this girl is THE girl for you, but in 5 years you"re gonna be a different person and you"ll likely look back and giggle at your naivete. I don"t mean to be condescending, but get some perspective.