{edit}: Mageling got to it before I did. <3
Sounds to me like you didn"t know the other"s "love language" - the most efficient, minimum-effort-for-maximum-payoff way that you can show your partner you love them. Basically, there"s five categories:
- Acts of Service - doing a "to-do" out of nowhere, keeping up on chores and helping around the house,
- Physical Touch - backrubs, random hand-on-the-knees/shoulders, self-explanatory really. Not just sex.
- Words of Affirmation - "I love/appreciate yous", thoughtful compliments and comments on appearance/whatever,
- Quality Time - uninterrupted and undivided attention, going on outings, and
- Receiving Gifts - little notes, small gifts lying around the house, "I got you this thing because I was thinking of you", etc.
I"m guessing that her primary language was physical touch, and yours is words of affirmation.
People tend to be most critical of the other person in the way that THEY want to be shown love (which is why she constantly complained about lack of physical touch). So naturally, you responded with the way YOU YOURSELF wanted to be shown love - with words. The end result is that because you weren"t speaking the other"s language, you"re probably baffled as to why your words never really reached her and she"s frustrated that you"re not picking up on her need to be touched.
Anyway, lots of information if you google it. Unless you"re observant and pay attention, I think the languages test should be administered to everyone starting out a new relationship. ;P
Love Languages Test