Girls who broke your heart thread

I didn"t ride him. I suggested to him once that it wasn"t the right thing to do if he wanted to be good to her.

Thats when you decided to say its all good because everyones doing it! As i said earlier there is shit you share even if too personal and then theres that line you shouldn"t cross if you actually care about the other person.

I think the getting checked up and being unsafely promiscuous are the things that are largely incidental because everyone knows that has to change if you want to be a faithful/good partner.

It"s the little things like this that she will probably never find out that come back to bite you. Just like cheating, you cheat once and dont get caught you"ll cheat again. Gossip about personal things once and dont get caught, you"ll continue to do it. Bad habits are like comfortable beds easy to get into hard to get out.

I"m not trying to stop people from saying personal shit but if you ask the board for advice i will give my 2 cents.

brekk said:

So who"s ex is DMK?

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Who"s your ex?

Sucks, Tarrant, sorry to hear that. The good news is now you can email me naked pics of her.

And for those who forgot (at least one person), Tarrant never defended himself saying "no I"m different!" when people criticized his decision to get married. The pregnancy happened, neither believed in abortion from what I gathered, so he was just trying to make the most positive thing out of it possible.

Now getting married was still dumb, as everyone now can see for certainty, but this wasn"t a "no I"m different!" case that at least one person implied it was. Considering he was tied to her for life anyway due to them having a kid, getting married so soon wasn"t as extreme a step as it would be had there been no kid.

To Eomer: god damnit dude

Mmmkeshek said:

Or the third option is to start turning on the alpha male attraction characteristics. If you have a solid foundation in a relationship and she"s simply "bored", and there are no huge underlying shitty issues, you should just be able to crank up the alpha and get her sexually interested again. The key is to learn how to balance the alpha with the beta so the boredom doesn"t begin in the first place.

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I dont think you should ever let sexual tension fade away. If a girl gets "bored" you fucked up big time. With some luck your idea should work.

DMK said:

I didn"t ride him.

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You did. You were even wearing a cute little cowboy hat.

Big difference between talking about relationship stuff in order to try and get advice (or vent), and just talking about some random sexual shit with no relevance for kicks.

I do agree that in all likelihood, if you"re going to do it this is a safe place.

But...well we"ve seen this forum come back around on folks too. "What"s that you"re reading? Oh, you"re [alias] on that board? Cute =) Wonder what it"s about." etc.

Makes for great lulz, kills the "never the twain shall meet" nature of posting about your girl here...

DMK said:

If you think posting on a random forum that the girl, you think could be the one, is a squirter isn"t crossing the line you are kidding yourself. I"m not retarded, i know partners tell other people personal things but there is certainly a line that shouldn"t be crossed unless your sure they would be ok with it.

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I personally didn"t think he was being malicious about it, though. I don"t believe she thought the partner thing was "cute", unless it was said in a sarcastic / passive aggressive way "Uhh...yeah..*eye roll*..cute".

I"d be mortified if someone shared bedroom details on a public forum whether it were anonymous or not (which it wouldn"t be in his or my particular case). My friends aren"t really like that either, I had one friend do an impersonation of her boyfriends "holding it" face and I met him a few days later (wasn"t awkward, btw). It wasn"t said to make fun of him, though, she was saying she knows that face and takes pride in that face and how she hated the thought of anyone else ever seeing that face he makes. Aside from that, we do ask if the other has tried anything, for a recent example, we chatted about the his and hers lube / massage oil (don"t get that shit, btw).

I"d like to think most of my real friends are pretty mature and don"t even rip on the penis size of their exes. We really do share things when we"re looking for feedback or sharing an experience for a friend looking for feedback.

I know that doesn"t make it any better, it"s still sharing private information. However, I doubt you"re any less prone to making honest slip-ups as anyone else. You can get off of the high horse any time now, I"m confident everyone gets your point.

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I"m going to reply to the "bored girlfriend" thing after I have some coffee. It should be pretty insightful for all of you.

Ravvenn said:

I"d like to think most of my real friends are pretty mature and don"t even rip on the penis size of their exes.

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I don"t even listen to girls that complain about penis sizes. I have yet to have one give me a semi accurate estimation of how small mine is. Derail.

Size queens aren"t really all that common, no matter what porn might make you think. Usually the girls who are hung up (heh) on it are also really difficult and bitchy about lots of other details as well.

Eomer said:

Thoughts?

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Jesus, man, you HAVE learned something from this thread, right? Right?

Do not call - I"m going to call her Christine, since "Chuck" always reads like Chunk from the Goonies to me - Christine. Do not text Christine. Do not creep her Facebook or any of that other nonsense. Delete her numbers from your phone and from your life. You have no - zero - chance with this girl. Period.

Right now you have the opportunity to leave on a somewhat higher note than after your break-up. I know you want the romcom Happy Ending to this story but it"s just not going to happen. Why? Nothing"s changed. You"re still the same puppy dog (using her term) you were when you guys first dated. From what I can gather from your postings, you"re still making the same old mistakes (texting way too damn much, being too available, giving girls way too many chances and then defending their shitty conduct, etc).

So let"s say you text message her (loaded with sarcasm!) and she green lights another go-around. What makes you think that things won"t just end the way they did before? The girl sounds awfully immature to me. Until she actually grows up some more, there is too much distance between the two of you. So when she inevitably dumps you again, it"s going to be that much more painful.

I know you say she"s a cool chick and great to hang out with and all that noise, but you"re not fooling anyone, least of all her. You"re trolling hard core for some glimmer, some hope that you guys can work as a couple. You can"t. I"m actually astounded you haven"t called one of her friends to try to get a read on her thoughts on you. If you HAVE done something like that, please don"t ever admit it here.

I fully expect you to defend your actions, which is cool. It"s kind of your shtick in this thread. But until you acknowledge your current approach is not going to net you the kind of girl you really should be pursuing (read, not hot, young nubiles who don"t yet have the sense God gave a goose), you"re destined to a lifetime of "Chucks."

So is Rav going to update her post or did she pull a typical woman and said she"d do something and never did

Tenks said:

So is Rav going to update her post or did she pull a typical woman and said she"d do something and never did

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Isn"t that a typical man?

*shrug* My guy friends are way more reliable than any of my girlfriends have ever been. Have you ever told a girl to be ready at 6:00 and then intentionally show up at 6:15 only to have her just starting on her hair?

Tenks said:

*shrug* My guy friends are way more reliable than any of my girlfriends have ever been. Have you ever told a girl to be ready at 6:00 and then intentionally show up at 6:15 only to have her just starting on her hair?

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YES. My girlfriend and mother BOTH do this kind of stuff. They"re never late for anything related to their careers, but when it"s a social gathering wither either friends/family/significant others, I get to hear them prod me on and on to get ready or we"ll be late. What happens when the time comes to leave? They"re the ones who run us late.

I have 3 back-to-back appointments today. I got 80% of my reply typed up, then this giant piece of dogshit of a phone reloaded and wiped it out.

So I"ll have to do it once I"m back home on the trusted pc.

One of the most impressive things a female I"ve dated has ever done was go from finishing her day (and she was dirty) to ready to go out with fifteen minutes notice. Granted she had this easy hotness that would have been almost obnoxious if she wasn"t so unassuming.

Some have an excuse. More often than not though it"s just this terrible fucking rudeness that females in general seem to feel entitled to.

I don"t read this thread frequently but I"ll say this: if your girl is inconsiderate, fix it or dump it. Shit aint worth it.