Off topic, but...Ravvenn said:Dude, I"m not retarded. I said, "you"re old enough to wash your own sheets now." He also has to clean his own toilet since he seems to have problems keeping piss off of the seat. It"s just as awkward for me.
I even told him when I asked about the condom, "I realize this is awkward for you and it"s awkward for me. So I"m going to keep it simple, don"t let me find the other half."
More was involved, but I never insinuated it was wrong. I did make it clear being a slob about it is wrong and rude. I also never called him out on the porn he googled and instead I taught him about how to not get a virus on his computer. He was such a newb about it, too. His google went like this:
x porn
xx porn
xxx porn
xxxx porn
Like he was working his way up or something.
He"d probably die if he knew how much I really knew about him and his dirty male habits. I go through all of his shit; his internet logs, his text messages, etc. I have absolutely no shame, but if he"s friends with some shithead tweaker, I"ll find out as soon as it happens because he has no idea how up in his business I really am. His friends were dummies to add me on Facebook (I still have no idea why they"d do that) where I can see all of the pictures they upload and how raunchy they talk. Those girls are hussies (that will end up on this website in 5 years I"m sure).
Not entirely, but I do think that if there"s a level of trust between parent and kid, the kid is more likely to ask for help if shit"s going sideways and/or will hide less from the parents. My parents were pretty open about things and so I didn"t feel the need to hide much from them, they knew where I was and generally what I was doing.Ravvenn said:Be honest. Did it work? Did you avoid drinking and driving or riding with drunks, did you call your mom?
You better cut that shit off or you"re only going to drive him away. My parents being overly nosey and prying only drove myself and my brother to be more secretive and distrusting of them.Ravvenn said:He"d probably die if he knew how much I really knew about him and his dirty male habits. I go through all of his shit; his internet logs, his text messages, etc. I have absolutely no shame, but if he"s friends with some shithead tweaker, I"ll find out as soon as it happens because he has no idea how up in his business I really am. His friends were dummies to add me on Facebook (I still have no idea why they"d do that) where I can see all of the pictures they upload and how raunchy they talk. Those girls are hussies (that will end up on this website in 5 years I"m sure).
Was it really the spying/keeping tabs that caused you to be more distrusting (secretive is normal and healthy)? Honestly? My parents spied on me constantly..."I pay for your phone, your internet connection, I bought your furniture and pay for the roof over your head. Nothing in this house is yours. I have the right to see in every drawer and in every folder. Don"t do anything worth hiding, or don"t bring evidence into this house and you"ll be fine" was my dad"s refrain. In the end, I knew why they spied and they respected me enough to let normal kid things slide. They showed me enough respect that I didn"t care if they saw everything I was doing. The pot was always in my buddy"s room and my girlfriends" parents were never home, anyway.brekk said:You better cut that shit off or you"re only going to drive him away. My parents being overly nosey and prying only drove myself and my brother to be more secretive and distrusting of them.
haha noooo shit, I learned how to clear my cookies and history at a YOUNG AGE. That"s the benefit of having an older brother however. Then again, my dad thought he was turning the computer off when he"d unplug the monitor from the wall.Kevincheese said:Off topic, but...
Honest to god, I don"t get kids these days. I"m only 24, and we didn"t have the internet until I was 10 or so, but man, that history was scrubbed clean daily.
Kids these days are kind of retarded with technology.
They need to make computers "hard" again. Make people work for it, and maybe they"ll learn a thing or two.
My problem growing up was the complete opposite. My dad(step-father) was hardcore about technology and knew every little thing. "Oh, you deleted all the stuff on your computer? Did you know you can recover the hard drive? LOL NOOB!" Fuck you dad. Fuck you.Sutekh said:haha noooo shit, I learned how to clear my cookies and history at a YOUNG AGE. That"s the benefit of having an older brother however. Then again, my dad thought he was turning the computer off when he"d unplug the monitor from the wall.
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You sound very tough and fierce! Yes, being a worthwhile friend means you do not ever at any time crush on a chick who may or may not be available for your fucking pleasure. And if you do you are totally not friend material! If you dont deem said person a friend it kinda invalidates the entire premise of the topic, no? See you cant retroactively say "hes not my friends" to justify being trash.Vatoreus said:Being a worthwhile friend also involves not being a dickless pussy and "holding onto" the idea that you may still have a shot at this one chick.
I"m sure you"ve got some mechanism to defend against this, but what are you going to do when it fails and he reads this post and your entire post history on this forum?Ravvenn said:He"d probably die if he knew how much I really knew about him and his dirty male habits. I go through all of his shit; his internet logs, his text messages, etc. I have absolutely no shame, but if he"s friends with some shithead tweaker, I"ll find out as soon as it happens because he has no idea how up in his business I really am. His friends were dummies to add me on Facebook (I still have no idea why they"d do that) where I can see all of the pictures they upload and how raunchy they talk. Those girls are hussies (that will end up on this website in 5 years I"m sure).
If there is NO chance he"s getting with it, and you cockblock your friend against it and allow some douche to get with the chick, who wins?Gryeyes said:You sound very tough and fierce! Yes, being a worthwhile friend means you do not ever at any time crush on a chick who may or may not be available for your fucking pleasure. And if you do you are totally not friend material! If you dont deem said person a friend it kinda invalidates the entire premise of the topic, no? See you cant retroactively say "hes not my friends" to justify being trash.
See once a friend is bitching and moaning about you grubbing for pussy its not their fault, its yours. Sure you can rationalize your lack of character and pussy pandering on them being a bitch...if you are like 14 or something.
1.65 metric fucktons of hot available pussy, other than being a cunt, why would you target one a friend likes (for whatever reason).
A. Hard up for pussy therefore don"t have many options.
B. Scum, who is not nor has any friends.
C. Both
When I have a friend going for some twat that does not seem to particularly dig him, I attempt to further his game, to help him get laid. Either you understand this or you do not.
He"s probably never going to be open about his sexuality to you. I never once in my life thought to say"hey mom you should have seen the load I had last night, fucking awesome", or"gdnite mom, I"m gonna go rub one out and then go to bed". It just won"t happen and probably the best thing you could do is play complete ignorance about the entire issue.What condom wrapper? Your sheets were dirty? I don"t hear any moaning coming from your computer speakers...etc.Ravvenn said:I"m hoping I can find a way to have him be more open and honest, but I"m not getting my hopes too high.
Chu, can we raise babies together?chu said:He"s probably never going to be open about his sexuality to you. I never once in my life thought to say"hey mom you should have seen the load I had last night, fucking awesome", or"gdnite mom, I"m gonna go rub one out and then go to bed". It just won"t happen and probably the best thing you could do is play complete ignorance about the entire issue.What condom wrapper? Your sheets were dirty? I don"t hear any moaning coming from your computer speakers...etc.
I could see him opening about his future gfs if you show acceptance and some interest but if you start nagging him about who he"s dating and why, forget about it.
As for house chores - make allowance dependent upon it. And I mean COMPLETELY dependent on it. If he doesn"t have money to go for a slurpee or a burger, you bet he"s gonna be vacuuming the house for it. And no money until he does it properly.