Girls who broke your heart thread
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Sorry bro I"ll tell you what you want to hear.Heylel Teomim said:I knew this was a bad place to vent
Women are dangerous creatures. Physically they are imposing and I can often times recant a tale of when one of these monstrous creatures would take their well toned index finger and thumb and grasp them together on my weak, frail arm. You are in all right to complete wig the fuck out at this absolute atrocity. I am going to commend you on your restraint of not socking the bitch right in the face for doing this heinous, flirty action.
Heylel
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Fair point, I know I overreacted. Mainly out of surprise. Still, am I just supposed to let her run roughshod whenever she pulls little stunts designed specifically to annoy me? I"ve tried calmly asking, and that gets me nowhere. She doesn"t act out unless we"re around other people.
At what point am I allowed to just get fed up at being deliberately irritated?
At what point am I allowed to just get fed up at being deliberately irritated?
Have you tried sitting her down like an adult and having a conversation about your displeasure instead of wigging out in a crowded place?
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Were you already pissed about something? Sounds like a minor thing to get all pissy about. Like what was said above she"s probably more embarrassed than anything. Either it was an accident or she was trying to push her limits, either way you handled it wrong. Talk to her, be a man about it, let her know her vicious talons are too much for you to handle.Heylel Teomim said:I knew this was a bad place to vent
Heylel
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Of course. She just thinks its cute, and this sort of thing is often enough that I"ve had people we know, men and women both, ask me why I put up with it. This isn"t an isolated incident.Tenks said:
I know I handled it wrong. Overreacting isn"t something that comes naturally to me. I"ve already apologized, but neither of us were in the right.
The beauty of agoodrelationship is that you can annoy the living shit out of each other!Heylel Teomim said:
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You"re allowed to be irritated but what you aren"t allowed is to react the way you did. I would have simply called her out on it, asked her why she was acting like a 5 year old at a dinner table, but in a calm voice and making direct eye contact with her. I"m not about to get my shit bruised up either but at least address her like an adult man, treating them like you"re their parent wont get anywhere.
I can certainly appreciate where the impulse comes from, you just gotta repress it is all. If you walk into a chair at a funeral and bang yourself right in that soft part under your knee cap you wouldn"t throw the chair at the wall as is your first impulse would you?
And yeah, you better off yelling at her than laying hands. Lesson learned.
And yeah, you better off yelling at her than laying hands. Lesson learned.
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In that case I"d let her know that you weren"t going to take her out and around other people until she can show you she"s able to respect your boundaries. If she flips out then that should tell you right there shit aint gonna change and perhaps its time you cut her free.Heylel Teomim said:
Or stoop to her level and pinch her ass back and see how she likes it. Maybe shes one of those people who needs to be put into the other persons shoes? she sounds like a bitch honestly.
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Honestly, if this isn"t an isolated incident you have all the right to be pissed. It sounds like the reason you flipped was because you"ve been holding back your anger when she acts this way. She"s trying to raise her "status" by putting you down and it sounds like you"ve been letting her which is all kinds of bad. This is a delicate situation and could be the start of the end of your relationship. She does sound like a bitch, but it sounds like you"re letting her be.
She"s trying to get a rise out of you. You need to tell her once and only once that acting that way isn"t cool, bring up incidents. Apologize for your reaction. She will probably try and flip it and say you"re being childish, but you know she"s the one being childish. If she keeps defending her actions tell her the consequences will never be the same.
She"s trying to get a rise out of you. You need to tell her once and only once that acting that way isn"t cool, bring up incidents. Apologize for your reaction. She will probably try and flip it and say you"re being childish, but you know she"s the one being childish. If she keeps defending her actions tell her the consequences will never be the same.
Sounds like she"s being a bitch and trying to do those asinine attention grabbing things some women do. But you shouldn"t have grabbed her like that. Personally I"d just say "cut that shit out." Potentially add in "or I"m leaving."
She"s in the wrong by doing that in the first place but, as everyone else has said, your reaction wasn"t wise. Frankly if some asshole pulled shit like that on me more than twice, especially after being told, they"d be out on their ass. Fuck putting up with all of that.
She"s in the wrong by doing that in the first place but, as everyone else has said, your reaction wasn"t wise. Frankly if some asshole pulled shit like that on me more than twice, especially after being told, they"d be out on their ass. Fuck putting up with all of that.
This bitch sounds like she has some issues. I"d say let her go....depending on how long you"ve been together/how you feel about her. I don"t fucking care if she thinks its cute - if this isn"t the first time, and if it actually leaves marks (Ignore some people here, I know pinching can often be more painful than punching), you need to drop this crazy.Heylel Teomim said:
Heylel
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Heh, I know it sounds lame as hell but it left a bruise about the size of a half dollar on my tricep. In the grand scheme that"s no big deal; I"ve had way worse from mosh pits or rough housing around with friends. I just want to be clear that this wasn"t some teehee-cute-flirty thing, it hurt like a bitch.
In any event, it"s the larger issue we need to discuss. I get off in a couple hours and will call her them. I do care about the girl, and the sad thing is that we"ve been getting along really great for the last month or two (we"ve been off/on for almost a year now). I would hate to scuttle a relationship over such an insignificant event, even if it does speak to larger concerns.
In any event, it"s the larger issue we need to discuss. I get off in a couple hours and will call her them. I do care about the girl, and the sad thing is that we"ve been getting along really great for the last month or two (we"ve been off/on for almost a year now). I would hate to scuttle a relationship over such an insignificant event, even if it does speak to larger concerns.