Girls who broke your heart thread

Zehn - Vhex said:

But a girl doesn"t become scared of a dude if all he did was tell her to stop pinching him.

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Personally I think it was poor judgement on their parts and I"m sure he cleaned up his version of events, but if all he did was yank her close and spit words at her in anger, I have a hard time considering that as abuse or an assault unless there is a pattern of it (and Heylel failed to mention anything like that).

I"m not saying she wasn"t scared or that Heylel didn"t do something to scare her, it"s just that it seems that it"s pretty much penny ante crap in the larger scheme of things.

Not that paranoid. The law thesedays is incredibly rigged against the man no matter what.

Look at the Duke rape case and the hell those guys went through. Or the numerous amount of women who make up rape stories (Thankfully, some of them FINALLY are starting to get sent to jail for it). If there is ever a domestic dispute, there is a very large chance the man is going to jail, even if everything was truly her fault. This is why lawyers will tell you if you"re a man and your woman is abusing you in an argument, never call the police on her.

(edit) Erronius above is 100% correct, though it can ALSO happen even if she lays your hands on you first because its your word against hers and most of the time the police will believe her over you. If she slugged you in the face and you pushed her out of the house in self defense and left a little bitty scratch on her, you"re ass is going to be thrown in jail and you"re going to get to spend thousands on bail and legal fees.

The system will always destroy the mans life well before he"s actually put on trial to prove his innocence and his reputation and the like is likely ruined for life, even if he did nothing wrong. It is incredibly unfair, and extremely discriminatory against the man.

It"s disgusting.

Pancreas said:

I guess right now I see two choices: Be a nice guy and get fucked in the ass OR be a pseudo douche bag and enjoy not passing blood when I poop.

Thoughts?

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I dunno. When I try to think of any instances where women have done this, it"s been while dating or in a relationship that I"ve seen, and not a random woman on the street corner or in a bar or something. I"d have to say that in my own experience it"s either revenge or a trump card the times that women might do something to that, and they probably wouldn"t do it to strangers, but who knows?

Zehn - Vhex said:

Now, I know bitches be crazy. I"ve met enough and dealt with enough crazy chicks in the last year let alone my life to this point to know that if a girls mouth is open she"s lying and blah blah blah. But a girl doesn"t become scared of a dude if all he did was tell her to stop pinching him.

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In general that"s true, but you never can tell. Relevant long-winded cool story bro example follows.

I met this girl on EQ years ago, we became good friends, talked on the phone, met at a guild get together, all that shit. While there was some initial attraction (at least on my part), it got past that point and she got married and we were still good friends, I thought the guy she married was a great guy, etc.

So I go out to visit them one time (not the first time), and it"s fucking Fabled month on EQ. Ever since they introduced it she"s literally fucking obsessed with Fabled loot. She"s made alts left and right throughout our EQ careers (do all chicks do this or what??), and this Fabled loot would be for like alts #4 and beyond. So I"m there visiting and she makes me log in on one of their computers so we can go kill some bullshit Fabled mob. I don"t want to, but I do it because it"s their house, and what am I going to do, leave? I"m 1000 miles from home, so not likely. I make it known, however, that I don"t intend to spend my time there playing fucking EQ. And I said this before I even flew out there as well.

Fabled mobs have a million fucking hps and with our reduced numbers it takes awhile, but finally we"re done. And then she decides to port over and check to see if another one is up, while I"m telling her it doesn"t matter, I"m not doing it, and besides her husband is about to go to class so it would be even slower without him helping. She thinks it"s cute that I am being pissy about it, and finds out the other mob is up. I tell her nope, I"m not doing it, and I"m going to log out. She literally tells me that if I log out, I might as well just change my flight going home to tonight. At first I"m shocked, like really, all you give a fuck about is that I won"t kill this fucking Fabled mob for loot for your fucking alts? So I tell her fine, I"ll fucking kill this fucking mob. I don"t move from the chair, I don"t call her a name, I don"t raise my hand, nothing. But it"s quite obvious that I"m beyond pissed.

Suddenly she logs out and leaves the room, and I"m like wtf? Then I hear her telling her husband (who heard the entire discussion) that she doesn"t want him to go to class, because she doesn"t want to be alone with me. I"m completely boggled now, and I ask wtf she"s talking about. She refuses to speak to me, but the gist of it is that she felt that I might hit her. I"ve never hit her, I"ve only even been physically in her presence for a couple of weeks total, and I"ve never even told her stories of hitting someone, being violent, whatever. It takes hours of course (with her husband being late to class no less) before she decides to tell me that her dad hit her when she was younger, and before he did he"d sound like I sounded.

Now, I know from what she"s told me previously that we"re talking slapping her in the face, probably spankings when she was younger, and only a couple of times, so it"s not like he got out the belt and whipped her bloody every night. I"m also not saying he should have done it (or perhaps he should have done it more?), but we"re not talking molestation or excessive beatings either. Yet here I am, keeping my anger in and *not* doing any of those things, and because I sounded like he did, now she"s afraid to be alone with me. How was I to know that she"d have a "Nam flashback and freak out on me, when I didn"t even do anything? And just as importantly, why can"t I be the one to freak out over not wanting to spend my time visiting them playing EQ? Why was that wrong of me, but her reaction was ok?

TLDR: Sometimes it just doesn"t fucking matter what you do, bitches be crazy and you won"t find out until you cross some line in their head that you"re totally unaware even exists. Perhaps in Heylel"s situation, being "grabbed" like that is one of them. Most women, from my experience, don"t like that at all, regardless of how innocent you felt it was.