Health Problems

lurkingdirk · Sunday at 9:10 PM

Well folks, what a fucking couple of years it has been.

I've had cancer. Treatment successful. One major surgery.

My wife had cancer. Three major surgeries. Treatment successful.

Wife's father died. Serious Alzheimer's and dementia. Stopped eating. Gruesome ending.

Wife's mother has severe Alzheimer's. She's non verbal, but physically she can last a long, long time.

Wife's younger brother just found out he has multiple myeloma. He is 46. He hurt his knee this summer. The pain crept up his leg until last week when he couldn't move. The lesions fractured his tibia, and then his hip completely collapsed. He's just had hip replacement surgery today, we'll know more about the cancer in about 2 days. He might have to endure chemo and/or radiation while convalescing from hip replacement surgery, with another surgery to replace his tibia, or at least reinforce it with titanium. He's fucking 46.

I'm having headaches that reduce my mental capacity for about a half hour at a time. It's somewhat like seizures, and it's just as unpredictable. While having a headache of this sort I don't trust myself to drive or make any decisions. I'm having them 3 or 4 times a month. I have irregularities in my upper spine, a couple of nerves are pinched, I have lost strength in my dominant hand and my fingers are tingly. This is likely occipital neuralgia, which is treatable, but permanent.

My mother has severe Covid, and at her age they are watching it closely because she's having trouble breathing. She's late 80s, this is no joke.

I've lived well and healthy, so has my wife's family. So has my mother. So has my wife.

I'm fucking sick to death of this. I'm not coping well. This evening I was sitting on the couch, just laying back with my eyes closed, trying to take in the news of my brother in law being in surgery for a new hip at such a young age, and my youngest son climbed in and sat on my lap, something he hasn't done for years for obvious reasons (he's 16), and he wrapped his arms around me and we just sat like that for a few minutes. That was both the most wonderful and the most horrible part of my week. He knows what's going on. He knows how it is affecting both me and my wife. He is being amazing, and a caretaker. He shouldn't have to be that, but I admit, he made me feel so much better. I'm getting solace from my son when I should be the strong one for him.

Honestly guys, I don't let the guard down much, but I'm at the end of my rope. I have spent more time in tears in the last week than is likely healthy. I have a fantastic support community, and my wife and children are absolutely here, we are all here for each other. It has just built up so much recently it's just so much to cope with. I'm pretty broken.

Okay, end of my sob fest. I just needed to say it, and you guys are the best source to find ways to mock me for this, so that's why I'm here.

Guurn · Sunday at 9:58 PM

"Honestly guys, I don't let the guard down much, but I'm at the end of my rope. I have spent more time in tears in the last week than is likely healthy. I have a fantastic support community, and my wife and children are absolutely here, we are all here for each other. It has just built up so much recently it's just so much to cope with. I'm pretty broken."

You're a pretty lucky guy, probably not lucky at all but a consequence of how you've lived. I've been in horrible places much like you are right now and the right decisions I've made in the past got me through them. Stand tall, look at your family and know you've got what it takes to get through it. Your 16yo is in a dangerous period, he'll need you to get through it. All that there is to do is to make the best choices you can, getting input from trusted people, and move on. If something good happens notice it.

Sorry you're going through it but it is called going through it because you'll be on the other side eventually.

Edaw · Sunday at 10:04 PM

lurkingdirk said:
Well folks, what a fucking couple of years it has been.

I've had cancer. Treatment successful. One major surgery.

My wife had cancer. Three major surgeries. Treatment successful.

Wife's father died. Serious Alzheimer's and dementia. Stopped eating. Gruesome ending.

Wife's mother has severe Alzheimer's. She's non verbal, but physically she can last a long, long time.

Wife's younger brother just found out he has multiple myeloma. He is 46. He hurt his knee this summer. The pain crept up his leg until last week when he couldn't move. The lesions fractured his tibia, and then his hip completely collapsed. He's just had hip replacement surgery today, we'll know more about the cancer in about 2 days. He might have to endure chemo and/or radiation while convalescing from hip replacement surgery, with another surgery to replace his tibia, or at least reinforce it with titanium. He's fucking 46.

I'm having headaches that reduce my mental capacity for about a half hour at a time. It's somewhat like seizures, and it's just as unpredictable. While having a headache of this sort I don't trust myself to drive or make any decisions. I'm having them 3 or 4 times a month. I have irregularities in my upper spine, a couple of nerves are pinched, I have lost strength in my dominant hand and my fingers are tingly. This is likely occipital neuralgia, which is treatable, but permanent.

My mother has severe Covid, and at her age they are watching it closely because she's having trouble breathing. She's late 80s, this is no joke.

I've lived well and healthy, so has my wife's family. So has my mother. So has my wife.

I'm fucking sick to death of this. I'm not coping well. This evening I was sitting on the couch, just laying back with my eyes closed, trying to take in the news of my brother in law being in surgery for a new hip at such a young age, and my youngest son climbed in and sat on my lap, something he hasn't done for years for obvious reasons (he's 16), and he wrapped his arms around me and we just sat like that for a few minutes. That was both the most wonderful and the most horrible part of my week. He knows what's going on. He knows how it is affecting both me and my wife. He is being amazing, and a caretaker. He shouldn't have to be that, but I admit, he made me feel so much better. I'm getting solace from my son when I should be the strong one for him.

Honestly guys, I don't let the guard down much, but I'm at the end of my rope. I have spent more time in tears in the last week than is likely healthy. I have a fantastic support community, and my wife and children are absolutely here, we are all here for each other. It has just built up so much recently it's just so much to cope with. I'm pretty broken.

Okay, end of my sob fest. I just needed to say it, and you guys are the best source to find ways to mock me for this, so that's why I'm here.

Things could be worse. You could be married to an Asian.

Hope things get better for you.

lurkingdirk · Sunday at 10:07 PM

Guurn said:
"Honestly guys, I don't let the guard down much, but I'm at the end of my rope. I have spent more time in tears in the last week than is likely healthy. I have a fantastic support community, and my wife and children are absolutely here, we are all here for each other. It has just built up so much recently it's just so much to cope with. I'm pretty broken."

You're a pretty lucky guy, probably not lucky at all but a consequence of how you've lived. I've been in horrible places much like you are right now and the right decisions I've made in the past got me through them. Stand tall, look at your family and know you've got what it takes to get through it. Your 16yo is in a dangerous period, he'll need you to get through it. All that there is to do is to make the best choices you can, getting input from trusted people, and move on. If something good happens notice it.

Sorry you're going through it but it is called going through it because you'll be on the other side eventually.

Dammit dude. I come here expecting to get shit. You just said exactly what I needed to hear. I'm deeply grateful. Honestly. Thank you.

Gavinmad · Sunday at 11:31 PM

lurkingdirk said:
Well folks, what a fucking couple of years it has been.

I've had cancer. Treatment successful. One major surgery.

My wife had cancer. Three major surgeries. Treatment successful.

Wife's father died. Serious Alzheimer's and dementia. Stopped eating. Gruesome ending.

Wife's mother has severe Alzheimer's. She's non verbal, but physically she can last a long, long time.

Wife's younger brother just found out he has multiple myeloma. He is 46. He hurt his knee this summer. The pain crept up his leg until last week when he couldn't move. The lesions fractured his tibia, and then his hip completely collapsed. He's just had hip replacement surgery today, we'll know more about the cancer in about 2 days. He might have to endure chemo and/or radiation while convalescing from hip replacement surgery, with another surgery to replace his tibia, or at least reinforce it with titanium. He's fucking 46.

I'm having headaches that reduce my mental capacity for about a half hour at a time. It's somewhat like seizures, and it's just as unpredictable. While having a headache of this sort I don't trust myself to drive or make any decisions. I'm having them 3 or 4 times a month. I have irregularities in my upper spine, a couple of nerves are pinched, I have lost strength in my dominant hand and my fingers are tingly. This is likely occipital neuralgia, which is treatable, but permanent.

My mother has severe Covid, and at her age they are watching it closely because she's having trouble breathing. She's late 80s, this is no joke.

I've lived well and healthy, so has my wife's family. So has my mother. So has my wife.

I'm fucking sick to death of this. I'm not coping well. This evening I was sitting on the couch, just laying back with my eyes closed, trying to take in the news of my brother in law being in surgery for a new hip at such a young age, and my youngest son climbed in and sat on my lap, something he hasn't done for years for obvious reasons (he's 16), and he wrapped his arms around me and we just sat like that for a few minutes. That was both the most wonderful and the most horrible part of my week. He knows what's going on. He knows how it is affecting both me and my wife. He is being amazing, and a caretaker. He shouldn't have to be that, but I admit, he made me feel so much better. I'm getting solace from my son when I should be the strong one for him.

Honestly guys, I don't let the guard down much, but I'm at the end of my rope. I have spent more time in tears in the last week than is likely healthy. I have a fantastic support community, and my wife and children are absolutely here, we are all here for each other. It has just built up so much recently it's just so much to cope with. I'm pretty broken.

Okay, end of my sob fest. I just needed to say it, and you guys are the best source to find ways to mock me for this, so that's why I'm here.

I realize I can usually be counted on for this type of response but it took me a good 5-10 minutes to muster up the callousness. This isn't easy.

Kajiimagi · Monday at 1:56 AM

Dammit dude. I need to reply but I'm on a tablet and I fucking HATE typing on it. Give me till tomorrow.

Also don't be using this as an excuse to not post in FSR, you got work to do!

Noodleface · Monday at 9:25 AM

I agree with Gavin this is a very gay post. If I could, i would suck 100 dicks in a row to help you through it.

moonarchia · Monday at 10:29 AM

lurkingdirk said:
Well folks, what a fucking couple of years it has been.

I've had cancer. Treatment successful. One major surgery.

My wife had cancer. Three major surgeries. Treatment successful.

Wife's father died. Serious Alzheimer's and dementia. Stopped eating. Gruesome ending.

Wife's mother has severe Alzheimer's. She's non verbal, but physically she can last a long, long time.

Wife's younger brother just found out he has multiple myeloma. He is 46. He hurt his knee this summer. The pain crept up his leg until last week when he couldn't move. The lesions fractured his tibia, and then his hip completely collapsed. He's just had hip replacement surgery today, we'll know more about the cancer in about 2 days. He might have to endure chemo and/or radiation while convalescing from hip replacement surgery, with another surgery to replace his tibia, or at least reinforce it with titanium. He's fucking 46.

I'm having headaches that reduce my mental capacity for about a half hour at a time. It's somewhat like seizures, and it's just as unpredictable. While having a headache of this sort I don't trust myself to drive or make any decisions. I'm having them 3 or 4 times a month. I have irregularities in my upper spine, a couple of nerves are pinched, I have lost strength in my dominant hand and my fingers are tingly. This is likely occipital neuralgia, which is treatable, but permanent.

My mother has severe Covid, and at her age they are watching it closely because she's having trouble breathing. She's late 80s, this is no joke.

I've lived well and healthy, so has my wife's family. So has my mother. So has my wife.

I'm fucking sick to death of this. I'm not coping well. This evening I was sitting on the couch, just laying back with my eyes closed, trying to take in the news of my brother in law being in surgery for a new hip at such a young age, and my youngest son climbed in and sat on my lap, something he hasn't done for years for obvious reasons (he's 16), and he wrapped his arms around me and we just sat like that for a few minutes. That was both the most wonderful and the most horrible part of my week. He knows what's going on. He knows how it is affecting both me and my wife. He is being amazing, and a caretaker. He shouldn't have to be that, but I admit, he made me feel so much better. I'm getting solace from my son when I should be the strong one for him.

Honestly guys, I don't let the guard down much, but I'm at the end of my rope. I have spent more time in tears in the last week than is likely healthy. I have a fantastic support community, and my wife and children are absolutely here, we are all here for each other. It has just built up so much recently it's just so much to cope with. I'm pretty broken.

Okay, end of my sob fest. I just needed to say it, and you guys are the best source to find ways to mock me for this, so that's why I'm here.

I haven't had cancer yet, but I definitely know them feels. My neuropathy has my hands and feet permanently numb. When I was strictly adhering to my diet and exercise I was able to put it on pause, but, after my mom stabbing me in the metaphorical back last year I have not been able to find the motivation to keep it up, and it's starting to spread again. Getting old. Losing people you love. Being betrayed by your own body. It all sucks. A lot.

I hope your brother makes it through all of this. Cancer can eat a bag of dicks. Stay strong as long as you can. You aren't alone in life. You have family that cares about you still, and you have us assholes here who may or may not like you as well.

Control · Monday at 11:03 AM

lurkingdirk said:
Honestly guys, I don't let the guard down much, but I'm at the end of my rope.

At some point, I heard someone boast something like "a scary % of the world's humans would literally kill for one of my bad days", and I think that's literally true for everyone here. I remember it, not because of some bullshit "just think of how many people have it worse", but more as a reminder that even when things are shitty, not everything is shitty. Some things are still pretty great, and I find it pretty helpful to think about that for a bit. Similarly, you may not be able to do everything and fix everything, but you can still do some things. And those things help build the "pretty great" lists of those around you.

Shit, you helped folder build a barn yesterday. How many people would do that?!

Izo · Monday at 4:14 PM

Noodleface said:
I agree with Gavin this is a very gay post. If I could, i would suck 100 dicks in a row to help you through it.

I feel like yu shoyld start with mine. For @loikingdork 's sake. Bros before hos man.

Kajiimagi · Monday at 6:11 PM

lurkingdirk said:
Well folks, what a fucking couple of years it has been.

I've had cancer. Treatment successful. One major surgery.

My wife had cancer. Three major surgeries. Treatment successful.

Wife's father died. Serious Alzheimer's and dementia. Stopped eating. Gruesome ending.

Wife's mother has severe Alzheimer's. She's non verbal, but physically she can last a long, long time.

Wife's younger brother just found out he has multiple myeloma. He is 46. He hurt his knee this summer. The pain crept up his leg until last week when he couldn't move. The lesions fractured his tibia, and then his hip completely collapsed. He's just had hip replacement surgery today, we'll know more about the cancer in about 2 days. He might have to endure chemo and/or radiation while convalescing from hip replacement surgery, with another surgery to replace his tibia, or at least reinforce it with titanium. He's fucking 46.

I'm having headaches that reduce my mental capacity for about a half hour at a time. It's somewhat like seizures, and it's just as unpredictable. While having a headache of this sort I don't trust myself to drive or make any decisions. I'm having them 3 or 4 times a month. I have irregularities in my upper spine, a couple of nerves are pinched, I have lost strength in my dominant hand and my fingers are tingly. This is likely occipital neuralgia, which is treatable, but permanent.

My mother has severe Covid, and at her age they are watching it closely because she's having trouble breathing. She's late 80s, this is no joke.

I've lived well and healthy, so has my wife's family. So has my mother. So has my wife.

I'm fucking sick to death of this. I'm not coping well. This evening I was sitting on the couch, just laying back with my eyes closed, trying to take in the news of my brother in law being in surgery for a new hip at such a young age, and my youngest son climbed in and sat on my lap, something he hasn't done for years for obvious reasons (he's 16), and he wrapped his arms around me and we just sat like that for a few minutes. That was both the most wonderful and the most horrible part of my week. He knows what's going on. He knows how it is affecting both me and my wife. He is being amazing, and a caretaker. He shouldn't have to be that, but I admit, he made me feel so much better. I'm getting solace from my son when I should be the strong one for him.

Honestly guys, I don't let the guard down much, but I'm at the end of my rope. I have spent more time in tears in the last week than is likely healthy. I have a fantastic support community, and my wife and children are absolutely here, we are all here for each other. It has just built up so much recently it's just so much to cope with. I'm pretty broken.

Okay, end of my sob fest. I just needed to say it, and you guys are the best source to find ways to mock me for this, so that's why I'm here.

I had(?) cancer , shit still not sure but I went thru radiation and chemo and had a tumor removed for what that's worth. But I was already out of work for a dog shit spine. Life happens bro and it's 100% certain that when you are born you are going to die, it's just when.

I had a conversation yesterday with someone I worked with in the late 90's - the economy taking a giant shit in 2008 , he's doing well now and plans to retire in 10 years. I told him I really hoped it worked out like that for him. I didn't plan to retire at 52, it did it for me. Thankfully I wasn't mortgaged/loaned out to the eyeballs so it didn't really matter but life happens. He said something that really struck with me : He didn't want to grow older any more because everyone is falling apart.

The reason I was calling him, was I was worried about another guy I worked with at that same time that had a massive heart attack and I hadn't heard any more from him. Thankfully he's coming back from it but shit just happens.

Getting old is not for wimps. I'll tell you this too as I've seen the results , taking the cowards way out may make you fell 'better' but it's a guaranteed way to fuck up your wife & kids. Don't do it.

lurkingdirk · Monday at 6:17 PM

Kajiimagi said:
I had(?) cancer , shit still not sure but I went thru radiation and chemo and had a tumor removed for what that's worth. But I was already out of work for a dog shit spine. Life happens bro and it's 100% certain that when you are born you are going to die, it's just when.

I had a conversation yesterday with someone I worked with in the late 90's - the economy taking a giant shit in 2008 , he's doing well now and plans to retire in 10 years. I told him I really hoped it worked out like that for him. I didn't plan to retire at 52, it did it for me. Thankfully I wasn't mortgaged/loaned out to the eyeballs so it didn't really matter but life happens. He said something that really struck with me : He didn't want to grow older any more because everyone is falling apart.

The reason I was calling him, was I was worried about another guy I worked with at that same time that had a massive heart attack and I hadn't heard any more from him. Thankfully he's coming back from it but shit just happens.

Getting old is not for wimps. I'll tell you this too as I've seen the results , taking the cowards way out may make you fell 'better' but it's a guaranteed way to fuck up your wife & kids. Don't do it.

I'm not going like that, that's a sure thing. I've been mostly retired for several years, I fill my days with what I want to. Things in general are good, just a lot of crap happening. Everyone deals with it.

Fogel · Monday at 6:17 PM

Kajiimagi said:
I had(?) cancer , shit still not sure but I went thru radiation and chemo and had a tumor removed for what that's worth. But I was already out of work for a dog shit spine. Life happens bro and it's 100% certain that when you are born you are going to die, it's just when.

I had a conversation yesterday with someone I worked with in the late 90's - the economy taking a giant shit in 2008 , he's doing well now and plans to retire in 10 years. I told him I really hoped it worked out like that for him. I didn't plan to retire at 52, it did it for me. Thankfully I wasn't mortgaged/loaned out to the eyeballs so it didn't really matter but life happens. He said something that really struck with me : He didn't want to grow older any more because everyone is falling apart.

The reason I was calling him, was I was worried about another guy I worked with at that same time that had a massive heart attack and I hadn't heard any more from him. Thankfully he's coming back from it but shit just happens.

Getting old is not for wimps. I'll tell you this too as I've seen the results , taking the cowards way out may make you fell 'better' but it's a guaranteed way to fuck up your wife & kids. Don't do it.

I read that as "I worked with someone in their late 90's" and when you mentioned them retiring in 10 years I'm like "I don't think he's gonna make it"

Kajiimagi · Monday at 6:37 PM

Fogel said:
I read that as "I worked with someone in their late 90's" and when you mentioned them retiring in 10 years I'm like "I don't think he's gonna make it"

I suck at writing out stuff but I clearly said I worked with him 'in the late 90's'. Intended as I hoped his health held out. He's a hard drinker, chain smoker and works 14+ hours a day and has since I've known him. So did the one I was checking on who had the heart attack. Post major heart attack he was 'trying' to stop drinking and was 'down' to 6 cigs a day.

Noodleface · Monday at 6:52 PM

3rd sinus infection this year. Please kill me.

Probably all that semen I ingested for dirk

Kajiimagi · Monday at 7:02 PM

Noodleface said:
3rd sinus infection this year. Please kill me.

Probably all that semen I ingested for dirk

They totally suck.
I'm in my 20's face on fire burning and my arms have shooting pains going up them. I'm in a high stress job so I'm thinking heart attack. Call the hospital and ask if I need to come in they say no since it had been going on for a week. Turns out I had a sinus infection AND I was highly allergic to the gunk/glue they used to put up wallpaper on the project I was running.

Noodleface · Monday at 7:05 PM

Kajiimagi said:
They totally suck.
I'm in my 20's face on fire burning and my arms have shooting pains going up them. I'm in a high stress job so I'm thinking heart attack. Call the hospital and ask if I need to come in they say no since it had been going on for a week. Turns out I had a sinus infection AND I was highly allergic to the gunk/glue they used to put up wallpaper on the project I was running.

Goddamn. The worst was the last one for me. Felt like my teeth were about to fall out of my head and my face was visibly swollen. Doctor didn't even have to touch it, just looked and threw me on a cocktail of shit

Kajiimagi · Monday at 7:09 PM

Noodleface said:
Goddamn. The worst was the last one for me. Felt like my teeth were about to fall out of my head and my face was visibly swollen. Doctor didn't even have to touch it, just looked and threw me on a cocktail of shit

Grew up with a chain smoking mom. Power might get turned off but she had her cigs. Went to the doc last week cuz wife thought I might have another one (sinus infection) doc said it's allergies , I told him what I was doing and he just patted me on the head and sent me on my way. He did mention a Kenalog shot but I have to clear everything thru my chemo doc now.

Prodigal · Monday at 7:15 PM

Noodleface said:
3rd sinus infection this year. Please kill me.

Probably all that semen I ingested for dirk

Have you tried Flonase? I used to have sinus infections 3 - 4 times a year, but have used either irrigation or fluticasone (sp?) off and on to eliminate them for the last several years.

Noodleface · Monday at 7:35 PM

Prodigal said:
Have you tried Flonase? I used to have sinus infections 3 - 4 times a year, but have used either irrigation or fluticasone (sp?) off and on to eliminate them for the last several years.

During the bad one t didn't help but I might try again.

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