I have a couple of well reputed realtors that I went to school with 15 years ago. Would it be better to talk to them about it? I won't be able to walk any construction site because I will be moving 10 hours away from where I live now. As for space...It's something that we desperately need right now. We are in a 1344 sq ft 2 bedroom townhouse with a 1 year old and hoping to have another in a year or two and I can only see us accumulating more stuff. I'd like to be able to have some land that I can build a barn on or put a building on for storage. I really do appreciate your input. It seems like you know what you are talking about and if I were in the position to follow through with your tips I'd really consider much of what you've said. I also wish I could afford something on a 15 year mortgage but we just wouldn't be able to afford it right now. I think I'm just ready to be out of a town house and ready to be in a house house. The stuff that custom builder has on their site makes things look really nice, but I know you have to pay more to get that brand new look. My wife hates those bathrooms they do though, with the tub between two sinks and what not. But yea, I'm so new to looking into buying a new home even though I have a town home that this post is all over the place, so my apologies.
Good realtor can help and may have some info. Nothing compared with a day of walking a couple of their previous neighborhoods though and talking with owners. Don't buy a home from someone without walking the floor plans, models and seeing the development.
The look is nice. You're right, but they do charge for that. Making it look like the models is quite expensive, good bit of it is design work as well and not part of the bones of the house. Now it will vary quite a bit from builder to builder. They all nail you for upgrades but some do it more than others. They all have the same general cost structure. So if one guy is considerably more expensive take a look at construction factors to see if you'r getting anything.
Here, many builders will do a frame second floor over block first. Much cheaper and easier to do than doing all block. So when they are charging the same amount for the house but cutting corners there is a red flag. Where you are they are probably building all frame which is fine but may be using OSB instead of plywood. Not a big deal until you have a small leak and have to replace entire sheets of OSB on the roof where as plywood tends to handle small leaks much better. Sure they both are up to code, but one performs better overall where it really matters. There is a reason some areas ban the use of OSB on the roof. How do they attach the roof to the wall? Clips, straps? Staples? There are a lot of little things like that. Some use aluminum studs, some use all wood. You'd be surprised at the variety you can find in areas sometimes.
I'm not a fan of 15 year mortgages, stick with 30. You can pay it off faster if you want and you're locked in.
Just don't over spend on your home. People have a tendency to get the biggest model and over spend on square footage. Don't be fooled into buying the biggest house in the neighborhood or more house than you really need. You may feel the need to over compensate getting out of a home you feel is tiny.
Sometimes the upgrades aren't a terrible deal. However many times they can be. Many builders will offer multiple levels of wood floors, granite, cabinets etc. They charge incrementally and generally exponentially. The first upgrade is pretty cheap, second more expensive and the really pretty options are very costly. Adding all that stuff up and making sure you aren't getting screwed is important.
When we did our own flooring we got a 2k credit and saved the 15k they wanted to charge us for "real" wood which was just engineered. We had someone else install solid for 5k less on our own and had the builder just lay carpet for CO. Had someone do the floors and gave the carpet to our inlaws who redid all their bedrooms and tossed the rest. Not all builders are quite that bad but just be wary of what you're buying. They know full and well most people are just going to roll in there and not price check stuff. People tend to not want to deal with construction after finishing construction. Builders know this and can charge accordingly. Flooring, crown molding, lighting, appliances and paint / wall upgrades are some of the more expensive but dubious cost wise from the builder. In cases of floors and appliances they often will offer you a credit as well for not having to do them. Size of credit and if it is worth it or not varies.
We've never accepted builder appliances and have always done our own. Flooring we done our own once. Lighting we've never paid for upgrades. Same with crown and chair rails. Pretty trivial to do that later. Kitchens we tend to fully upgrade with the builder. Cabinets and granite are expensive anyway you go and it's a PIA to do later. Bathrooms, we tend to upgrade the master fully and depending on cost it can be worth it or not for the others. Size, vanity location and all the little details can make spare bathrooms trivial to upgrade down the road yourself. Paint, we let them paint it the color we choose. They usually will charge a lot extra per wall is you want to do something different. We've always just painted it ourselves. We also run our own low voltage stuff. Those Ethernet drops can get expensive.
The best builders will work with you. The cookie cutter ones will be take it or leave it.