I can not bring myself to stick up for Shelly even on the basis of principles that I would normally stand up for just about anyone on. So, as much as I loathe to speak directly to her, I will offer her this bit of sage wisdom:
Shelly,
This is why I warned you not to post personal information on the Internet and not to leave too large an internet footprint. I stopped you in the past from posting your phone number on an open and visible profile. In fact, I stopped you from doing it on two sites: Facebook and Myspace.
Whether you ever accept anything I say at face value, it would behoove you to accept this. These guys know exactly where to draw the line to stop Internet shenanigans from turning into Internet vigilantism. If you don"t know the difference, you don"t want to. This is an "I told you so" moment.
Now, though I hold myself back from despising you on the single moral basis that it is tiring to hate anybody, I offer you some advice. From this point forward, it would be in your best interest to make your life private. Be careful what personal information you post, and hide your profiles behind a shroud of anonymity.
Yes, I have a site that includes my name and consolidates my profiles to one link list. That is something I shall have to remedy thanks to our so thorough airing of dirty laundry; and something I will maintain the integrity to wait to remedy until things die down a bit. But I am not a 4"2" woman in glasses with a small child. You are more vulnerable than I, and being female, were you to walk down the street with nothing of value on your person and in the most tattered and worthless clothing you could find, then you would still carry on your person something of value to some people.
Be more careful. I might not care enough to type out this lecture that I offered in kind sentiment in person so many times only to have you reject it as you did everything I said, but you are a mother of a small child. Were I you, then I would be dropping to my knees and picking a god to thank that this is happening here and not on certain other websites that shall remain nameless (it"s best not to invoke the devil by name, so-to-speak).
The way I see it, you have a lot of online work to do in order to be safe and responsible. Given the turn that things have taken, you should begin that work as soon as possible. Now, you may balk at this warning once more, but having delivered this bit of common sense publicly, I will not repeat it again.
I can"t believe I"m even bothering. Past behavior considered, her response to this will likely be to post her phone number, address, and bank information. Pointless is pointless, and I"m sure this post is of little more productivity than farting into the wind.
Carry on, gentlemen.