Yes IMO - my wife and I spent about 2k including ring / dress. We had a potluck wedding and we make pretty good money. Save the money for a down payment on a house. Or a new car. Or hell even the honey moon I guess. On the otherhand, if the wife isn't on board with a potluck type smaller wedding, good luck to ya.
Yes, it's very stupid. Unfortunately it's not always easy to convince the chick that it's stupid. Obviously, it's all relative to how wealthy you are.
Any woman that thinks you need to spend money on a wedding/ring is no woman worth marrying.
I don't really disagree with this, but man... a lot of time you can't even blame her. Blame all the older women in her family trying to live vicariously through her. Weddings are a goddamn fiasco and for most of the weddings I've been to where i knew the bride and groom well enough to know what planning it was like... their families are the ones who get what they want more than bride and groom do.
Send boat for me, almost down to the dollar amounts.
My thoughts too, unless people are giving you 5 grand cash which maybe people do but no one in my family/friends.
People who spend a lot on weddings are statistically much more likely to divorce.
I don't know how this could be accurately assessed, but my frugal nature leads me to believe that it's true and the root cause is financial instability from the incurred wedding debt. I can't imagine how much of an added stress a big wedding would've been on our relationship. My wife and I eloped, which was a first for both of our families, but no one pressured us into a ceremony. Yeah, we missed out on the "gifts," but do you really need 3 quesadilla makers and 5 toasters?
There are a few articles on it but essentially there is a correlation to every 5k spent and years to divorce--growing shorter with more money spent. Studies didn't show the direct cause of action, though. So who knows. I imagine, as you said, a large debt isn't good for a marriage, since most marriages end from financial issues anyway--but it could also be a lot of things (Maybe people with large marriages tend to have very domineering families? Or partners? ect)
Np! I loaded it up with warnings, because that's kind of how it was front loaded for us. But as said, they are all pretty happy. Obviously I can't know for sure how things are at their homes, but the guys never seem off or unhappy when we get together for game nights. And in the one guys case (The one who isn't also openly with someone else) he's said they have sex almost constantly, and that being so honest about sensitive issues (Especially the emotional stuff behind it) has made it seem silly to find it awkward to talk about other issues they used to have problems discussing (like bedroom discussions to even finance.)
It's all in good fun bro, but I'm actually the one who told you in IRC to cut off all contact and work things out with your wife, well before you ever admitted it was Lori.
The toasters no, but being able to make 3 quesadillas at a time would be amazing.
