Soygen
The Dirty Dozen For the Price of One
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Marriage and the Power of Divorce
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Guest, did you like the last podcast notification?? Well here's the second one, and for the third podcast! Yep. This Thursday 8-8-24 at 7pm Central
Go here to check out his podcast thread for info on topics and links!Go into the FoH discord and find the Happy Time Fun Hour channel and give it a listen!
lindz
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Not at all. But like Noodle said a couple pages ago, I've been with him since I was a teenager. Everything that I was, was my husband, my kids, my family. I essentially had no identity of my own. I'm not that anymore but that doesn't mean I love any of them any less.
Soygen
The Dirty Dozen For the Price of One
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Almost every person I've known who was in a marriage with their teenage sweetheart had an eventual 'waking up' where they wanted to explore outside the relationship. It's only natural. I'm 40 as of this year and am only now considering proposing to my girlfriend of almost 4 years. This would be the first relationship where I have done so. I can't imagine having been with the same person since a teenager up until this point. Even 4 years in it's a challenge to stay faithful sometimes. It's not normal to be monogamous, but it's also not always easy to come to an agreement about that kind of thing with your significant other.
Crone
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Not to derail from the fun topic of cuckolding but how'd you manage to identify? Can be brief if you want. I get the feeling that my wife is falling into this trap where her whole life as a stay at home Mom, which I believe you were as well, is just the kids. She never thinks about doing something fun for herself, or with me and her together, she just feels resigned to being a Mom and that's just how things go. I got her a new Kindle Paperwhite, and she tried to get me to return it claiming she doesn't need it. Said no, she started using it, and a couple days later she told me how glad she was she had it, and it was so great. She's so far down the rabbit hole she doesn't even know how to have fun anymore? I don't know.
lindz
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Therapy was the start of it.
I struggled with depression for ~15 years and the lowest point in my life a few years back. It was bad enough I finally got help. Did therapy for 6 months, on anti depressants for a year. But really what it was, is that I found something for myself that I loved. For me it was a career. As someone who had dropped out of college to get married and move across the world, had kids by 22 and felt totally hopeless that I could every have anything more, working towards that career did everything for me. It took away that sense of hopelessness, gave me value.
What I needed to realize was that it is ok to be selfish sometimes. Sometimes I can do things for myself and sure it'll be an inconvenience for my husband, but that's ok sometimes. We all need that.
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chaos
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I don't really look at that as selfish. When I do something for my career, really it's for my family as a whole. We all benefit. Trying to get my wife to see things the same way so she will prioritize her career or whatever she wants to do but yeah, doesn't seem to work.
Kirun
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ROFL. It would feel really "weird" to lie and that's your hangup, but not to actually fuck another dude?
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Noodleface
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Cad
scientia potentia est
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Lying to your spouse is actually a much more depraved act than having casual sex with someone with your spouses consent/urging. Why would you think its not? You don't think dishonesty in a relationship is a big deal?
Lenas
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I can't relate. Have been with my wife for 12 years, 18 to 30. We are own people without having sex with others. Good luck but I expect a Lindz49 thread in the future.
Khane
Got something right about marriage
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You can't relate to wondering what you might have missed? What other people might be like? What life would be like if you were single through your 20s? Never wondered about ANY of that? Can't relate to what she's talking about at all? None of that means you don't love the person you're with or wish things were different. Our minds aren't on rails.
You sound full of it honestly. It's hard to take someone who acts so morally superior seriously.
Cad
scientia potentia est
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Also ya'll need to separate the thought of "I need to have sex with others" from "baby it is a turn on for us to get into sexy situations involving others together." You guys are (mostly) viewing what she's saying through the lens of "I'm bored of you and want to bone other guys" when it's actually more like "you are enough of a turn on to me that getting to enjoy you being sexy in a lot of other situations turns me on as well as just being alone with you in our bedroom."
It's not just about "I need variety in my sex" it's about group or other situations being a turn on.
But even if it is, thats ok too and you guys are acting very closed-minded and judgmental.
It's not just about "I need variety in my sex" it's about group or other situations being a turn on.
But even if it is, thats ok too and you guys are acting very closed-minded and judgmental.
Lenas just said he can't relate. Disagreeing doesn't make him close minded, judgmental, morally superior or full of it. He just doesn't agree with this point of view.
Noodleface
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I also thought I read that it was mostly women that have this sort of sexual awakening between those ages whereas guys sort of just know what they want all along.
I'm pulling this info out of my ass but pretty sure I read it.
I'm pulling this info out of my ass but pretty sure I read it.
Gavinmad
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