Marriage and the Power of Divorce

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opiate82_sl said:
For my wedding my parents gave us $10k up front, said we can do whatever the heck we wanted with it. Then each of my wife's parents (split family) chipped in $5k each. My parents were like "have a wedding, save it for a house payment, do whatever you want with it." I have a feeling my wife's parents only chipped in because of the wedding and wouldn't have given us the cash otherwise. We covered probably another $5k out of our own pockets. For gifts we got about $10k in cash, $5k in kitchen shit, and another ~$3k worth of random stuff.

For a fully catered party $100 per person doesn't sound that unreasonable, wedding or otherwise. Even my college parties which included no food, shitty beer and a disgusting "venue" usually looked for everyone to chip in around $20 per head. If you filter out some expenses that were just for us, like the photography, rings, etc. probably closer to $75 per person. Included a steak dinner and all you could drink (craft) beer and nice wine. Pretty easy to rack up a $75 per person bill just going out for a nice dinner.

Could you throw a giant party for cheaper, sure, but nothing wrong with being a little fancy for once-in-a-lifetime-event.
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Where and when did you go to college? Because where I went to college kegs of natty or keystone light were 36 bucks and with people only chipping in $5 we still made money. A lot of money in fact.

By the way $100 is 5x as much as $20 even at your expensive ass heineken sipping parties!
 
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We wanted cash for our wedding but people were asking about our registry. So we put relatively expensive stuff on the registry figuring people would say fuck it and give cash instead.

Someone did show up with the bigass Kichenaid stand mixer I asked for.
 
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Wedding registries are for showers. We got basically everything between the two wedding showers my wife had and her huge family just randomly buying stuff for us. They are very generous.
 
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Volto!_sl said:
Just got engaged. Is it stupid to spend a lot of money on a wedding? My gut feeling is that it is. Can you married folk weigh in?
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Depends entirely on what she and your family are down with. It's not completely stupid if it keeps harmony in the family. I think the way I did it worked out great, we just basically decided to throw a great party. We had a $6k budget (we went over a little). If the family wants a bigger to-do, tell them they can pay for it. For instance, I didn't want pictures so my mom paid for the photographer.

If you do anything bigger than a backyard BBQ, be sure to get a wedding planner. Even if it's not a professional wedding planner, get someone to handle that shit so you and the missus don't get stressed. I had my sister do it because she's a great party planner and loved all that wedding shit anyway. Actually, it might be good to have one even in the backyard BBQ scenario. The venue was the most expensive item by a long shot, so if you want to save money, find someone to donate the venue. But most importantly, figure out a budget first that won't hurt too bad.

We didn't make any money on our wedding because we told everyone to give to our favorite charity in lieu of gifts. We did actually go around make registries, but that was because it was fun. We never would have given it to anyone because I kept putting shit like lingerie on it. And tires, and guns.
 
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We spent about $15K for a wedding for about ~100 peeps. Not counting the honeymoon. And no it was not worth it. Me and wife both agree that the money could of been so much more useful for some other shit while we were trying to start out our lives. Yeah we got a bit of it back in gifts and shit, but never to fully pay for it. I mean, its not like we were hurting for money back then, as we both worked, but we definitely could of used that cash for some other shit.

We should have gotten married at the courthouse, had party for close friends and family, and then had a nice honeymoon.
 
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$15k is a lot to spend in my book, and some of you other guys have mentioned $25k territory, clearly a lot of money for a wedding. But 7 of my cousins are women, and my entire family is from Long Island. 2 of my cousins got married last year. Price tags for those weddings? $65k and $58k. Now THAT is impossible to justify under any circumstances. And they weren't even very good parties. You start getting into that kind of price range and the entire event becomes about as pretentious as humanly possible. Stuffy and just not very fun. They both had Antipasto hours.
 
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The food wasn't very good. They were paying for ridiculously cliche shit like a bucket of liquid nitrogen so they could slow dance in a cloud of fog.
 
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No, because then the fog goes higher than 6 inches off the ground. It needs to look like a swamp from an 80s puppet movie to be romantic Tenks. You filthy casual.
 
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All I was saying is there's a surcharge on anything wedding related. No fucking way I'd dance in cheap fog at my wedding, that's dumber than calling 5 years a breakpoint on mortgage interest.
 
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I'd ask Tarrant to clothesline my wife down a flight of stairs if she started talking about liquid nitrogen for romantic fog at a wedding.
 
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