Marriage and the Power of Divorce
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Noodleface
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I've never been deprived, although it's easy for her to blow me off (non sexually) but if I do it I must not love her.
Namon
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We went through a period where I was wholesale convinced my wife was asexual, but thankfully that went away after some very heartfelt (and heated) discussions. And Noodle also hit on something, there sometimes is a double standard of expectations where if they do something it's no big deal, but when the guy does it? Holy shit, are you ready to divorce me now? Now, instead of letting it get to me, I instantly point it out in a light manner that makes the situation funny, instead of tense, and she gets the point.
Cad
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I'm not really referring to withholding in particular used punitively or for bargaining (although that is also shitty) just picture yourself at 10pm and you were pretty tired and your husband/boyfriend starts snuggling up to you, kissing your neck, etc.. you know what he wants. And you're just like "fuck off Bob, I am tired. Maybe tomorrow." And you've probably done it 100 times and not thought about it, because you know if you're available tomorrow, he'll be good to go tomorrow too.
For the guy, just picture how women act if we seem the slightest bit uninterested, if we don't show reciprocation at the slightest advance, the unbelievable hurt feelings the woman has. You didn't even wake your man up, he had no idea what was going on, and you were "obliterated". Now you probably realize that's a little unfair, but thats also a pretty extreme scenario. The day to day rejections that men get because they are expected to always make the move, they are expected to always desire the woman, etc. are there. Meanwhile women routinely shit on men and then have the nerve to complain that there aren't any decent men around.
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No doubt you're actually a women. A man could never conceive a story that so stereotypically sums up the oddity of a woman's thought process particularly relating to sex.
I've told my wife the only thing I don't want to do is schedule sex, so what does she do Sunday? "We're going to have sex every day this week" which actually means she wants 3 minutes of missionary pounding until orgasm at 9 pm immediately after we've showered, then to look around and rub my arms and shit while i try to orgasm in that miserable position.
1 year anniversary in a month, gonna be a rough 50 years.
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Cad
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Nester
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Dude, if you don't like missionary, when she is done, slip your left hand under her back, drop your right shoulder and roll to the right. Pull her on to you with your left arm. she will roll on top of you and now your out of that position...and getting ridden like a champ. Grab those hips arch that back and blast away.
Sometimes this is ok, sometimes not. I was thinking of implementing a no missionary policy but its prob more mature to do it your way.
She seems to have way better orgasms when she's on top but doesn't seem very interested in doing it. I don't know if she's lazy or worried about image or what.
Also i remember the last time we talked sex you guys mentioned the hand on throat thing. I used to do that a ton, so i tried it again recently. Nope, Hand grabbed and moved.
90% chance she'll scream in pain because i Indian burned her back or some shit.
Sometimes now i feel like I'm fucking in an Intel clean room and she is a cpu. Which would be fine if it wasn't a complete 180 from before.
Soygen
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Sometimes you just need to be dominant and let your woman know that it's ok to be a complete whore in the bedroom. Take charge. If that doesn't work, you didn't get that advice from me.
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Cad
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I'd break that rut before you get in it. Also don't allow her to orgasm in 3 minutes. If you can tell she's about to, stop before she can. Make her work for it a few times, drag it out. Right when she's about to, switch positions and then work back up to it, and then let her finish about 2/3rds of the way when you're ready. Then you're almost there anyway. And don't stay missionary if you dont' like it.
iannis
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I give it five years before you start to long for the times of 3 minutes of sex per day!
Seriously though. It kinda sounds like a phase, doesn't it? We all go through them. Give it a month.
That's exactly how it was before and she was and it was great. Now it's just ow! or no! And it really doesn't take much of that before I'm outtie.
Cad
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Soygen
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I agree with Cad. A sudden change like that warrants discussion. Don't let shit like this fester quietly. It's often a relationship destroyer.
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iannis
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It's quite possible. Wifely duties?
If that's what it is, Cad's right. You gotta nip that shit in the bud. Like start being super nice and lovey or something and don't fuck her for a while. Or maybe tell her that she doesn't HAVE to put out every single day, there ain't nothing wrong with "when you feel like it". Or something.
Never been married so I don't really know. But it's probably one of those things where you can just talk to her before bed or before she prepares herself to be mounted. "Uhh. Honey. Doesn't this seem the least bit like an odd arrangement to you?".
