So, 11 years in we finally announced to the fam that we're getting married.
Was given two options- big ass wedding a la my sister's, or parents will cut a check for the difference in what they'd pay for a smaller, more intimate event. Going with the second as I don't really have that much wedding hype.
Plan was to go to city hall and just get the legal ceremony out of the way, then do the event afterwards this spring. I was informed that this isn't an option and that both sets of parents and my sister/her husband have every intention of being present of the justice of the peace ceremony.
The problem is thus. A day after we announced this and the proper folks were informed, Maria hit Puerto Rico. His father and his partner are there at the moment. They're doing just fine- their house was up on a height of land, part of a recently-built complex, and sustained minimal structural damage. His dad's a smart guy and filled the gas tanks of every vehicle they had so they could keep the generator going, they're splitting up to hit the markets so they can get double rations. But they're not going to be leaving any time soon. His wife/partner (who, frankly, I have a bad history with) works in insurance. They own another house in the Florida panhandle, but no word yet as to when they'll be getting out. The wife's company sent down a private jet that offloaded supplies and picked up employees who wanted to get out, but I guess she opted to stay behind. Probably had to, given she's mid-level brass.
Thing is, there was a reason for the sudden rush to get legally married. The boy started a new job with the Red Cross recently, but the nice-ass insurance he now gets is not a +1 policy. We have to be married for me to be covered, and I am currently going without health insurance. This is something that could be rectified by me getting on MassHealth but after the fucking rigamarole I went through a few years back trying to get a policy through them, I don't have high hopes of getting covered in a relatively timely manner.
I know it's selfish as hell, but I am very uncomfortable going without insurance. We're now stalled in moving forward because we have to wait for his side of the family to get settled enough to come out here and be here for the event. Am I wrong in thinking they should 'be okay' with only being present at the after ceremony?