Marriage and the Power of Divorce

Mrs. Gravy said:

I He is fine physically, a bit more distressed that he didn't just hit the deer (and is very worried about the well-being of the woman)...but who knows what would have happened if he did

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He'd quite possibly be dead right now. He made the right decision. Its a shame about the crest. Those are my worst nightmare, many people go over and down crests here without staying in their lane just out of habit near twists and turns.

Gives me that rollercoaster feeling every time. Had some close calls without deer. A crash and a deer would have me really shaken up too. This will take some time for Steady to process.

Are we converting to Islam yet? We can put our women in bedsheets and only let them out while escorted to prevent all of the accidental dicks slipping into their many orrifices much easier if we did.

Soygen said:

You'll never catch me!

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Soyboys can't run very fast, so he probably will catch you.

Mrs. Gravy said:

I am anxious AF; Steady was coming to my house last night and less than a block away in a nasty accident; deer ran in front of him, startled, he swerved to miss it, on way back into his lane, car crested the hill towards him; hit each other's left front fenders, she was able to get out of her car with assistance from our local fire guys (love them) and she went to hospital to be checked out. He declined care - had to crawl out the back of his car when he heard her vocalizing and when to check on her (Toyota Camry I think was what she was in), he was driving his older Jeep Grand Cherokee; neither drive-able. He is fine physically, a bit more distressed that he didn't just hit the deer (and is very worried about the well-being of the woman)...but who knows what would have happened if he did. Anyway; it scared the fuck out of me. I was calm then and tried to remain calm and collected last night and today before I let him use my extra car to get home. (He has crappy insurance...easier to just let him use the car that sits idle in my driveway; note- added him to my insurance to cover my ass...)
Seriously, this fucking week...
I am supposed to be goddamn Pollyanna - where is that walk on the sunny side of the street Tracy?
I am finding myself wanting to build up walls against caring more deeply about him; it would be so much easier to not worry about another person again. If I would have had to ID a body instead of just arranging a tow truck I would be a raving fucking lunatic right now.
I can't say this anywhere else.
Thanks for putting up with my shit.

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Well, you already know it could have been worse. So take comfort that it was't, and make sure he sees a doctor ASAP. Being able to walk away doesn't mean you're OK. Neck/spine injuries can take time to show up.

moonarchia said:

Well, you already know it could have been worse. So take comfort that it was't, and make sure he sees a doctor ASAP. Being able to walk away doesn't mean you're OK. Neck/spine injuries can take time to show up.

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This is good advice, and it doesn't add to your stress, it adds to your peace of mind.

I thought you're supposed to drive through deer (serious)?

Noodleface said:

I thought you're supposed to drive through deer (serious)?

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No, they usually end up in the driver's seat, with a dead or seriously injured driver.

Nah, deer don't do that, moose do. Driving into deer the right way can pretty much guarantee destroying your car, but being safe.

Sorry I wasn't judging, I was curious. I actually got hit by a deer a few years ago and it nearly totalled my car (ran into the side of my car while we were driving)

moonarchia said:

No, they usually end up in the driver's seat, with a dead or seriously injured driver.

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In case this was serious advice -- no, always hit the deer. It may "total" your car depending on insurance details but it wont hurt you. Swerving to avoid the deer stands a very real chance of ending one or more human lives.

Source: I've hit several deer over the years.

in my mid-20's I went into a ditch to avoid being hit by another car who left the scence. My insurances company sited me and told me that I needed to let the other automobile hit me to be considered not at fault.

Mrs. Gravy said:

He said exactly that, that he should have driven through it. I know the spot though as I pass it twice a day, the deer was right at the tree line and in between a row of grapes that are all bundled. It was night and from the direction he was traveling, one could not see a deer until right in front of them and into the road. Honestly, it would surprise anyone, even those of us who know to watch.
I would think it would take practice to be able to have the wherewithal to not swerve. I think I shall practice. I shall start small, like with squirrels or nasty neighbors.

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Its tough to say. I was driving down a very steep stretch of highway down a steep drop that has a lot of length, about 2-3 miles long of a 70 degree downslope that goes into a basin then rises back up-- basically a huge mile long dip in the highway.

I ride with my high beams on afterhours because I'm usually doing a little bit of speed and I've got an in-dash directional radar system with multiple sensors installed in the front, sides, and rear of the vehicle. They squeeze off anything at anyone else, even 2 miles out and I'll hear about it and where they are located. I learned pretty quickly the State police around here and in the neighboring states don't run Active Radar (a technology police use that automatically fires radar. Its mounted on the cruiser), or use any radar at all afterhours. Not once in 5-6 years have I seen a State cop afterhours ever tag anyone with radar. I figured out they want those after-midnight stops, so they just eyeball everyone for suspected violations. This makes a lot of sense if you think about it. Not using radar allows them to form a reasonable suspicion to stop anyone at any time and ask how fast they are going.

So since I can't detect State cops with radar, that's where the high beams come into play. All the vehicles have super reflective paint. This reflection is visible up to 0.25+ miles greater with your beams on before you can even see the cruiser. That's enough time to quickly shave 30mph off and pass by like nothing happened. So I got into the habit of riding with high beams past midnight for the past several years, when the roads are clear.

So anyway at the bottom of this dip, I see a WHOLE PACK OF DEERS and at least 3 of them standing in my lane on top of each other like stacked up-- thanks to the beams. This all goes down in less than 1 second but felt like 10-15 seconds of Max Payne video game/Matrix movie bullet time. I apply brakes in a tense but controlled fashion and begin to calmly shift the steering wheel to the left. 2 of the deers began to "sidestep" the car as it slides and fishtails to the left from the breaking and steering. 1 deer still hasn't moved but I'm in a fishtail so its now up to the deer to decide. I'm 10 feet away from this deer moving diagonally to the left at 60mph (all I could safely cut down to) and the fucking deer isn't moving. I say "NOOOOOOOO DEER..." in defeat. It is looking directly at me and I'm looking at the deer, urging it. At what is now the last millisecond to walk its hind deer legs to safety, and away from my left bumper-- it casually steps out of the way of the wheel almost like it just decided how close the car was to its body and acts like nothing just happened. I wanted to stop and roll down the window and shout at the lot of them, telling them how stupid they are for gathering in the middle of a clearing. Deers are supposed to hate clearings, idiot deer!

If I didn't ride beams afterhours I'd have hit no less than 3 full grown deer, possibly 4. Kudos to the State cops.

Well at least you can speed