Marriage and the Power of Divorce

Phazael said:

Who the fuck is talking rape dungeon? The basic advice here is be a man and assert that. Basic fuckingnbiology and relationship 101. Or is being a man analogous to rape now? His wife is the one into the choking thing,after all.

Also Noodle, no offense, but until your wife has an orgasm and you have a clean house, I dont think you are the arbiter of good advice on this front. Leave it to the married bros WITHOUT fuck trophies. Honestly Khane is giving the sanest advice here, imo.

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You're right. Let's only get advice from the same echo chamber as always.

I know what Lendarios meant - but the way he said it "next time we argue I'm going to rape you unless you stop me" seems like a pretty big leap from what's being outlined as vanilla sex. You guys are taking massive liberties here without knowing ANY of the dude's story. He's habitually witholding information. But you're right.

This place fucking sucks anyways. Good riddance.

I give it another year before the sada abe wiki is getting quoted for marriage advice.

Yea! We need every ass we can find in this thread!

Nothing brings us together like a little ass play

Bro, I don't want to let my blue hair show too much in this thread, but that's not how open discussion and consent works. That isn't the version of that conversation that is going to help make the changes in Grabbit's relationship that he is looking for, or that is going to slowly coax his wife from vanilla WoW to TBC

Hi honey have a seat.

Wait hold on a minute. I'm masturbating.

Noodle,

You're absolutely right that I'm not completely forthcoming about my situation. It's because I'm not comfortable talking about my close-to-the-vest shit. It's not because I'm a bitch waiting for you to pull my teeth.

I said what I had to say and only offered more when I had a couple people suggest that I'm some borderline subhuman philanderer. I wear my heart on my sleeve and I get defensive about my character quickly. It is what it is.

I appreciate all of the advice and some of it was valuable, but I genuinely have to laugh at some of it because you're talking to me like I'm a relationship and sex novice. Before I got married I'd slept with 70 to 80 women (of all types) over about 10 years. That's a reasonable sample size of experience to draw from.

I know my wife likes to be dominated. I've done it regularly in the past. Again, you're missing the point. She's absolutely willing to absorb all the attention and sex I'm willing to give her (and loves it), but she gives almost nothing in return. It has nothing to do with 'coming at her correct.' She's just selfish and sexually/emotionally lazy. It's gone on for long enough that I resent it and I take little jabs here and there (like telling her about the nudes).

I suppose all I was ultimately looking for was a bro-fist and "chin up, soldier." I essentially got it.

Case closed.

If you didn't come here to be told you need to eat ass, I don't even understand what you're doing.

Having opened up (relatively speaking) to you guys has inspired me to take some tangible steps forward.

Last night we agreed she'd stop taking birth control, she'd eat more (she doesn't starve herself, but works too hard and eats too little in order to maintain her figure), and I'm sending her today for a massively comprehensive blood panel (hormones, thyroid, all of it).

Each of those things could be an element in her behavior because, as I've said, it hasn't always been this way.

Deathwing said:

I don't know what is about women that like being dominated, but it seems to correlate quite strongly with, as you put it, being sexually lazy. My wife sometimes bristles when I ask her sex questions that require her to think or offer her opinion. I imagine she'd be quite happy never having to initiate sex or tell me what she's thinking.

It would be nice to hear "hey, I want your dick in my ass" or something similar once a while, something that reinforces that she's participating instead of passively going along for the ride. I posit that you can do that and still be a sub, I think she thinks otherwise but we haven't touched on the subject in a bit(see previous posts in thread).

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This guy, fucks.

Exactly. You get it.

I think it depends on the woman, obv, but its a mix of things. It takes them out of that moment, can be uncomfortable. Like, if the fantasy is she wants you to tie her up and fuck her mouth, for some sub women saying the words "tie me up and fuck my mouth" is not just difficult but breaks the fantasy in some ways. idk man, get that frustration, I wish I had a magic cure. Lots of conversing, dirty talk, watching porn, etc. is all I got.