Marriage and the Power of Divorce

Cad said:

If you don't want to pay for her kids, I'd make an excuse and get out now. Otherwise, there's only two outcomes... either you feel guilty and pay, or you keep a hard line and don't pay, and it ends up being a point of contention and ends the relationship anyway.

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Falxy-US said:

So, I've been with my girlfriend for almost a year and a half or so. I have one child, she has three (8, 9, 16), her ex pays his monthly $1500 child support, but that's it, and has very little to do with his kids, and barely supports them otherwise. She makes around $45,000/yr. I have a child (7).

This is my fear: when it comes time to college, how much am I going to get roped into paying for tuition, apartments, vehicles, insurance, etc? I know yall can't answer this for me, but what happened in your experiences of a mixed family with the ex being a person of limited means? I have a 529 for my daughter, to pay for her tuition and living, but this is something I have planned, and have contributed to monthly since she was born, and when she hits college she is covered.

So say we get married, she makes the $45,000, I make much much more than that. So sometimes I feel like people see me as the Bank of Falxy. I don't think she's into me for my money, but I do think I'll be tasked with helping out a lot of people that I haven't planned for. My financial plans include cutting back and semi-retiring in the next year. They don't include working extra to pay for apartments, electricity, vehicles, insurance, etc until her 8 year old is out of college.

To be fair, she's never asked me for even $1. She and her ex were able to put money together to purchase the 16 year old a vehicle and I think he pays the insurance on it, but he's a financial mess and very inconsistent, like late with child support, and has been barely employed since all the covid nonsense. But, you know how it is, if you get married, your finances end up together, and then "our money" (even thought she makes a fraction of what I make) is now paying insurance, vehicles, apartments, etc.

I hadn't really considered much of this in the past. My friend has a stepson, and says how he bought him a truck, etc, and the dad doesn't do shit.

Also it complicates things for eventually moving in together, like if we did it now, we'd have to have a minimum 4 bedroom house, etc, and anything decent four bedroom here is ridiculously expensive, and I'm moving out of my house to pay cash for a much smaller house because I want to scale back and semi-retire, not take on an even larger debt burden.

So what do you do when your lifes financial plans don't match your hearts? And what have yall done in the past with second marriages when kids are involved?

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Hoss said:

I have to admit I've fucked girls uglier than him. I appreciate his honesty though. Back when I was dating there were more than enough tranny chasers out there to keep the trannies busy.

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fris said:

Our new J44 is missing something, can't quite see it....

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TJT said:

This is some high school level cringe bruv. Old Boy has won, he's the one marrying that whore. You're the one sitting at home thinking about how you can lay it on him that you fooled around with his whore wife. All the while you are the one wanting her.

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Ossoi said:

This is true. I've lusted after her for a while - any man would, she's super hot and she's legitimately one of those people that has an "aura" about her - and yeah, there's only ever been the one occasion where we did anything remotely intimate.





if by won you mean:

1. Got engaged to a girl that thinks he's a sociopath, knows their relationship is toxic/abusive but stays because she is too fucked up to enjoy a "normal" relationship and gets off on the danger.

2. Got engaged to a pro Dominatrix / Onlyfans model who shoots hardcore fetish porn every week and who keeps two "permanent" subs at her beck and call

3. Got engaged to a girl that was on holiday with her ex and found a random local to fuck in order to spite him. Keeps tinder on her phone and pulls it out during arguments and threatens to find random dudes off it.

4. Got engaged to a girl whose emotional intelligence consists of "come to the illegal parties I organise even though you don't want to risk it getting busted by the police and losing your lawyer job because if you don't I'll break up with you"

5. Got engaged to a self described "bipolar, narccissistic party girl" with a cocaine habit, who apparently makes you do cocaine occasionally even though you don't want to". And who is out almost every weekend getting drunk/high

6. Got engaged to a girl whose schedule nowhere near matches your own, hence you sleep in separate beds

7. Got engaged to a girl who went on holiday with another dude, let him eat her pussy and thinks it's no big deal because she knows you're obsessed with her and she can get away with it


She's a prize in that she's super hot, super kinky but there is no way she is relationship/wife material. Especially not for a lawyer - they just aren't compatible at all. If me and him actually spoke then I would ask "dude, where the fuck are your friends" because there seems to be nobody stating the obvious to him.

It will all end in tears at some point, for both of them - she told me before the engagement that he "could destroy me if he wanted"

I think the dude is a fucking idiot for ignoring the multiple red flags, but at the same time I sympathise because I know that if she lived down the road from me and was interested, then I'd probably go "ahh what's the worst that can happen" and give it a shot

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