Lejina
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Hah yeah, I was expecting a different ending than him just telling her thanks but no thanks when she's asking him to come in.
Marriage and the Power of Divorce
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Xequecal
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Personally, I think this is a defense mechanism to avoid facing the truth. Because, you know, if women are consistently choosing men who beat them over you, what does that say about you?
Julian The Apostate
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Did not disappoint. Now do the opposite. Sane, ambitious, money-making chick that you can't bring yourself to fuck.
Cad
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Khane
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Essentially what it boils down to is us having little in common. Just no crossover in what we enjoy doing in our free time so essentially we run out of things to talk about and connect on by date 3. Date 1 & 2 revolve mostly around talking about college, where we are from (I'm not originally from CT), what we do for work. After that's done, the boredom sets in. I'm sure it's a mutual thing.
Cad
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So why not date people you have stuff in common with in the first place?
Or, instead of doing "sit down and talk" dates, why not do active dates where you will create things you have in common by doing them together?
Joeboo
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I would have walked out on that after the interaction with the waiter/drink situation. People who belittle servers are always wastes of human space. It's an instant sign that they are arrogant assholes.
Khane
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Oh my God! Cad! You've shown me the light!
Come on man...
There is no way to tell if you have a lot of things in common with someone before a first date. I'm not doing keg stands at house parties anymore. I'm 31 goddamn years old.
As for creating things we will do together... that's a joke right? You want me to create hobbies with a stranger on our first date...
Cad
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Do you not talk to them prior to asking them out?
And no, second date would be fine. Just say "hey lets go do X" rather than dinner/movie/talk. If you constantly get bored talking, why not do something different?
I'm forever torn between the sweet, caretaking motherly type that isn't very smart or a really smart girl who is kinda cold. I've only met one female ever who had both and she was a 55 year old professor.
I'm drawn strongly to the warm, sweet girls, but they can be boring. I'm pretty introverted though so I think I need that.
I'm drawn strongly to the warm, sweet girls, but they can be boring. I'm pretty introverted though so I think I need that.
Khane
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Yes but people tend to present themselves differently or in a way they think will garner the most attention on the internet. The women I meet out in actual everyday life I can generally get a handle on, but the internet dating shit? Not at all. Besides, that's kind of the purpose of dating. If there was a way to know everything about someone after a few passing comments this whole process would be moot.
Because that's just delaying the inevitable? And who goes to the movies on a date? I'm not 15.
You seem to think there is some magic silver bullet that allows people to only go on dates with someone they are certain they are interested in.
Eomer
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I dunno, in my experience most chicks only bang one guy at a time. Single dudes, yeah, they'll fuck anything until some chick locks them down. Single women, if they're dating multiple guys at early stages, will tend to string a few along before picking one to bang. And then keep stringing the others along for a while longer until the fuckable guy either locks her down or eliminates himself, and she moves on to the next. They might have multiple sexual partners over a short time frame, but generally they're not banging multiple guys in any given week.
I don't really judge. Personally I've never dated and banged multiple chicks at the same time. Seems like too much shit to juggle at once.
Cad
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Firstly; don't be so defensive, not trying to attack you.
Maybe it's because I've been married a long time and just showing my age, but I'd probably get to know people in real life before asking them out. I meet people at things I'm doing so I don't think I'd have any shortage of potential dates. But most of them, I already know I'm uninterested in. If I was just randomly stabbing at profiles on the internet I think of course you'd probably be incompatible with most if not all.
My comment about "don't you talk to them before asking them out?" was along with this line of thinking. Get to know people, go out and meet folks, etc - do activities where people would be present. If you meet someone that shows some interest and you are interested in, THEN ask them out. Asking them out and then getting to know them while on the dates, seems like doing things in reverse order, which is why you're expecting sparks but there aren't any.
My .02 - again I could be totally wrong because I haven't dated in earnest since before the internet, really.
Khane
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The dating world just doesn't really work like that. Going out with someone and getting to know them, that's great. They call that a date.
Noodleface
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I asked my wife out on the spot without knowing her. We had fairly similar interests with quite a few that were different from eachother. It provides a nice variety. Like a balanced Venn diagram.