Marriage and the Power of Divorce

Noodleface · Feb 25, 2015

Deathwing_sl said:
These are the same people that like their steaks well done? Better off without them.

Except the dad and my wife, he's ok with medium. Everyone else though, yes.

Itlan · Feb 25, 2015

I don't have a single memory of my parents being happy together. Nothing but pure hatred and animosity from the time I was 5 until my dad left (I think I was 13). Never had a relationship with him until I was about 17, and in a lot of ways I blame my mother for that shit. What I'm trying to say is, if you're no longer happy together, divorce each other and build independent relationships with your children. Fuck. It's not that hard people. I lost out on a childhood with my father because they wanted to spite each other and pit their children against the other parent.

I mean everything is copacetic now...

Also, fuck anyone who eats their steak well done. Black and blue for me.

Noodleface · Feb 25, 2015

I can't go black and blue, medium or medium rare is about it. We had this discussion and my family brought me up eating grey steaks and hers did as well. Something with how they cooked food in the 50-60's

Khane · Feb 25, 2015

Noodlemod_sl said:
I can't go black and blue, medium or medium rare is about it. We had this discussion and my family brought me up eating grey steaks and hers did as well. Something with how they cooked food in the 50-60's

Nah bro, it's just that women did all the household cooking in the 50's-60's and women fucking suck at cooking. Be thankful men can cook a meal at home without being treated like a pariah nowadays.

Itlan · Feb 25, 2015

I already made my chicken a lot more tender than my mom ever could, and don't even get into cooking a steak. My dad is a much better chef than my mother, though I'll never tell her that.

Noodleface · Feb 25, 2015

I wouldn't let me wife cook a steak, that's for damn sure

Itlan · Feb 25, 2015

My mom was kind of like my wife for the first 25 years.

Khane · Feb 25, 2015

Itlan_sl said:
My mom was kind of like my wife for the first 25 years.

Welp...

chaos · Feb 25, 2015

That's kind of hot. Not going to lie.

Frenzied Wombat · Feb 25, 2015

I can see both sides of the "stay together for the kids" scenario. For instance, I know a guy at work whose wife is a fucking Highland Park disaster zone. Basically rich house wife that gets drunk at Mi Cocina with the girlfriends before picking up the kids at school, wants to party all the time on the weekends, spends money like it's going out of style, and is not the least bit interested in demonstrating anything positive to her children. He basically knows his wife is a disaster, but if he was to divorce her he wouldn't be able to counter her retrograde influence on his daughters. He's basically their only hope of growing up normal/successful, because if his wife became the primary day to day influence, his daughters would guaranteed grow up to be just as vapid and superficial as their mom.

So it's basically damned if you do, damned if you don't. Stick together and the kids get to witness the meanest aspect of their parent's personality at a young age, or break up and concede your children's upbringing to your ex-spouse.

Khane · Feb 25, 2015

If that's true how would she get custody instead of him?

Cad · Feb 25, 2015

Khane_sl said:
If that's true how would she get custody instead of him?

Because mom. It's pretty rare for dads to get custody. They'll get joint custody and the mom will generally be the day-to-day. Although I live in HP (where Wombat is referring to) and see plenty of kids that spend Sunday-Wednesday at Dads and Wednesday-Saturday at mom's, or vice-versa. Joint custody and living close to each other makes it a lot easier. Of course then you get to buy two houses, and completely on your dime if the mom is a freeloader...

Khane · Feb 25, 2015

So much conflicting information.

Some of you say that's just not how it works anymore, others say the woman still gets half of everything AND the kids.

If she's an alcoholic freeloader and you can prove she's drinking and driving when picking up the kids will they still seriously give her custody?

Haast · Feb 25, 2015

Khane_sl said:
If that's true how would she get custody instead of him?

Unless she's been caught DWI with the kids in the car, being a vapid, lazy bitch isn't something you can really "prove" legally and isn't a reason to grant sole custody to the father anyway. Unless she is a complete basket case, her lawyer should be able to coach her into looking respectable in court. So assuming no criminal record, she'd probably have the upper hand on custody.

It might still be wise to divorce her if he hates her, but realistic best outcome is 50/50 custody.

Haast · Feb 25, 2015

Khane_sl said:
So much conflicting information.

Some of you say that's just not how it works anymore, others say the woman still gets half of everything AND the kids.

If she's an alcoholic freeloader and you can prove she's drinking and driving when picking up the kids will they still seriously give her custody?

It's regional and we are discussing Texas. Which I'm pretty sure still favors mom (don't hold me to that, I'm not a lawyer).

Unless you have hard evidence (e.g. a DWI when she had the kids in the car), you aren't going to be able to prove she's a reckless, borderline alcoholic freeloader. Her story will be that she is a loving, caring, devoted housewife who takes care of everything so her husband can have a career and loves her kids more than anything. And he's just being bitter because divorce.

Cad · Feb 25, 2015

Khane_sl said:
So much conflicting information.

Some of you say that's just not how it works anymore, others say the woman still gets half of everything AND the kids.

If she's an alcoholic freeloader and you can prove she's drinking and driving when picking up the kids will they still seriously give her custody?

Unless there's some reason you can show one or the other of you is an unfit parent, the default these days is joint custody. That can mean the kids come to you on the weekends, or it can mean you split weeks. Either way its a big shit snack to eat. Having kids is a lot of motivation to make it work even in a sub-optimal situation.

Frenzied Wombat · Feb 25, 2015

Khane_sl said:
So much conflicting information.

Some of you say that's just not how it works anymore, others say the woman still gets half of everything AND the kids.

If she's an alcoholic freeloader and you can prove she's drinking and driving when picking up the kids will they still seriously give her custody?

The guy in question is lawyer at our firm, and he said that at best he'd be looking at 50/50 custody unless she gets nailed not only for a DWI, but a DWI with the kids in the car. However, her generally irresponsible behavior and "party girl" attitude wouldn't matter in court according to him. Furthermore, he works 50+ hours a week, which makes the courts likelihood of giving him majority custody even less probable. They'd be with the maid/nanny the majority of the time, and short of finding the wife with a heroin needle hanging out of her arm, the courts wouldn't favor that scenario much.

DickTrickle · Feb 25, 2015

Frenzied Wombat_sl said:
I can see both sides of the "stay together for the kids" scenario. For instance, I know a guy at work whose wife is a fucking Highland Park disaster zone. Basically rich house wife that gets drunk at Mi Cocina with the girlfriends before picking up the kids at school, wants to party all the time on the weekends, spends money like it's going out of style, and is not the least bit interested in demonstrating anything positive to her children. He basically knows his wife is a disaster, but if he was to divorce her he wouldn't be able to counter her retrograde influence on his daughters. He's basically their only hope of growing up normal/successful, because if his wife became the primary day to day influence, his daughters would guaranteed grow up to be just as vapid and superficial as their mom.

So it's basically damned if you do, damned if you don't. Stick together and the kids get to witness the meanest aspect of their parent's personality at a young age, or break up and concede your children's upbringing to your ex-spouse.

How does that guy not know his wife is like that before getting married?

Tenks · Feb 25, 2015

Probably because she gave up her butthole and sucked dick like a Hoover. According to basically every male on the internet sex life is the only thing that matters in a relationship. Until, of course, it crashes in burns because you're not actually compatible.

Soygen · Feb 25, 2015

DickTrickle_sl said:
How does that guy not know his wife is like that before getting married?

Agreed. That's what you get when your money is the most attractive thing about you.

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