Marriage and the Power of Divorce

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Commander Vimeseh_sl

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sorry acceptance isn't a prerequisite for a beneficial or healthy outcome. I can listen to my partners problem, disagree with them, and still have a healthy relationship. I may alter my behavior in order to solve the situation but that doesn't mean I accepted the fact that they are right. I simply value the relationship higher then then my stance on the issue. No acceptance at its root involved. Now this is just taking acceptance at its face value as you are doing with the term communication.
 
Khane

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Commander Vimeseh_sl said:
sorry acceptance isn't a prerequisite for a beneficial or healthy outcome. I can listen to my partners problem, disagree with them, and still have a healthy relationship. I may alter my behavior in order to solve the situation but that doesn't mean I accepted the fact that they are right.I simply value the relationship higher then then my stance on the issue. No acceptance at its root involved. Now this is just taking acceptance at its face value as you are doing with the term communication.
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You just described acceptance. Congratulations.
 
iannis

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In this case acceptance and agreement are two different concepts.

Fucking english with all these words that mean the same thing with slightly different connotations and mean similar but distinct things in regard to context.
 
Khane

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Iannis_sl said:
In this case acceptance and agreement are two different concepts.

Fucking english with all these words that mean the same thing with slightly different connotations and mean similar but distinct things in regard to context.
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Alright, you win. I accept that you win. Your definition is more succinct than mine.
 
Khane

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Tarrant_sl said:
Well it's a good thing you communicated to come to that acceptance.
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Tad communicates, Mist Communicates, Tanoomba communicates. They actually never stop communicating. Most of us wish they would though.

Get it?

Iannis is probably my favorite poster. He probably seems out of his mind to most, but to me he's as logical as they come.
 
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The Master

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Khane_sl said:
AKA, acceptance.

Jesus christ why are you people arguing with me and against me at the same time? Do you even realize that's what going on?
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At the risk of over communicating, because you're using one definition for a word that has multiple definitions and not really attempting to understand what other people are saying. Here is the definition people are using for communication:

"the successful conveying or sharing of ideas and feelings."

Here is the definition you are using:

"the imparting or exchanging of information or news."

Do you see how maybe those radically alter the context of this conversation? By the second definition's standards, yelling at a deaf person you're not even in the same room with would count as communication. That isn't good enough to meet the criteria for the first definition, which is the one most people are using. Your example of people "yelling at each other" is communication in a sense, but it is not successful communication.

There is a similar, but different, problem with multiple definitions of acceptance. One of which is actual agreement, the other of which is suffering something undesirable, but it isn't as key to this discussion.
 
Kirun

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mures_sl said:
From the way it sounds she only opened herself up to it because of the lack of sex life leaving a void though. I think her actions the night after ameraves left reinforces that it isn't anything really emotional and is instead more of a physical need she is looking to have filled.
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Even if this was the reason (it wasn't, she's just trying to find justifications), there is absolute zero reason to not discuss it with Ameraves first. Just swinging to the next dick without ever discussing things first is nothing but an excuse for shitty behavior and being a scumbag.

Like everyone has stated, there is no way you can ever trust her again. And spending the rest of your life looking over your shoulder is a burden worse than death. Fuck that. It'll be difficult at first, but things really will be better in the long run. Not only for you, but also your children.
 
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Commander Vimeseh_sl

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Khane_sl said:
Tad communicates, Mist Communicates, Tanoomba communicates. They actually never stop communicating. Most of us wish they would though.

Get it?

Iannis is probably my favorite poster. He probably seems out of his mind to most, but to me he's as logical as they come.
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I'm part of the iannis fan club. The stream of consciousness and plain honesty made me a fan. Hmph, English is a wonderful language.

Edit after reading Kurin. You can't say he will never be able to trust her again. That is totally dependant on the people involved. I however would most likely not be able too.
 
Nester

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Khane_sl said:
Tad communicates, Mist Communicates, Tanoomba communicates. They actually never stop communicating. Most of us wish they would though.

Get it?

Iannis is probably my favorite poster. He probably seems out of his mind to most, but to me he's as logical as they come.
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They dont really communicate, they tend to throwup on thier keyboard.

The type of communication these fine gents are talking about involves empathy and understanding.
 
iannis

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You guys are so hard on mist. Yeah she's stubborn, but you gotta learn how to appreciate a stubborn woman.

Or else your life will be very lonesome indeed.

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stupidmonkey

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Ameraves_sl said:
Hah, thanks for the offer, Sutekh, but no I am in Cali. And honestly I don't even want to go down that road. He is a shitty human being and it will eventually catch up with him anyway. I truly don't even want to spare him another thought.
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I'll be in Pechanga, Cali and the area next month for fights. Let me know if you need a beer or some muscle.
 
Khane

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Well I stand by my acceptance vs communication statements but I dont know why I was being such a shit about it. Sorry Master! I had a little too much vino last night.
 
Noodleface

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stupidmonkey_sl said:
I'll be in Pechanga, Cali and the area next month for fights. Let me know if you need a beer or some muscle.
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See man this guy has it right. If I were in Cali I would offer the same/both.

I can't imagine walking briskly up to a piece of shit and saying "hey fuckface" and knocking him out. Such confusion
 
ZyyzYzzy

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Khane_sl said:
Well I stand by my acceptance vs communication statements but I dont know why I was being such a shit about it. Sorry Master! I had a little too much vino last night.
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It was probably just because of the Master to be honest. Stating the obvious as something hugely profound that you know only because of your lala land relationship is rustling to me too.

I hope all works our Ameraves. Sad stuff.
 
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