Noodleface
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Marriage and the Power of Divorce
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Fifey
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Pretty much what ive been doing, going out riding bikes workout worry of when I'll return, playing games and it's neb amazing.
I've had a couple tinder girls try to hook up with me but I'll just pound one out and lose interest immediately.
Tarrant
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This has been pretty much me on every level except with the medical stuff on top of it all. I wouldn't call it amazing, frankly while freedom is nice, I obviously wish things had worked out.
Noodleface
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Cad
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I'm happily married and have been so for ... many years. And I don't think I'd get married again if for some reason I got divorced or she suddenly died or some shit like that. I like being married to her. I've literally never met or heard about another woman I'd enjoy being married to. Listening to you guys talk about the women you married makes me go home and hug my wife.
I really think it's a meet in the middle type of thing... you give up a little to her, she gives up a little to you. Both of you make efforts, both of you reach out. When one isn't reaching out anymore or making efforts, the strength of the relationship is how long the other one is willing to be strung along. Sometimes, because of life ties, you can take a long time. Other times, like a recent tinder match, the first instant she doesn't text back, forget it you're done. I don't know that I'd even want to get in this deep with someone else ever again. It has its upsides but it has its downsides.
I really think it's a meet in the middle type of thing... you give up a little to her, she gives up a little to you. Both of you make efforts, both of you reach out. When one isn't reaching out anymore or making efforts, the strength of the relationship is how long the other one is willing to be strung along. Sometimes, because of life ties, you can take a long time. Other times, like a recent tinder match, the first instant she doesn't text back, forget it you're done. I don't know that I'd even want to get in this deep with someone else ever again. It has its upsides but it has its downsides.
Palum
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Because I was curious I looked at the statutes... that doesn't seem to be the case that you can 'accidentally' marry by common law. It appears both parties have to have the intent/agreement and be known in the community as married. Maybe Cad as some sweet stare decisis to lay down but it looks like that would really only matter in probate where the other side can't go "uhh, no I never told you we'd get married".
Cad
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No, people vastly misunderstand common law marriage. You can't accidentally or inadvertently get common law hooked up under any of the state statutes where it still exists that I've seen. Someone might pull Wyoming out of their ass or something but the ones I've seen, it's a non-starter.
Haast
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Well, when Tarrant says:
And one assumes this is a ceremony celebrating your life partnership with family and friends, and then you tell others you are life partners... that starts to sound a lot like you are representing yourself as a married couple. I'd just be cautious were I considering something like that and I REALLY wanted to avoid being legally married.Tarrant_sl said:
Mrs. Gravy
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Everything you said...mostly; I can't imagine anyone ever being able to fill G's shoes. I dream about him all the time. I was so fucking lucky.
So the other thing I thought about through the last few pages was to tell Tarrant to check with the dr. office/hospital/testing site if they have a transportation program - lots of them do and it is usually inexpensive.
Tarrant
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Most places you need to sign paperwork for common law, just living together and doing whatever doesn't run into that anymore.
moonarchia
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Just rub one out and call it a day. Or meditate. Either will get you relaxed and sleepy if you want to sleep.
Miguex
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I feel ya. Been about 18 months since splitting with my GF of 4 years after going through a divorce a few years before that. Pretty sure the one GF I split up with was about as close as I am ever going to get to a perfect personality/lifestyle/etc match, there was just too much baggage probably on both our parts and it blew up in a quick space after a great 4 years. Just have zero interest in even trying to get something going.
I don't know what other symptoms are presenting, but have you considered it's owing to stress?
Tarrant
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I'm sure a good portion of it is stress and lack of sleep. The new medications I'm on now help me sleep I've only been on them three days, two of which I slept well and had minimal headache and one they didn't work and my head was ringing for half the day. (Yesterday)
Today is the best it's felt in 11 days, I'd rank it at a 2. I know when I go into work it'll increase while at the computer so I'll try to stay ahead of it with meds and I get a new one tonight as well, it's a nasal spray which I'm not keen on but if it helps, whatever.
If this trend continues then I'll be able to resume getting stuff out of our old apartment hopefully next week. It's a mixed bad of emotions with that but it's gotta happen, so whatever I guess.
My son is starting to get the idea that either myself or his mom isn't really around at the same time. He's starting to grasp that he now has two homes. It's a hard process but I feel he has adjusted well so far, I'll continue to keep fingers crossed that it'll stay that way.
Today is the best it's felt in 11 days, I'd rank it at a 2. I know when I go into work it'll increase while at the computer so I'll try to stay ahead of it with meds and I get a new one tonight as well, it's a nasal spray which I'm not keen on but if it helps, whatever.
If this trend continues then I'll be able to resume getting stuff out of our old apartment hopefully next week. It's a mixed bad of emotions with that but it's gotta happen, so whatever I guess.
My son is starting to get the idea that either myself or his mom isn't really around at the same time. He's starting to grasp that he now has two homes. It's a hard process but I feel he has adjusted well so far, I'll continue to keep fingers crossed that it'll stay that way.
Cad
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As a child of divorce Tarrant I can tell you that the kids will be ok. If you treat them well and give them love, kids are very adaptable little creatures. They don't really know that two parents are normal. They don't know what normal is. They know when they are afraid and they know when they aren't loved. So hook that up and they'll be ok.