Marriage and the Power of Divorce

BrotherWu_sl said:

I didn't see a charge for prostitute?

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+1. After all, they included every other pedantic task. Why not charge out the sex too?

Ignoring the retarded infographic, all the stay at home moms I know have multiple kids. When the couple did the math, they would make essentially nothing from having the wife work when you take daycare and such into account. Most of them plan to work at least part time once the kids are in school.

In many cases the wife actually had a pretty good job, at least like $40K-$50K range. I'd say that's a more realistic assessment of stay at home mom value.

Showed that pic to a few guys at work with stay at home wives. Oh boy Jimmies be Rustled.. They asked that at a minimum all that "income" should be penalized by the following expenses, and that the 90+ hour work week be adjusted to somewhere like 20-30 hours.

1) Professional Pilates Student: @ 250 /month
2) Professional Nordstrom/Neimans shopper: @ $500-$2000/month
3) Professional furniture shopper to replace perfectly fine furniture: @500/month or so
4) Professional Whole Foods Shopper, cause it's too much of a hassle to make that extra trip to Target for cheap toilet paper: @250/ week
5) Professional Facebook user: How does my 90+ hour work week wife find all that time to post shit on Facebook?
6) Professional Tennis student: @ 400/month . Because her friends play..
7) Professional Lunch Gossiper: @ 100/week. Need to meet the girls at Mi Cocina and whine about how useless their husbands are.
8) Professional "our kids need to be in basketball&soccer&badminton" or they won't grow up right
9) My favorite. The Professional "you need to work less to spend more time with the family, but you also need to make more money because we can't afford X"
10) The Professional "I'm always tired and overworked despite the fact I do all of the above and take a nap every afternoon".

That last one really infuriates me. I work myself to the point of exhaustion sometimes between school and work and commuting and shit. A lot of times my day starts at 4 and I don't even get home until 10. And she complains to me about how she barely got a nap in. It makes me violently angry.

To be fair, there is your avergae stay at home mom and there is your country club, have a nanny at home to do all the unfun stuff trophy wife. The above list is the latter for sure.

lindz what are you doing right now? post a selfie.

I've been on both sides of the equation (including currently working from home and having my son around the whole time when he isn't in pre-k) and while the job isn't anywhere near as bad as that chart makes it out to be, most of the bread winners mocking it would probably go fucking nuts if they had to be a stay at home parent for any length of time. While nothing individually is hard it is tedious, often time consuming, and it never stops. I also had more bullshit/goof off time when I worked on site, because when I'm not working on my current project/regular stuff, then I'm dealing with everything that goes in to raising mini me. Instead of sword fighting while my code compiles.

I also don't buy the comment someone made about the working parent having to come home and deal with the kids. The vast majority of working dads I know go home and their wives are still cooking the dinner and handling 80+ percent of the kids needs while the dad is there. The reasoning for this is usually "I make the money and all she does is sit home all day, so when I'm not at work I want to relax".


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Having said that, if I had a wife who bitched she didn't get a nap because she had to take care of the spawn I would probably throw heavy things at her until she got out of the room.

Commander Vimeseh_sl said:

I also don't buy the comment someone made about the working parent having to come home and deal with the kids. The vast majority of working dads I know go home and their wives are still cooking the dinner and handling 80+ percent of the kids needs while the dad is there. The reasoning for this is usually "I make the money and all she does is sit home all day, so when I'm not at work I want to relax".

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If you're referring to the comment I made about parents who work having to do all that shit anyway I was referring to households where both parents work. As in the mother and father both go to work and then have to come home and do all the shit the stay at home mom has 8+ extra hours a day to do.

Almost all of my friends are married with young children (not school age yet). Out of all of them they both work with the exception of one couple. Hilarity ensues every time the stay at home mom bemoans how hard her "job" is on Facebook (which she does regularly). The women who all still work get about as venomous as I've ever seen.

Tuco_sl said:

This picture is 100% correct and perfectly represents the true value of a mother and her contributions. Anyone who disagrees with it doesn't understand the hardest job in the world.

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NedStark yourself for trolling in Grown Up Stuff! Justice must be blind.

Eyashusa_sl said:

lindz what are you doing right now? post a selfie.

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Kids laundry! So very taxing, I definitely need a nap after!

/swoon

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Khane_sl said:

If you're referring to the comment I made about parents who work having to do all that shit anyway I was referring to households where both parents work. As in the mother and father both go to work and then have to come home and do all the shit the stay at home mom has 8+ extra hours a day to do.

Almost all of my friends are married with young children (not school age yet). Out of all of them they both work with the exception of one couple. Hilarity ensues every time the stay at home mom bemoans how hard her "job" is on Facebook (which she does regularly). The women who all still work get about as venomous as I've ever seen.

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Moms with jobs have it harder then moms who are pure stay at home in my opinion. Because generally they get the majority of the kids even after putting in their 8-12 hours. The venom is totally warranted in that situation. It has become much easier now that my kid is gone for 3-4 hours a day during the week and any stay at home parent that has school age children should have a job if for nothing else then to do something that is separate from their family identity. Cooking/cleaning isn't that hard as long as you know what you are doing and shouldn't be considered a job sans kiddos up your arse 24/7.

Thats where I messed up. Didn't have kid number 2 to keep kid number 1 entertained. So much fun running numbers for a client only to start imputing ABCs or non sensical values because your kid chose right then to practice their academiacicals (I love the pronunciation though)!

It's settled, we all want lindz as a wife.

mkopec_sl said:

Tuco, that picture is bullshit at least for me. My wife does not do 1/2 that shit. I cook, I do most of the cleaning... Laundry? Anyone can throw clothes in the washer and dry them. Then she just stacks them in a pile and it sits there until I get on her ass to do it. Or do it myself... CEO? Bullshit I do all that. I help the kids with homework.

I would love to have a wife like that one shown in the picture. Then I could be the dad in the other picture. Come home get a beer in my hand and watch tha ballgame and ignore everything around me.

At least I got her ass to go back to work a few days a week.

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Wait your wife stays at home and you do all the housework? See that makes no sense to me. I do ALL the house/kids work because I do stay at home right now. My husband goes to work during the day, so my work is the kids/house.

Looks like I could have negotiated my job responsibilities better.

Commander Vimeseh_sl said:

Moms with jobs have it harder then moms who are pure stay at home in my opinion. Because generally they get the majority of the kids even after putting in their 8-12 hours. The venom is totally warranted in that situation.

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Of course. That was the original point I was making.

Trollface_sl said:

dream life

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Bullshit. Dream life is finding a woman who makes even more money than I do and paying other people to do all the tedious house chores. Fuck being the sole income for a household. That's way more pressure than I need in my life, I want the freedom to switch jobs without the risk of financially ruining my family if it doesn't pan out.