Larnix
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I was in the same situation that some of you are describing here, sex slowed down after the first child arrived and then really slowed after the second child came. Life gets busy and 2 children under the age of 3 make it difficult to spend any quality alone time together. For me the hardest part was that she would talk about wanting to but if we actually had free time she would have countless reasons not to.
Case in point:
In May of last year her sister got married in San Francisco and we were flying out for 8 days without any children. On the flight we had a few drinks were getting really cozy, and she told me she couldn't wait until we got to our hotel room. Well, we get their and I try to make a move which she replies that her family is all out sight seeing and she really wants to catch up. At this point I'm steaming mad and we leave the hotel.
We are walking to meet up and she decides she wants to take detours along the way and its no big deal if we meet up with her family. After walking around in complete silence for an hour or so I told her that I was thinking about getting a FWB, that she had total control of my sexual well-being and that I was no longer comfortable with that. I told her that I loved her and our family but that I was starting to resent our marriage,that if I knew what our sex life would turn into I'm not sure that I would still want to get married. I asked if she thought it was ok for 1 person to have so much control over the other and she told me she never thought about it in those terms.
We spent the next few hours walking around having an open conversation about what was important to each of us. We both agreed that her BC kills her libido and we should look into alternatives. Now, this entire time she wanted to back to the hotel room, I told her at this point its just felt like pity sex. She was very persistent the entire evening and I must admit it was nice having her actually try. We ended the night pretty late and I kept saying I didn't want to have sex but the penis doesn't lie, we had some great sex. We ended up having sex everyday of that vacation.
When we got back home she stopped taking BC we switched to the pull out method, her libido shot right back up and we started having sex a few times a week, initiated as much by her as me. Last April I got snipped and now there's nothing to worry about. We have been together 12 years and this last year has been one of the best. My wife now tells her friends that are having marriage problems that they should have more sex with their husbands then the man will be more attentive. Who would have thought it huh?
Case in point:
In May of last year her sister got married in San Francisco and we were flying out for 8 days without any children. On the flight we had a few drinks were getting really cozy, and she told me she couldn't wait until we got to our hotel room. Well, we get their and I try to make a move which she replies that her family is all out sight seeing and she really wants to catch up. At this point I'm steaming mad and we leave the hotel.
We are walking to meet up and she decides she wants to take detours along the way and its no big deal if we meet up with her family. After walking around in complete silence for an hour or so I told her that I was thinking about getting a FWB, that she had total control of my sexual well-being and that I was no longer comfortable with that. I told her that I loved her and our family but that I was starting to resent our marriage,that if I knew what our sex life would turn into I'm not sure that I would still want to get married. I asked if she thought it was ok for 1 person to have so much control over the other and she told me she never thought about it in those terms.
We spent the next few hours walking around having an open conversation about what was important to each of us. We both agreed that her BC kills her libido and we should look into alternatives. Now, this entire time she wanted to back to the hotel room, I told her at this point its just felt like pity sex. She was very persistent the entire evening and I must admit it was nice having her actually try. We ended the night pretty late and I kept saying I didn't want to have sex but the penis doesn't lie, we had some great sex. We ended up having sex everyday of that vacation.
When we got back home she stopped taking BC we switched to the pull out method, her libido shot right back up and we started having sex a few times a week, initiated as much by her as me. Last April I got snipped and now there's nothing to worry about. We have been together 12 years and this last year has been one of the best. My wife now tells her friends that are having marriage problems that they should have more sex with their husbands then the man will be more attentive. Who would have thought it huh?
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