Parent Thread

Jesus man. Good luck with this stuff and keep us posted. Hoping everything works out.

not sure where you got masturbating. sounds like she was doing a poor job cleaning herself.

that's some hard shit chaos. feels bro. all i got.

my bad. i dont read good? I suppose it's possible, but that could just be misperception on their part.

Yeah whatever was going on, it looked enough like masturbation for them to write it into the report. I hope it was just a misunderstanding.

As far as abuse, who knows, she went to day care for a while. She's still at the er, she's so young they technically don't have a bed for her so they are hesitating to admit her. Her psychologist apparently also diagnosed her with depression, still doesn't explain this stuff. I'm getting info a tiny bit at a time.

She's coming home. My wife signed some thing saying legally my daughter can't leave my wife's supervision until she is seen by her psychologist, so no school. Going to call the psychologist tomorrow and try to get it moved up, we were supposed to see her Friday anyway.

I know you're not supposed to do this, but I was looking at the psychologist's diagnosis and the associated symptoms and a lot of stuff was popping out online, specifically depression and how it manifests in young children and bipolar disorder, which also manifests differently in young children. idk, worth bringing up to the psychologist I guess.

While she was in the ER there was an autistic kid in the next room who had been there for 2 days, his parents dropped him off and peaced out. Kid was like 7. The nurses have to take shifts physically blocking the door because the kid does nothing but try to get out the door for 10 hour stretches until he exhausts himself. Just waiting for the state to come pick him up. Apparently my wife had the choice to hospitalize our daughter or do the supervision thing and when she saw this mess she didn't even consider the hospitalization, which thank god for that.

Spend a lot of time hugging your wife. It will be good for both of you. And I'm not kidding.

That sounds like a whole bag full of suck, chaos. I'm sorry your kid is going through all that.

chaos_sl said:

Going to call the psychologist tomorrow and try to get it moved up, we were supposed to see her Friday anyway.

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What's the holdup with this doctor? Seems like they should have already got together with you before this went down. ODD alone was going to sabotage every moment at school.

Stick with it mate, as I mentioned before it is hard but they go through stages when they are deep in a bad period of time it is so hard as a parent and nothing anyone says or does for you will make it better. My son done something in school a few years back, I won't go into detail because only me and my wife and the relevant government officials know about it but let just say his head teacher said to us that in 26 years of teaching he has never come across it and he had to get a specialist in to advise how to deal with it.

It is different here in the UK but his school has been utter useless for us, a few years ago they used to get money for any child with any special requirements so they used that to their advantage and any kid who was just naughty they would list down as ADHD the government cracked down on this and now the schools have to match the funding so basically the schools don't want to know anymore. The reports to class someone as ADHD have to be based on results from the school, home, doctor. Us and the doctor all scored him the higher 9's (10 is max) the school would put him down as 3-4 meaning we he could never get diagnosed. In the end we had to pay for it all ourself. He is on drugs (slowly coming off them now) and with education courses we have been on to learnt how to cope with a child with ADHD, also helps that my Wife is a specialist Mental health midwife but you will always live with it.

To this day I worry about the simple things with him even though he is improving massively you have to realise you cannot give them complex instructions, break everything down into steps, work out what their triggers are, his was change he just could not cope with it, so plan around it with the school and home. Sorry to ramble on but it will get better take it from someone who has been what you are going through, and don't feel bad/embarrassed it is not your fault you are doing everything you can.

Chaos I think you are pretty well liked around here, I hope you know you've got a lot of support and sympathy from sharing that with us. I have absolutely no experience dealing with something like that and I'm scared shitless that I'd ever have to but I'd have to say that I believe what your dealing with is a problem that has a solution that you will one day find. Let's hope it's very soon.

Thanks. I'm not really trying to get sympathy, just venting I guess. And sharing too, I hope is something unexpected like this happens to someone else they know they aren't the only ones. Wanand mentioned he had some similar issues, a_skeleton_03, etc. I never thought about being in a position like this but here we are. It is so weird trying to find the root cause of something that probably has no root cause and that even causes seasoned educators to just throw their hands up.

Nothing eventful happened today, which is even more frustrating, she's perfectly fine at home. She has fits that I used to think were in the range of normal but probably aren't, but we can deal with them. I guess at school either they can't deal with it and it escalates or she just acts differently, no idea. I wish they had a recording, as much as I don't want o see it, I keep thinking mabe I could make sense of it even though I doubt I could.

Yeah she was in day care before. Her behavior escalated to the point that she was kicked out. Which, at the time, I was pissed at them for that, for a lot of reasons, some of them were real and still bother me but with context of a couple of months some of them make sense. I think the bottom line is that the day care didn't know what to do with her, they weren't equipped. The school is much better equipped but we are keeping her out until she gets some real help because otherwise it is like a cycle repeating itself.

She hurt her little sister today. Pretty sure it was just normal sister stuff but there is always that question with her of why, what, and how extreme is it. It wasn't bad, but bad enough to make us concerned.

So yesterday was the weekly Show and Tell for my daughter's class in Preschool. She brought her favorite stuffed animal, "Puppy", that she sleeps with every night. It's definitely a comfort thing. Anyway, some other girl in her class said it was stupid, so after being so happy to bring it into school and show everyone, she cried and didn't even participate in show and tell. Then she came home crying as well.

...Kids are real cunts. I feel bad for her, and tried to explain that this girls opinion doesn't matter, but she was still really sad. Have any of you had to deal with this type of situation in the past?

Tell her that other girl is a bitch and will probably grow up smoking cigarettes and drinking dregs from beer cans she finds on the side of the road. That's what happens to those people.