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Another rough night. The ibuprofen sort of helped. It was better than the tylenol in the fact that once he fell asleep he actually stayed asleep, but it was really hard to get him down. Every time he'd nod off, he'd do that tense-his-whole-body thing that I dread, probably from twinges of pain. Tooth can't come fast enough.

It's not all bad, the rest of the day he's the happiest baby I've ever seen. He's going to look so goofy with some small little teeth.

Also officially moving to solids and he's moving to his own room.
 
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frozen teething rings help. At least they did for my daughter. She was fussy, but not too terribly difficult.
 
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My kid doesn't "get" teethers. He just tongues them.

My kid is a pussy and also doesn't understand things that could help him
 
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Anyone have challenges with their 5 year olds not staying focus enough to learn in kindergarten ? Both my kids seem like they are aware and are learning but my daughter in particular is just having a hard time focusing in school, rushes her assignments, doesnt retain memory of words, letters, numbers, sounds of letters as well as her twin brother.
 
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Does she have a lot of sugar in her diet? Candy, soda, juice, frozen yogert... pretty much anything processed. She's probably not as large as her brother, so it might affect her differently.
 
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I would assume her and her twin have similar diets.

Twins are fun like that (I have a set myself) and my daughter was the same way. Turns out she was just a social butterfly and just needed a little more handholding. We didn't push her too hard and tried to find a happy medium where we did some work with her and then some play time then back to work where the boy was get all the work done and then have all the play time. Now she is 14 and was cutting for a few months and sabotaging every friendship she had so maybe don't take my advice.
 
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Xarpolis_sl said:
Does she have a lot of sugar in her diet? Candy, soda, juice, frozen yogert... pretty much anything processed. She's probably not as large as her brother, so it might affect her differently.
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Nope, she came out first and is taller / weighs more as she hits the 90% for weight, height, and skull size still. She is a healthy strong Scandinavian girl. We dont have soda in the house, candy happens but isnt common. She just dosent pay attention enough, like she is easily distracted. We have had them in sports, soccer since 2, basketball, t-ball, and skating since 4, and she will just lose attention at a drop of a dime during sports activities even though she has fun playing. I am sure this is what is happening in kindergarten. Playing soccer she will bang it with the boys then just sit down in the middle of the field or run off the pitch for water. Which is weird because her brother was like this during soccer lessons when he was younger then grew out of it.

We bought them mini ipads when they were four. A lot of her time spent on the ipad was watching kid's youtube eps. Not an infinite amount of 24/7 time but it was her main activity on it till we took youtube off only allowing her educational apps. I just hope youtube didnt rot her brain heh.
 
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a_skeleton_03_sl said:
I would assume her and her twin have similar diets.

Twins are fun like that (I have a set myself) and my daughter was the same way. Turns out she was just a social butterfly and just needed a little more handholding. We didn't push her too hard and tried to find a happy medium where we did some work with her and then some play time then back to work where the boy was get all the work done and then have all the play time. Now she is 14 and was cutting for a few months and sabotaging every friendship she had so maybe don't take my advice.
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I can see this being the case. I mean Ive seen her around the other girls her age level and nothing whatsoever would leave me to believe she is behind them in social skills or learning abilities. I always thought my son would be the one with attentive issues but he kid learned chess at 4 and is actually proactive in learning math and working out words. Hopefully this is just a phase she is in. My biggest concern is this is an early sign of a learning disability, adhd, etc.
 
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The guys at Penny Arcade wrote a good paragraph or so about "screen time".

I've always thought "screen time" was a silly idea. I think it's important to consider what's on the screen. Maybe it made more sense back when screen time just meant television. The idea that sitting and watching Spongebob should be tossed into the same bucket as playing ABC Mouse is absolutely insane. I won't let my four year old watch cartoons all afternoon but if he wants the iPad he is welcome to it. That's because if he is using the iPad he is coloring and doing puzzles. Nine year old wants to lay on the couch and watch Ninjago all afternoon. Not happening. Want to play Minecraft with your friends all afternoon? Yes! I say that because I've gone into their Minecraft Realm. I've seen the hotel these kids built. I've played with the redstone machines they have designed. I've played games my kid built in Project Spark on the Xbox and Hopscotch on the iPad. That's technically "screen time", but those are experiences I will never put a limit on.

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I hate it when parents criticize others for the amount of time their kids spend with devices or whatever.

My daughter literally stopped to stare at a butterfly and said out loud "ooh butterfly" during a soccer tournament. I was the assistant coach for her team and almost died on the spot. It was like straight out of a movie about blondes or something. She is very intelligent if you can get her to focus but it just doesn't come natural to her.

What my daughter does like is art. Try it with your daughter .
 
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a_skeleton_03_sl said:
The guys at Penny Arcade wrote a good paragraph or so about "screen time".



I hate it when parents criticize others for the amount of time their kids spend with devices or whatever.

My daughter literally stopped to stare at a butterfly and said out loud "ooh butterfly" during a soccer tournament. I was the assistant coach for her team and almost died on the spot. It was like straight out of a movie about blondes or something. She is very intelligent if you can get her to focus but it just doesn't come natural to her.

What my daughter does like is art. Try it with your daughter .
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Thanks, She loves art and has been in an after school once a week art class since last year. She also loves music. I appreciate your tips. My gut tells me she just needs to get out of the pre-k phase / mentality. Her brother was there but in the last few months has made great improvement.
 
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a_skeleton_03_sl said:
The guys at Penny Arcade wrote a good paragraph or so about "screen time".



I hate it when parents criticize others for the amount of time their kids spend with devices or whatever.

My daughter literally stopped to stare at a butterfly and said out loud "ooh butterfly" during a soccer tournament. I was the assistant coach for her team and almost died on the spot. It was like straight out of a movie about blondes or something. She is very intelligent if you can get her to focus but it just doesn't come natural to her.

What my daughter does like is art. Try it with your daughter .
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Gabe isn't really an authority on the subject. Studies have shown that even quality learning software is not as valuable as hands-on learning.
 
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The Ancient_sl said:
Gabe isn't really an authority on the subject. Studies have shown that even quality learning software is not as valuable as hands-on learning.
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Which studies? Everything I've read on the subject basically has said there are hardly any quality studies on the subject out there and there isn't any sort of consensus or conclusion about the help or harm of "interactive screen time." Obviously this is related directly to touchscreens, but that is what Gabe (who I will concede is not an authority on the subject) was referencing in that comment.

But although many apps claim they have educational value, there is almost no published research on the effect of interactive apps on infant or toddler learning.

Why? Kirkorian believes one reason may simply be the development cycle. Things change fast in touchscreen technology. Contrast this again with television. There is plenty of research on the effect of TV on childhood learning, not only because it's been here a long time, but also because it has changed relatively little over the past few decades. "If I study the iPad today, it may not be relevant in the next five years," Kirkorian says. "This gives researchers less incentive to study." As a result, there are only a handful of scientists studying the effect of touchscreen devices on infants and toddlers, and no one has published much yet.
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The iPad and your kid-digital daycare, empowering educator, or something bad? | Ars Technica
 
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The Ancient_sl said:
Gabe isn't really an authority on the subject. Studies have shown that even quality learning software is not as valuable as hands-on learning.
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Oh I didn't say he was for sure. He also isn't funny any more.

This is 2015 however and the landscape is vastly changed. If your kid isn't spending some time on devices he/she will not be prepared for technology like their peers.

My kids were complaining about the WiFi the other day and we had a class about WiFi vs ethernet and how bandwidth works.
 
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The Ancient_sl said:
Gabe isn't really an authority on the subject. Studies have shown that even quality learning software is not as valuable as hands-on learning.
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What is the difference between learning software and "hands-on learning"? I have read both that there is a negative effect and that there isn't, I don't know which to believe. But I don't understand the fundamental difference of a child solving a puzzle or problem in software or them doing it physically/ with pencil and paper.
 
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Shit. My 7 year old had to go to the dentist to have a tooth pulled that was crowding/damaging another tooth. I can't tell you how fucking horrible it is to watch a dentist using what looked like a screwdriver to pry, and then pliers to rip something out of my son's mouth. He did amazing - not one tear. But I could just see how completely fucking scared he was. His eyes got as big as dinner plates when they took out the tray of tools that they would be using. He said something like "are they fixing me or are they fixing the truck?" He was scared to death.

That kind of shit sucks. Watching your kids be afraid and watching what looks to be super painful. His reward for doing so well is ice cream dinner. Call me a shitty parent if you like, but he tried so hard to force himself to lay still and keep his mouth open I told him he could have whatever he wanted for dinner, anything at all. This made his spirits rise quite a bit.
 
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