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Fever is pretty typical and same with all 3 of mine, they were very tired some hours later.

I just got my youngest evaluation from hsi school today on where he ranks in speech, communication and cognitive skills and boy did reading that thing depress the shit out of me and make me feel like an awful father. I know he's just developing that stuff later and many kids do but you always feel like there's something you coul dhave done or that it's your fault they are behind. We went through some very good programs with him that have helped but the delay is still there and his vocab. is still very limited so we know it's nothing on our end, we just need to give him time and let him develop on his own time table.

It's so sad and depressing though to see him want to tell us things and he doesn't have that ability. It's damn right heart breaking. -sigh- No matter how much logic I throw into it, no matter how much I read or am told that some kids simply develop later than others...I always come full circle and end up blaming myself. I wish I could snap my fingers and he'd be good to go.
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My youngest got a stomach flu a little over a week ago, she was puking everywhere, it was awesome. 105 fever, which still makes me freak out but of course she was fine. A few days later my other two daughters were feeling a little down.. I have my oldest laying down in our playroom watching PBS Kids on my wife's ipad, and she stands up and says "I'm gonna puke!" and wretches all over the floor. Then immediately says "I'm peeing!" and pisses right where she stands. Then starts bawling and yells at me "I told you I wanted to go upstairs!" It was pretty hilarious.

My middle girl probably won't need speech therapy just now, they evaluated her and said that for 3 she is fine, but if she doesn't progress by the time she is 3.5 or 4 they will want to reevaluate her and probably put her in some kind of speech therapy. My youngest, on the other hand, still refuses to talk. She was also evaluated and meets all other milestones etc for her age, she just won't talk. So she's seeing a speech therapist twice a month now.
 
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Tarrant_sl said:
Yeah, clearly none of us who have children would never have one of the most common things that happens to babies with colic....ever as a matter of fact this is the first I've ever heard of it.
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Also, the 24 hours of crying and screaming after their shots....doesn't happen "a lot". My wife works in pediatrics and if that happens they are supposed to call the clinic and let them know. I'll give you a guess at the percentage since I have her right here telling me the info.

Not trying to be a dick and I truly don't mean to give offence, but your whole first half of your post reeks of bitchy know it all'ness and that shit is annoying.

Awesome news on the rolling over, it's always exciting to start seeing them go mobile. That is, until they are running full speed through the house knocking shit over and screaming like a freight train.
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yeah I'll go with what my doc said today about the screaming which was "very common.". Versus someone who just works in in the office. Your post about it being parental overreaction was the bitchy one dude. And if your wife said it wasn't common then how could my fear about the screaming be overreaction if screaming were to actually happen?

Anyhow the screaming during the shot wasn't that bad.....definitely heard worse when he's been working on gas. He catnapped from about noon til 5...woke up really unhappy. Not the worst ive heard but up there. Doc said we could give him Tylenol if he needed it but studies had shown in recent years that it decreased vaccine efficacy so if we could do without to try that way first. I stood in the dark with the hot shower running in the bathroom door closed shushing and swaying for about 15 mins to get him calmed - swaddled too.

We are currently sitting in the dark rocking and shushing in the nursery going on 45 mins....its helping that there are storms in the area.....thats some of his favorite white noise.

Also his weight percentile is up from his 2 week appointment....it was 5-25....now it's 50 yay. Kiddos head went from 75th percentile to 90th heh.
 
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Our daughter had her two month appointment on Monday... shots were not that bad. She definitely cried a cry we had never heard before and my wife was pretty upset by it... but it was her feeding time so she got to eat right away afterwards and that calmed her down.

The immunizations made her really drowsy and nothing else. She got her shots at 4:30 in the afternoon, ate, slept from 5:30 to 9:00, ate, slept from 10 to 4:30 (longest stretch of her life!!), ate, slept again until 7:30... you get the idea. I was home with her the next day and she was never fussy. We bought infant tylenol just in case and at one point she had a fever of 100.3 (or 99.9, or 100.1, damn forehead thermometer that I am still getting used to using!) so we gave her the 1.25 mL or whatever the minimum dose is and she just slept some more. The high temperature was probably due to the fact that it was 96 degrees on Tuesday in Chicago more than anything...

Our doctor said that immunizations are much different than when you and I were kids. He gave the example of one of them only using a partial cell instead of a full cell so that lessens the side effects.
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yeah that forehead thing is annoying lol. Its hard! We got a rectal one that we got comfortable using since our pediatrician only wants temps done that way. feel horrible every time. But early on he was so colicky and sweaty from his head when you held him that we didn't know if it was a fever. Kiddo screamed every second he wasn't sleeping or eating for the first 5 weeks. Got much better around 7 weeks with the not infrequent rough patch (thank you wonder weeks) Today prior to the shots he's smiling talking to the doctor (the doc even made a comment about it) so of course we are the looney parents haha. Though the lactation consultants on staff definitely witnessed it several times. One particular meltdown caused the 70 year old nurse to ask how often this happened heh. Its probably why the crying at the shot today didn't phase me at all. Im so used to crazy at this point....
 
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Eyashusa_sl said:
Ours is 1 month, 2 months then 4 months then... I don't know.

Type of shots looks similar but at 2 months she also got a liquid Rotavirus immunization.
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Rota vaccine is optional here, yeah. Latest 2012 SST (our CDC) publication I read, they recommended it being part of the general program here, but it isn't yet, political bs. Netto cost for the state would increase - but counting parents sick days the picture is reversed. We didn't opt for the rota vaccine, now it's irrelevant since she is in daycare and already exposed to the vira, but we will with the next child for sure. Thanks E
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Source, Danish
http://www.sst.dk/publ/Publ2012/06ju...menfatning.pdf
 
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Etoille_sl said:
yeah I'll go with what my doc said today about the screaming which was "very common.". Versus someone who just works in in the office. Your post about it being parental overreaction was the bitchy one dude. And if your wife said it wasn't common then how could my fear about the screaming be overreaction if screaming were to actually happen?
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If by works in the office you mean the one giving your child the shots then sure, whatever. LoL

And I never said screaming didn't happen, I said it didn't happen for 24 hours like you said it did. Unless you simply phrased what you were trying to say incorrectly then whatever, it was a misunderstanding.
 
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Izo_sl said:
Rota vaccine is optional here, yeah. Latest 2012 SST (our CDC) publication I read, they recommended it being part of the general program here, but it isn't yet, political bs. Netto cost for the state would increase - but counting parents sick days the picture is reversed. We didn't opt for the rota vaccine, now it's irrelevant since she is in daycare and already exposed to the vira, but we will with the next child for sure. Thanks E
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I can post a list of them later for you Izo if you're really that interested. If the wife is awake later when I get home I'll put something up here for ya.
 
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Izo_sl said:
Rota vaccine is optional here, yeah. Latest 2012 SST (our CDC) publication I read, they recommended it being part of the general program here, but it isn't yet, political bs. Netto cost for the state would increase - but counting parents sick days the picture is reversed. We didn't opt for the rota vaccine, now it's irrelevant since she is in daycare and already exposed to the vira, but we will with the next child for sure. Thanks E
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http://www.sst.dk/publ/Publ2012/06ju...menfatning.pdf
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You're welcome.

Now that I'm home here is the complete list from the booklet our doctor gave us...

1 week - HBV
1 month - HBV
2 months - DTaP, IPV, HIB, Rota
4 months - Same as above
6 months - Same as above except no IPV or HIB
9 months - No shots
12 months - MMR, Varicella
15 months - HIB, DTaP, IPV
18 months - Hep A
24 months - Hep A

DTaP = Diphtheria, Tetanus, acellular pertussis
IPV = Inactivated Polio
HIB = Haemophilus influenza type B
HBV = Hep B
 
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This is what's recommended though 6 years.

Birth - HepB

2 months- HepB, RV, DTaP, Bib, PCV, IPV

4 months- RV, DTaP, Hib, PCV, IPV

6 months Hepb (starting between now and 18 months is when you should get your 3rd), RV, DTaP, Hib, PCV, IPV (between now and 18 months), Influenza may start now

Between 12 and 15 months- Hib, PCV, MMR, Varicella, HepA (between 12 months and 23 months)

Pretty much done until 4-6 years. At that time you get DTaP, IPV, MMR and Varicella. They recommend this series before they start school.

And then for prosperity's sake, here's a link to the CDC that says the same.

http://www.cdc.gov/vaccines/parents/...sch-0-6yrs.pdf
 
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Got into a tiff with my youngest sons nanny this evening. Shes been looking for another job that will offer benefits (can't blame her) and we agreed to keep her on until she does. Tomorrow she has an interview and I told her to keep us in the loop, the daycare we are going to use requires two weeks notice to put him into it.

She responded; "I told you I'm looking for another job, that's the extra notice."

I explained to her that's not notice of anything other than at SOME point we will need to go with another option. She said that she's sorry but that wasn't her problem. (she said this in a round about nice way)

I responded to her that we easily could have used that day care option 2 months ago when she told us she'd be looking and she would have had zero income from then until now. We are willing to keep her on to help her out (as she's been great with us and our son) but we're the ones helping her out at this point just as much as she's helping us.

She couldn't get that through her head and is all upset about it. I'm about to tell her that here's her two weeks notice. I'm not sure how she can't understand that we easily could have went that other route but didn't because we didn't want her to lose her income. -sigh- Am I wrong?
 
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Sounds like you're paying her under the table? Fuck her two weeks notice if she can't be bothered to be decent to you after keeping her on. Donald Trump her ass.

Unless she's really good with your kid and you plan to have her watch him in some capacity later, then kiss and make up.
 
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Yeah shes under the table. We pay her just as much as we would a daycare that we will end up paying when our son goes there. (which ends up being quite a bit when shes to paying taxes on it, shes very good with or son though and has been with him since he was 3 months old).

Glad to see it wasn't me that thought she was being kinda dumb about it. I just got a text from her that says she'll give me two weeks when the time comes. At this point though I'm not sure if I should wait or not.

At least the dropping him off at school for 3 hours every day is preparing him to deal with the daycare thing, that was honestly my main concern about it originally.
 
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Etoille_sl said:
yeah uh clearly y'all have not had a colicky baby. It will be hard to watch him in pain for sure but the part I am really not looking forward to is the subsequent 24 hrs of screaming and no sleep which happens a lot. Maybe I'll win the lotto and it won't be us but I am not thinking that that will be the case.

Also he rolled over yesterday! 3 times! It was slow and purposeful, not the whole body spasm thing. I didn't believe it the first time. The second time I started crying, and I called my husband downstairs to see if he'd do it a third time for him and he did. So proud!!
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We had colicky preemie twins. 11 months old now. They cried for a few minutes with their vaccinations. Had light fevers and slept well a day or two after. We kind of looked forward to their next vaccinations because of that. IMO there's no need to freak out about vaccines.

One of our girls was born with Amniotic Band Syndrome affecting her right arm/hand. In a week she's having the first part of two surgeries to remove the band on her upper right arm. This is to allow her bone to grow normally. Her right hand can't do much and she's lost varying lengths of her fingers. Weekly occupational therapy. She also has ASD which so far seems to not be an issue.

Between the two of them we have had a lot of doctor appointments. The other one came home on a heart/respiration monitor because her brain hadn't fully developed its autonomic functions. I was feeding her in the NICU on more than one occasion and her face would turn dusky purple because she would stop breathing and her heart rate would slow down. For the first month at home, on top of them being colicky, and us being sleep deprived, we were also going to dr appointments most of the week. Cardiology, pulmonology, pediatrician, hemotology, blood draws, orthopedics, plastics, vision, development, OT, GI.

Then after they had been home for 2 months, my wife's mother dies.

The other day we were talking about the first few months of their lives and we don't really remember much of it. Nor do I think we really want to. When we meet someone in public who has twins, they tell us it gets better. It has gotten a lot better. It can still be challenging as hell and right now they are both congested and waking up every hour. But coming home from work and they see me, crawl over and pull themselves up to standing and want me to pick them up, that's some magical heart warming stuff.
 
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Today we had a wedding where my 3 yr old was the flower girl and my 1 yr old kept grandma busy walking around behind the ceremony. Later on at the wedding reception at the bar my 1 yr old was super fussy from not having a nap or eating normally so instead of drinking I spent most of the time helping her walk around the whole place and jump off steps. It was a million times better than any other wedding reception, having kids is amazing.

Luckily, we've not had any major issues yet with either of them. Both of their birthdays are this month (5 days apart) so knock on wood and hopefully that keeps up. Raising two kids without anything major going on is exhausting, wonderful and very hard (I work at home with them). I can't imagine going through anything major with them or having health issues, so to any of you parents that do mad props.

Later this month my work is having a retreat to Disney so they'll both be going for the first time. Any tips?
 
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Man I really thought we were turning the corner on the whole "if I am awake I am ranting and occasionally holding my breath and turning purple" thing. Last three days feel like such a setback.

Husband and I are feeling so defeated. Tough not to let three hours of screaming punctuated by ten mins of napping get to you. Dude fights day sleep so hard sometimes and its just sheer goddamn misery for everyone.
 
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Ours never had colic so we were lucky in that regard. Even without it we were still exhausted. I can't imagine trying to deal with that and work/life/etc.
 
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