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Yeah, as much as our little guy exhausts us by not even coming close to sleeping through the night, at least he does sleep for 3-4 hours at a time. He wakes up screaming, but as soon as you feed him he's right back to sleep at night. getting up 3 times a night for a half hour at a time isn't the worst thing in the world.

Although, I've always been a night owl, and I used to scoff at people who went to bed at like 10pm, thinking it was such a waste of many hours they could be up doing stuff. I now fall asleep between 9 and 10pm at least a couple times a week. For some reason I've always been able to function well on small amounts of sleep, my sleep schedule was always to stay up until 1-3am, then get up at 8am for work. 5-7 hours of sleep was plenty. For some reason just the small change of breaking up those hours of sleep into 3-hour blocks and I'm exhausted, can't do it for more than a day or two before I'm done and I have to go to bed at like 9pm
 
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yeah after talking with some folks last nite, it turns out vaccinations can make them like this for a few days afterwards. So even though Thurs was awesome, fri sat and Sunday may be due to achiness from shots. So if today is still bad we may bust the Tylenol out.

happy to know that it's likely something with a root cause (snark about shots encountered here aside).
 
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So our daughter slept through the night for the first time last night... that was pretty cool...

I'm not holding out hope it's going to happen back to back but it's a good start!
 
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Yeah, as much as our little guy exhausts us by not even coming close to sleeping through the night, at least he does sleep for 3-4 hours at a time. He wakes up screaming, but as soon as you feed him he's right back to sleep at night. getting up 3 times a night for a half hour at a time isn't the worst thing in the world.

Although, I've always been a night owl, and I used to scoff at people who went to bed at like 10pm, thinking it was such a waste of many hours they could be up doing stuff. I now fall asleep between 9 and 10pm at least a couple times a week. For some reason I've always been able to function well on small amounts of sleep, my sleep schedule was always to stay up until 1-3am, then get up at 8am for work. 5-7 hours of sleep was plenty. For some reason just the small change of breaking up those hours of sleep into 3-hour blocks and I'm exhausted, can't do it for more than a day or two before I'm done and I have to go to bed at like 9pm
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yeah for about a week and a half prior to the shots we were getting him down at 9, up at 5-6am (no interim waking), with one 3-4 hr nap during the day and the other daytime naps about 1.5/2 hrs each.

Post shots he has yet to take a good nap. Most are 1-2 hrs with far more on the side of 1hr, and a whole lot of 10 mins then up again.
 
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So our daughter slept through the night for the first time last night... that was pretty cool...

I'm not holding out hope it's going to happen back to back but it's a good start!
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yay that's awesome! Did you wake up and go holy shit its 6am is she still breathing??? Haha
 
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Ours never had colic so we were lucky in that regard. Even without it we were still exhausted. I can't imagine trying to deal with that and work/life/etc.
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yeah prior to thurs it had been about 2 weeks since he had gotten so worked up that he turned purple and did this heartbreaking shrill cry when he was upset. Still had red face and breath holding at times but we really thought purple heartbreak time was over (this was probably also the reason we weren't phased by his crying during the actual shots...crying red face and some breath holding was like normal at that point).

When the purple came back last nite it felt like someone punched us in the stomach. Watching your whole kid turn purple from being upset and knowing there is fuckall anyone can do to help him feels awful.
 
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My first two were colic, my oldest was really bad. I remember taking turns with my ex wife sitting in his room with him trying to comfort him at 3am while the other sat outside on the porch trying to calm themselves down and destress from it before it was their turn again. Fun stuff.

Luckily my youngest has slept through the night like a champ since he's been 3 months old. You could set a watch to his sleep schedule. Down at 8:30-9, up at 7:30-8. Though that last half hour window is beginning to switch to 7-7:30.
 
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Etoille_sl said:
yeah prior to thurs it had been about 2 weeks since he had gotten so worked up that he turned purple and did this heartbreaking shrill cry when he was upset. Still had red face and breath holding at times but we really thought purple heartbreak time was over (this was probably also the reason we weren't phased by his crying during the actual shots...crying red face and some breath holding was like normal at that point).

When the purple came back last nite it felt like someone punched us in the stomach. Watching your whole kid turn purple from being upset and knowing there is fuckall anyone can do to help him feels awful.
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There's going to be adversity in the kid's life. There are going to be hard times and disappointments and pain that you can't protect him from. Do what you can do and don't be such a basketcase about the rest, you're going to give the kid a complex. Seriously, take like... 20 deep breaths... relax. The kid will be fine.
 
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Etoille_sl said:
yay that's awesome! Did you wake up and go holy shit its 6am is she still breathing??? Haha
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Heh. Yup, this is every parent's first reaction when kids sleep through the night the first time. One second of "Ahh, a good night's sleep." followed immediately by "holy shit (while jumping out of bed), is my child still alive?"
 
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Etoille_sl said:
yay that's awesome! Did you wake up and go holy shit its 6am is she still breathing??? Haha
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Yeah it was wild. I actually woke up at 4 and checked to make sure she was still alive, then fell back asleep and did it again around 6.

All in all it was about 10 P.M. to 7:30 A.M.
 
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There's going to be adversity in the kid's life. There are going to be hard times and disappointments and pain that you can't protect him from. Do what you can do and don't be such a basketcase about the rest, you're going to give the kid a complex. Seriously, take like... 20 deep breaths... relax. The kid will be fine.
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It is so easy to say that later or after multiple kids or later on, but I was the same way with my first daughter at first. It is so difficult, even for intelligent and rational parents, to understand when they are overreacting.
 
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chaos_sl said:
It is so easy to say that later or after multiple kids or later on, but I was the same way with my first daughter at first. It is so difficult, even for intelligent and rational parents, to understand when they are overreacting.
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Thats why we have these things called message boards where those of us with experience can dispense advice to the new.
 
mkopec

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Bah, no amount of warning and advice will change first time parents. Its only through their own experience they learn.
 
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My daughter got rubella 2 months short of the MMR, from the daycare most likely, but who knows, long incubation time anyway. I blame the non-vaccers and cosmic radiation. Yay sick days. Meh :S
 
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chaos_sl said:
It is so easy to say that later or after multiple kids or later on, but I was the same way with my first daughter at first. It is so difficult, even for intelligent and rational parents, to understand when they are overreacting.
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Is it possible the multipara forget how the first couple of weeks / months really were? Don't parents tend to romanticize this? It would be an obvious coping mechanism for the human race - have more kids, survive as a species
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chaos

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No. After having more kids I realize that I just put a lot of pressure on myself and generally was too overbearing of a parent. My successive kids were much easier to deal with, and it isn't anything the kids did differently, it was me.
 
Izo

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chaos_sl said:
No. After having more kids I realize that I just put a lot of pressure on myself and generally was too overbearing of a parent. My successive kids were much easier to deal with, and it isn't anything the kids did differently, it was me.
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I sometimes find it difficult to not be over protective or worry needlessly. Rationally I know my girl will be fine when she's sick, or she falls and hurts herself. I see it every day, children recover from amazing trauma. But I've also had the dubious pleasure of experiencing my little girl's hospital admission, pneumonia and permanent lung capacity reduction from it. Given my occupation, I've seen enough of the least desirable option. Doing a post-mortem examination of a 4 yo girl a few months after my girl was born has giving me some slight issues. I'm normally not shaken by these things, but that made an impression. It's selection bias, projection and I know it. But I don't want to lose a kid, lost enough close relatives so far. Being human is hard.

I hope I have more kids and learn as you have, chaos. Thank you for your time
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