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joeboo_sl said:

Some definitely do. At 5 months, our kiddo would scream when we laid him down for a nap, then if we walked into his room and stood over his crib he would immediately smile & coo & laugh. Take 2 steps away, scream. 2 steps back, smile. Wouldn't make any physical contact at all and he'd do that.

Babies are smarter than we sometimes give them credit for.

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our kid is 4 months and 2 weeks and shes been doing this for a month.

Our house has been the sick house for the past three weeks, everyone taking turns. We started using a vaporizer at night and they sleep so much better now. After the past 6+ months of each of them waking up 2 or 3 times a night, this is a welcome reprieve. If this lasts, this is all we've needed? A humidifier? I'll be damned.

Humidifiers make a huge difference. I know there are arguments against it, but I put one on the furnace to humidify the whole house. It has been better since I did this.

Eyashusa_sl said:

our kid is 4 months and 2 weeks and shes been doing this for a month.

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Yeah the earliest "approved" age for CIO is 4 months.

I can't imagine doing CIO. I mean then again our kid is a pretty decent sleeper. What I thought was the beginning of the 4 month sleep regression lasted like 2-3 days. It could all change in a heart beat though - we fear sleep in this house - we still go to bed early because we plan on being woken up.

With CIO the philosophy is 'if your kids needs are being met (fed, diaper etc), then the kid is signaling a 'want' and therefore manipulating you.

I'm sure babies by 4 months are capable of distinguishing a want from a need. But I think sometimes baby does just need you to be there. And I'm not one of those 'rush in' moms. If he wakes up we will let him fuss a bit because sometimes he will put himself back down - he's done that since like 2 weeks. I do think kids need to learn how to self soothe. But I can't do true cry it out. Prolonged wailing? Newp. Not into it. There's a better way.

But that's my parenting style - folks have to do what works for them. If its one thing I've seen a lot of in the past few months from all different places.....man people thinking they know everything about your kid is fucking annoying. Like suggestions are great but sometimes people just don't know when to shut their fucking mouths. CIO will work with some kids, with others it won't. I'm not going to be one of those "I never..." parents. The second I do my kid is going to stop sleeping through the night. We've had it STUPID good with his sleeping through the night and I literally every morning am still grateful for it. It was the only thing that kept me sane through the colic.


In re the time change...we're still in the middle of this too - though last night he went down an hour later and was still asleep at 6:30. The reason he slept in? Because we were counting on him to wake us up so we could go stand in line at Target for a PS4. So as soon as we counted on it....it changed haha. I'm sure he'll be up at 5:30 again tomorrow morning. Yesterday morning he got up at 4:45 we were like yea no - no more getting up earlier and earlier....we just fed, changed, swaddled, put him back down. He slept until 7:30 heh.



We have the vicks humidifier (cool mist) that you can put the vapo pads in - love it. I also am in love with the Zarbees baby (not child, baby) cough syrup. It might be sugar water, I don't care. It works.

Well, it isn't as if you really just let them cry it out for hours on end. With our first kid, she never would have started sleeping if we hadn't done it, she got to the point at about 6 months that she would ONLY sleep with us.

chaos_sl said:

Well, it isn't as if you really just let them cry it out for hours on end. With our first kid, she never would have started sleeping if we hadn't done it, she got to the point at about 6 months that she would ONLY sleep with us.

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yeah when I said "there's a better way" - I meant to say "There's a better way for us as far as I'm concerned" - basically setting up the next paragraph.

I know CIO isn't letting them scream for hours on end but I couldn't do 20 mins. I couldn't do 10. Again I'm talking real tears, real screaming. Fussing (to include little ranty/small 'aaah's) I don't consider crying. If it gets to real tears though boom I'm in there.

But again every situation is totally different. I'm not about to give you advice on how to wean a child from sleeping in your room - my son slept in his crib from night 3 of being home. Entirely really on accident. I don't think it would have happened if we hadn't had a snuza but yeah. I'm definitely no expert.

Yeah every kid is different. My other two never had a problem, but I think our first one was a combination of us being kind of overbearing parents and she got sick pretty bad at about 5 months, which led to the battle at 6 months. It got tot he point where I was suffering at work from lack of sleep and I decided this shit had to stop, so we tried it. The longest she ever cried was about 10 minutes, the thing we read said never let it go beyond 15 and step it up in 5 minute increments from when you first put them down. It worked amazingly well, shockingly well really. They also say that when it gets to the point that it is, as you say, "real tears", it is time to go get them because at that age they are more likely to continue to work themselves up.

Solids are going pretty well...he liked mangoes...then we went to carrots. Not a huge fan. Went to green beans...kid LOVES green beans. Probably going to mash up some avocado for him next and let him go to town on his own with his hands. Got the high chair out today.

I hope he poops too tonight. Last poop was early thurs. I hate when you get 2-3 days out and you know the explosion is coming...just a matter of when and where.

In other completely ridiculous news...he's liked 'standing' for a while. Not a big fan of sitting really but....if you put him next to the ottoman now he'll rest his upper body on it and 'stand on his own' for (extremely) short periods. Obviously we keep our hands right there etc but Christ why is my kid getting so big so fast He was just my tiny baby like 4.5 months ago and now we're in size 3 diapers and in two-three weeks moving to 6-9 months clothes.

STOP GROWING DAMMIT . Where's my tiny baby? This time goes by way way way too quickly.

We are expecting our third in July. I am looking for recommendations for vehicles that work well with 3 carseats Currently have a Mercury Montego (twin of the Taurus) and it seems unlikely this will work comfortably. Ages will be 4 1/2, 1 1/2 and newborn at the time.

Kaita_sl said:

We are expecting our third in July. I am looking for recommendations for vehicles that work well with 3 carseats Currently have a Mercury Montego (twin of the Taurus) and it seems unlikely this will work comfortably. Ages will be 4 1/2, 1 1/2 and newborn at the time.

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Hate to break the bad news, but it's probably minivan time for you. That'll get you 3 rows of seats with an easy middle-passthru on the 2nd row to get to the 3rd, plus still having a good amount of storage. Hell, get that mini van they've been advertising on TV that has the built-in central vac system. That shit would be handy with that many messy monsters in the car at once all the time

My brother and sister in law have a Honda Odyssey, and its actually a really nice vehicle if you can get past the fact that its a minivan. Easily room for up to 4 car/booster seats if needed, sliding doors on BOTH sides, enough storage room in the back for multiple strollers, or a stroller + luggage or cooler. Lot of storage space with a LOT of interior space.

Hey, mothers, watch this. Remember, you're someone's hero.

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Kaita_sl said:

We are expecting our third in July. I am looking for recommendations for vehicles that work well with 3 carseats Currently have a Mercury Montego (twin of the Taurus) and it seems unlikely this will work comfortably. Ages will be 4 1/2, 1 1/2 and newborn at the time.

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Heard amazing things about the Infiniti QX60 for this reason. I am not an 'expensive car' person by any means - I've always had GM's and would continue to do so and be perfectly happy except for the situation you're describing is forcing me to look elsewhere.

So that's what we're looking at in about a year or two. We'll get rid of my husbands fusion and keep my equinox as the 'small' car.

lurkingdirk_sl said:

Hey, mothers, watch this. Remember, you're someone's hero.

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Dude...fuck you for posting this.

So much crying. <3

We aren't letting her cry it out at all really, she just makes lots of noise and is starting to learn how to scream which is just lovely... more like a shriek. No real tears or anything. Most of it is her just talking to herself. She perks up sometimes when she just hears us coming up the stairs.

Definitely in the middle of a wonder week or 4 month regression or something... past 3 nights she has gone to sleep at her normal time (7:30 - 8) but is waking up about 4 in the morning screaming. Luckily she takes a bottle and goes right back to sleep for another 3-4 hours.

We've stopped rice cereal for the time being until we can get pooping happening regularly. Prune juice can apparently cause cramping so we've moved on to pear juice and that seems to be working well. Our doctor didn't say give her solids yet, but he didn't say NOT to do it, so we are waiting for a bit although we've given her some avocado and she loved it.

When you gave prune juice how much did you give?

2 ounces diluted with ~1 ounce of water.

Ah maybe that was it. I only gave 2mls last night and nothing happened and I was like WTH. I had 4oz postpartum and it was nuts so I didn't want to over do it but it looks like I way shorted it lol.

So my daughter's sleeping is getting to be a problem. Last night she woke up around 11pm after sleeping for a few hours (4ish). I picked her up and she quieted. After 10 minutes of holding, put her down and she cried. Repeat for like an hour.

Finally my wife took her into our bed and proceeded to feed her like 3 times in the middle of the night. Now my daughter east 4-5 a day between 7am and 7pm still. I have no idea what's going on. There is definitely something going on between comfort and stuff. I don't think my wife could let my daughter cry it out longer than 5 minutes.

The thing is my daughter isn't really wailing. Just crying. No tears, no sobs or anything. Just wah wah wah wah wah.

My wife wants to bring her back into our room to sleep but not in the bed. I don't like sleeping with her in our bed because that's just unsafe to me. Dunno what I'm going to do, but I'm losing my mind.

She's not teething, I know that for sure now. Maybe she's gonna go through a growth spurt or something. I've read that babies tend to wake up more often as they are learning new motor skills. Might be that combined with separation anxiety.

It's really funny watching them drink prune juice for the first time. She made the funniest faces. I will try to figure out how to send the video to you...

Draegan: We moved her back into the bassinet in our room for the time being. My wife wanted to do it... funny thing is she loves her crib more than anything these days as she practices rolling over. When she gets super fussy and no position seems to help her, we usually just put her in her crib and that relaxes her.

She did sleep through the night last night for the first time in 5 days so that was cool. Just have to roll with it...

Draegan_sl said:

So my daughter's sleeping is getting to be a problem. Last night she woke up around 11pm after sleeping for a few hours (4ish). I picked her up and she quieted. After 10 minutes of holding, put her down and she cried. Repeat for like an hour.

Finally my wife took her into our bed and proceeded to feed her like 3 times in the middle of the night. Now my daughter east 4-5 a day between 7am and 7pm still. I have no idea what's going on. There is definitely something going on between comfort and stuff. I don't think my wife could let my daughter cry it out longer than 5 minutes.

The thing is my daughter isn't really wailing. Just crying. No tears, no sobs or anything. Just wah wah wah wah wah.

My wife wants to bring her back into our room to sleep but not in the bed. I don't like sleeping with her in our bed because that's just unsafe to me. Dunno what I'm going to do, but I'm losing my mind.

She's not teething, I know that for sure now. Maybe she's gonna go through a growth spurt or something. I've read that babies tend to wake up more often as they are learning new motor skills. Might be that combined with separation anxiety.

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Our 6-month old is doing that, but pretty much just with naps. He absolutely throws a fit at naptime, and won't hardly nap at all. It's a 90-minute ordeal of putting him down, letting him cry, picking him back up after 10 minutes of crying, soothing him to sleep as we hold him, then crying again as soon as we put him down in his crib. All of that just to get a 20-30 minute nap out of him. Going through that whole process multiple times a day is exhausting.

Luckily, bedtime is still fine, for whatever reason. My wife feeds him around 7PM for his final breast feeding of the day, and then he'll fall right asleep and sleep all night until 6am.

I don't understand the absolute war that naps have become though. It's progressed to the point that he'll start crying if we just carry him into his bedroom in the middle of the day(which we do to change his diaper). He'll start flipping out thinking it's nap time again.