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Holy crap I had easy kids.

I won't say any more, lest you all stone me out of envy.

I weep for you all, and wish you well.

Mmm Carbs! My son loves bread so much! Well, really anything with carbs. Cookies, bread, etc. Baby boy turned 1 year old yesterday. Has been fully mobile walking on his own for over a month at least. Baby gates are all over, and he actually listens to us pretty well about not going up the stairs, or down the stairs. We have an elevated landing, and he's figured out really well how to climb down or up the 1 step. We are super lucky, but has never banged his head... now that I say this, I'll get a text from the wife at home that he did this. haha

As for the baby being locked in the car. We have a Hyundai Tucson, and the baby had hit the lock button on the remote, while the wife was putting him in. Wife apparently didn't see that he had the keys, or he had hit the button, and then dropped them, so wife didn't see.

Wife thought MIL had the keys, because she thought they were still attached to the shopping cart cover, like they usually are. So she strapped baby in, no other car doors open, and shut the door, and then realized just after, when she asked MIL to open the door with the keys, that they were inside. Doh!

I asked her why she didn't just call the police (or AAA, insurance) and she said she's just used to relying on family. She's 1 of 8 kids, that all used to live very close to each other.

As she was texting me, telling me all the things going on, I did think to myself this could be on a TV show. lol

lurkingdirk_sl said:

Holy crap I had easy kids.

I won't say any more, lest you all stone me out of envy.

I weep for you all, and wish you well.

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Tamagotchis die too, you know. Selection bias anyway - nothing to post about if it's all gravy.

Where you need to be concerned with milestones I think, is if your child is significantly behind on something. Like far outside the norms, not just at the tail end. My second was way behind on speech but no one took it seriously for far too long. We even had speech therapists that tried to tell us it was nothing. I finally just demanded that our concerns be taken seriously and had her evaluated by the school district where they determined, /gasp, she had a pretty severe developmental delay that stemmed from her inability to communicate through speech. She was a very unhappy, frustrated little girl and though she has improved a ton, we are still working on it.

I'm really nervous about her going into kindergarten in the fall. She'll still have her IEP so will be working with the specialists a few times a week, but she is so behind academically because of all of this, that I worry she will be dismissed as being too difficult in a regular kindergarten classroom. Her teachers assure us she'll be fine, but I'm still worried about it. Guess we'll see how it goes for awhile and if it becomes a problem, we may look for solutions in the private sector, though that will not be a fun expense.

A lot of people in this thread have younger kids/babies and it reminds me of when my daughter was a baby, which doesn't seem that long ago. And now here we are where she'll turn 7 on Sunday. They really do grow up so fast.

lindz_sl said:

Where you need to be concerned with milestones I think, is if your child is significantly behind on something. Like far outside the norms, not just at the tail end. My second was way behind on speech but no one took it seriously for far too long. We even had speech therapists that tried to tell us it was nothing. I finally just demanded that our concerns be taken seriously and had her evaluated by the school district where they determined, /gasp, she had a pretty severe developmental delay that stemmed from her inability to communicate through speech. She was a very unhappy, frustrated little girl and though she has improved a ton, we are still working on it.

I'm really nervous about her going into kindergarten in the fall. She'll still have her IEP so will be working with the specialists a few times a week, but she is so behind academically because of all of this, that I worry she will be dismissed as being too difficult in a regular kindergarten classroom. Her teachers assure us she'll be fine, but I'm still worried about it. Guess we'll see how it goes for awhile and if it becomes a problem, we may look for solutions in the private sector, though that will not be a fun expense.

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All depends on your district. If it's an inclusion district, she will stay in the "regular" class and go to another classroom for certain subjects or certain times of the day.

Private school is usually never an answer for academic reasons because they usually lack the resources for those who need assistance academically.

Baby is 3 months now, and doing great. Mom is feeling much better now with much fewer and less severe bouts of PPD. We're trying to figure out what the heck to do with sleep though. Ferber and other methods seem to suggest that they work best after 4 or 5 months. Until then, any sleep tips seem pretty generic and pathetic. Baby will sleep like a champ - on top of me. He sucks at napping, bad. We have to physically PUT him to sleep every time, all day long, bouncing on the ball and such for half an hour just to get him to nap. Usually, it doesn't even last. He will not sleep in his crib, bassinet, or anywhere else really, other than his MamaRoo, but even that is pretty hit or miss.

The other day we put him in his crib on his belly for a nap. When he sleeps on me, he's always on his belly, I take my shirt off and he's secure and loves it. He napped for 2 hours on his stomach. Only problem of course, if he sleeps on his stomach he's going to spontaneously combust because, SIDS. Does anyone here have a belly sleeper? What did you do? He can't roll over yet. We were thinking of getting a Snuza, but it clips on the belly, not sure if that would work!

Yeah, napping will be a mess for a while. Nighttime might be crazy too, our kid probably didn't sleep completely through the night (8+ hours) until he was around 6 months old. He basically just stayed on his nap rotation 24/7 when he was around that age, which was something like up 1 hour sleep 2-3 hour, repeat. Once he was able to sleep through the night around 6 months then he was also able to stay awake for longer stretches during the day(2-3 hours) and naps became a little shorter(juts an hour or two at a time)

I'd also guess that for those first 6 months, we probably had to rock him to sleep at least 50% of the time, maybe more like 75% of the time, otherwise he would just throw a fit when we laid him in his crib. We spent a LOT of time in the rocking chair in his room until he started sleeping through the night. Once he got to 6 months we were a little more open to just letting him cry it out in his crib when it was nap/sleep time.

We did a lot of rocking too but we were very lucky in that our daughter started sleeping through the night at about 3 months. We also went formula exclusive at about 2 months when my wife went back to work and that supposedly helps.

Naps were another story. She would absolutely not nap unless someone was holding her until about 6-7 months old. She'll be 9 months this Thursday and even though she rarely naps for more than 45 minutes at a time, she never fusses and goes to sleep really easily now without any rocking or cuddling or anything.

He honestly does pretty well at night, only problem being he sleeps on me. Now he usually sleeps for 3-4 hours, then gets hungry and fussy (half the time he doesn't even wake up, just starts kicking and headbutting me in his sleep). Feed him and he goes right back to sleep, usually. 20 minutes and back to sleep, instead of the 2 hour screamfest we used to get. Napping though, yeah. Does not nap. Any 'tips' that say "put baby down for nap when..." gets thrown directly out the window. Baby does not get put down, or baby immediately screams.

We had a baby swing that we still sometimes use for our 1 year old. For the first long while, he was sleeping in the swing, with the swing going the entire time. Then we transitioned him to naps in the swing, but night time bed time was in his crib, and now it's 100% in the crib. We still use it though as mentioned if he's having a bad teething night or something. He loves that damn swing.

Worked wonders for us, maybe it will for other babies out there?

Swing for one of mine too. Napping was a complete nightmare for my first. She would NEVER nap and I was exhausted. Got a swing and it was like magic. Sometimes she would just swing quietly while awake which was wonderful in itself. Other times she would be out within a minute and damn was that a relief.

All my girls love the swing, definitely a must have for me.

Yeah the swing was the only way we could get my first to sleep for the first month or so. For the other two we were hardened vets and just put their asses to sleep.

We tried a swing, vibrating bouncers, chest sleeping...what our twins ended up using for nighttime sleeping were the Fisher Price rock n plays. For naps, they would use their high chairs, chicco polymagic. We would push them back and forth and they'd eventually conk out. Now at almost 18 months old, they've been doing their cribs for naps and bedtime for about 5 months. We still use the sleep sheep ocean sound wave sound maker. And this penguin thing, which we've gotten them to be excited about bedtime as we ask them "Who wants to press the button?" and they take turns pressing the wrong button because they know how to fuck with us.

Swing was godly the first few months. Then she outgrew it pretty fast.

My daughter is walking now and I got my first hobble over to dad and grab and hugs his legs before he leaves for work yesterday. Best thing ever.

Draegan_sl said:

Swing was godly the first few months. Then she outgrew it pretty fast.

My daughter is walking now and I got my first hobble over to dad and grab and hugs his legs before he leaves for work yesterday. Best thing ever.

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Let me know when she is old enough for porn.

Thengel_sl said:

Baby is 3 months now, and doing great. Mom is feeling much better now with much fewer and less severe bouts of PPD. We're trying to figure out what the heck to do with sleep though. Ferber and other methods seem to suggest that they work best after 4 or 5 months. Until then, any sleep tips seem pretty generic and pathetic. Baby will sleep like a champ - on top of me. He sucks at napping, bad. We have to physically PUT him to sleep every time, all day long, bouncing on the ball and such for half an hour just to get him to nap. Usually, it doesn't even last. He will not sleep in his crib, bassinet, or anywhere else really, other than his MamaRoo, but even that is pretty hit or miss.

The other day we put him in his crib on his belly for a nap. When he sleeps on me, he's always on his belly, I take my shirt off and he's secure and loves it. He napped for 2 hours on his stomach. Only problem of course, if he sleeps on his stomach he's going to spontaneously combust because, SIDS. Does anyone here have a belly sleeper? What did you do? He can't roll over yet. We were thinking of getting a Snuza, but it clips on the belly, not sure if that would work!

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Look I'm all about do what's best for you and don't judge if you use Ferber or cry it out etc but 3 months is way too young. 6 months is the min.

My son was a great sleeper at night but awful napper and there was no such thing as oh just put the kid in his crib when he's tired - we had to physically put him to sleep as well. There were days where he'd only sleep if we put him in the swing - and sat there and swung it harder than the highest setting. And it wasn't like oh we could just get him down, he wouldn't stay down if you stopped pushing - so there were days where literally my husband swung him for hours.


My son sleeps on his stomach now - basically from the day he self weaned out of the swaddle in mid Feb.

If you want to use the snuza on a stomach sleeper it works - we clip it to the back of the diaper above the butt

lindz_sl said:

Swing for one of mine too. Napping was a complete nightmare for my first. She would NEVER nap and I was exhausted. Got a swing and it was like magic. Sometimes she would just swing quietly while awake which was wonderful in itself. Other times she would be out within a minute and damn was that a relief.

All my girls love the swing, definitely a must have for me.

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you know I really wish like any magic thing worked for us haha. Pacifier? Nope. Swing? Nope. Baby Einsteins Sea Dreams soother? Nope.

Swaddling, white noise. Extreme forms of both (double swaddle, serious white noise). That was what worked. Hell my phone is still in that kids room every night providing white noise.

At the end of the day though my kid slept through the night from 10 days (if you go by the definition which is 6 hours; he was sleeping 8 hrs a night by 6 weeks) and I don't care if my phone never comes out of his room as long as he keeps doing that. He hasn't even gone through a sleep regression yet. Even when I thought he was starting one it would be a day or two then totally back to normal.

Thank the fucking lord.

I look at people who could just put their babies in those baby gym things on their backs and I am like holy fuck I don't remember a moment when my son was ok with that. Ever. And I'm not making that up.

Jilariz_sl said:

We tried a swing, vibrating bouncers, chest sleeping...what our twins ended up using for nighttime sleeping were the Fisher Price rock n plays. For naps, they would use their high chairs, chicco polymagic. We would push them back and forth and they'd eventually conk out. Now at almost 18 months old, they've been doing their cribs for naps and bedtime for about 5 months. We still use the sleep sheep ocean sound wave sound maker. And this penguin thing, which we've gotten them to be excited about bedtime as we ask them "Who wants to press the button?" and they take turns pressing the wrong button because they know how to fuck with us.

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Love the travel sleep sheep for car rides!

I know quite a few rock n play folks who had issues with flat heads/spots - (again, rock n play never worked for us - used it a total of twice) - so as long as you watch for that you're fine.

Yeah if your kid is constantly sleeping in a swing or chair be on the lookout for flat spots. That's how our kid ended up in a helmet!