But they are not. Either it was the one time event or it was all the events and when asked to name the one thing because somebody is writing an article she names the most memorable or recent event she liked. That is the point.
You guys put such stock in these one time things you do and don't realize that it's an entire realness about you that is important. You are comparing changing a marriage lasting years to a single pickup line at a bar. That one pickup line is what got the bimbo to go home with you but there are a million other things that got that pickup line to work. Who her parents are, who your parents are, who you are, what her degree is in, who her first boyfriend was, the pheromones in the air, where she is at in her cycle, the weather system in the region, the urea content of the piss from the monkey that watered the coconut tree that produced the rum she is drinking, and who knows what else. You just say "red pill got me laid" and call it a day.