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The Girls Who Broke Your Heart Thread
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iannis
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She's going to go insane anway so you should use this chance to scratch a few lines off of your sexual bucketlist.
Dirty Sanchez.
So this girl I have been seeing for the last 4 months just dropped a bomb on me last night. She told me she has been in a domination/submissive relationship with some guy that lives across the country for about a year. She is in "training" to learn how to be a dominatrix and this guy is some doctor from NYC who likes to be told what to do. They have never met but he is coming here next month... and so far everything has been over phone/email between them. The thing is when we met, neither of us were looking for a relationship and it just sort of happened to turn into one because we get along so good and have a lot of the same interests.
I blew up and told her she needs to pick....that lifestyle or me.....I can understand that she was already on that journey before she met me but there's now way in hell I want to be involved with someone that has that type of thing on the side. I am a pretty normal guy and overall she is fairly normal to...but that sort of domination/fetish lifestyle is just to weird for me. God damn people are fucking weird.
Waiting to see what she says but it looks like it's back to the meat market for me!
I blew up and told her she needs to pick....that lifestyle or me.....I can understand that she was already on that journey before she met me but there's now way in hell I want to be involved with someone that has that type of thing on the side. I am a pretty normal guy and overall she is fairly normal to...but that sort of domination/fetish lifestyle is just to weird for me. God damn people are fucking weird.
Waiting to see what she says but it looks like it's back to the meat market for me!
Zaara
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Ain't going to work out. If they've been at this LD-LT (at least in comparison to how long you've been with her), there's probably not much you can do or say to keep the meet-up from happening. And even if she does call it off, she's going to resent the everliving fuck out of you.
D/s is one of those things that people like in principle or idea. It's when they actually start acting out on it that they realize it's either something they want or (the much-more-common alternative) something that should've just stayed an idea. There is not a lot of women in the world who can sustain a healthy interest in a consistently D/s relationship with the man as the submissive, period. Chances are fantastic that guy is going to get there and she's going to realize in between high-pitched little boy squeals that she made a biiiiig mistake, but...if you're smart, you won't be around by then.
Yeah, I wouldn't have even phrased it as an ultimatum, fact is, that's not for you, you should just say as much and move on. She isn't going to change who she is for you and you really shouldn't expect her to, the same applies to you changing to suit her.
You seem to be in fairly positive spirits about it which is good, I'm glad you weren't deeply in love with this girl.
Kirun
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Doctor? I hope you're rich, otherwise it's pretty obvious who she's going to pick. You need to move on.
OH yea I'm OK with moving on. She's a cool girl and we learned a lot from each other.....not getting bent out of shape. We had a great 4 months and it looks like it ran it's course. In other words......NEXT!!
cabbitcabbit
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Uhg. Girlfriend's mom is on life support. Caught a nasty strain of H1N1. She's a couple hours away and I know there isn't much I can do for support minus a few texts and calls.
Do they make "Sorry your mom caught the spanish flu" cards?
Do they make "Sorry your mom caught the spanish flu" cards?
Kirun
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I'm dealing with a semi-recent breakup. The girl mentioned this thread from March of last year:
Marriage and The Power of Divorce - Page 4
Long term relationship. Talked about getting married. Literally never argued in person...occasional quibbles, never a real argument.
She broke up with meby fucking e-mail.Which, incidentally, was about eight sentences long. If I'd listened to every friend I have I would have ignored her right then and there, but no, I had to try and fucking contact her. Refused to talk in person. Refused to E-MAIL me and discuss things, refused to TEXT. She's way goddamn old enough to know better, too, 40 years old. Incidentally this was days after a night out that was completely normal in every way. Guess I fucking know why she's 40 years old and has never been married before.
Motherfucker. I'm past some of it now, but it still eats me sometimes. How the fuck wouldn't it? On one hand I should hate her, but on the other hand it's impossible.
Then when she refused to talk after a week, I just sent her a shitload of cutting, personal attacks via text. Oh, did she respond to that. The bad part is, I felt horrible about it right after, and still do. I said really, really cruel, mean things, the kind of insults where someone could only insult you with if they know deep, personal things about your life. Then I live with that goddamn regret.
All this goes back to I wish I could just go back in time and ignore that fucking e-mail and stick it right up her ass without giving her any attention.
I have to reiterate again, we literally never argued in person...no violence, no harsh words...why she was such a coward to use e-mail is utterly goddamn mindboggling to me. Just amazing.
Marriage and The Power of Divorce - Page 4
Long term relationship. Talked about getting married. Literally never argued in person...occasional quibbles, never a real argument.
She broke up with meby fucking e-mail.Which, incidentally, was about eight sentences long. If I'd listened to every friend I have I would have ignored her right then and there, but no, I had to try and fucking contact her. Refused to talk in person. Refused to E-MAIL me and discuss things, refused to TEXT. She's way goddamn old enough to know better, too, 40 years old. Incidentally this was days after a night out that was completely normal in every way. Guess I fucking know why she's 40 years old and has never been married before.
Motherfucker. I'm past some of it now, but it still eats me sometimes. How the fuck wouldn't it? On one hand I should hate her, but on the other hand it's impossible.
Then when she refused to talk after a week, I just sent her a shitload of cutting, personal attacks via text. Oh, did she respond to that. The bad part is, I felt horrible about it right after, and still do. I said really, really cruel, mean things, the kind of insults where someone could only insult you with if they know deep, personal things about your life. Then I live with that goddamn regret.
All this goes back to I wish I could just go back in time and ignore that fucking e-mail and stick it right up her ass without giving her any attention.
I have to reiterate again, we literally never argued in person...no violence, no harsh words...why she was such a coward to use e-mail is utterly goddamn mindboggling to me. Just amazing.
iannis
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That is indeed one of those situations where you have to completely ignore it.
And you'll bleed for 1-2 weeks. You just have to accept that. There's no way to avoid it. Because the alternative, as you now realize, is that you bleed for YEARS.
If she's gonna break up with you in email (or anything similar) there is only one thing to be done. You reply, "k", to let her know you got the message and then you go through the mourning process as if she'd died. Because that's what happened.
And you'll bleed for 1-2 weeks. You just have to accept that. There's no way to avoid it. Because the alternative, as you now realize, is that you bleed for YEARS.
If she's gonna break up with you in email (or anything similar) there is only one thing to be done. You reply, "k", to let her know you got the message and then you go through the mourning process as if she'd died. Because that's what happened.
iannis
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Hell, it's not about that even. It's just when it's a dealbreaker it's a dealbreaker... and it doesn't have to be anybody's fault.
Srathor
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Well you can't do it now, but if you get dumped again the harshest thing you could do to her is mail her back with a "Oh, good. saves me the trouble."
Then live fucking well, and make sure if you see her you radiate <fuck off I am better without you>. She will lose her damn mind.
Then live fucking well, and make sure if you see her you radiate <fuck off I am better without you>. She will lose her damn mind.
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The breakup was in December. I was talking about marriage with her in that thread early last year.
It's been over two months, and yeah, it still fucking sucks. I just can't let it bother me anymore. No fucking closure...not a chance to talk, ask questions, nothing. Completely ignored. She wouldn't even answer any questions I had. The sad thing is I'm also friends with some of her friends, and I hear shit about her. She's not dating, she doesn't do shit...she wasn't doing shit before I found her, either, she was single for _six_ fucking years, because she moves around constantly. Anyway, not gonna get into all those details.