Gave the significant other -yet another- chance to have a normal relationship.
History: Fell quickly in love 2+ years ago at work but she's one of those poly types so she had this primary she's been with. We get along really really well, but when the other fat cunt is even mentioned, it causes an argument and boy we argue horribly. When things are good though, things are great. Her and primary are now exes and living apart recently.
Last night she spends the night. We have dinner, are intimate (nothing new), and things are fine and normal. She gets an e-mail on her phone, saying Hi **ex's name**. She seems concerned, I ask what that is. Says someone logged into ex's account under an I-Phone (security alert I guess). Takes screenshot. I question why she would get an e-mail about her ex's account. I realize she's logged on the ex's e-mail. I make comment that that's weird and not normal. She flips out and says she's leaving, gathering her shit. I prevent her from leaving by standing in front of door; she drank about 5 shots and lives an hour away. I tried to calmly and rationally talk through this but she's insistent on leaving. Starts getting physically violent with me, shoving me and pushing. She eventually pushes her way through and in the process opens the door and it hits my arm (I'm okay, nothing to show) and leaves.
She e-mails me this when she gets home:
"It looked like you scratched your arm on the door, i'm sorry about that. You scared me and my fight or flight kicked in. I didn't mean for you to hurt yourself. That's all I wanted to say."
Hmmm, feeling guilty, my love?
I replied back 10 minutes later,
"I haven't blocked you, you don't have to email me. I'm glad you're safe, but so utterly and astonishingly bewildered by your reckless and self-destructive behavior tonight. You are not well, and that makes me so sad.
I love you name redacted, so very much, but you are truly losing your grip on reality.
I'll be here for you when you are ready.
Nessa"
Anyway I e-mail her back, describing what happened (I was hardly buzzed, she was drunk) and we have a couple back and forths and I realize she's really just lost it because she's now saying that I was physically assaulting her, that I am the crazy one, that I started all of this, and that I was holding her prisoner. All because she got triggered that I said it was weird that she was on her ex's e-mail.
The tail end of her last e-mail is:
"So instead of me coming back to talk about this, i'm staying home. I'm going to switch gyms, and as soon as i'm able, i'm switching redacted (shows what line of work she works). I don't want to be near you. I don't want to know you. Delete my number, my pictures, all existence of me in your life and leave me alone."
I replied back
"Sure, I'll leave you alone, because if you honestly can't see that everything I wrote is factual, then you are out of touch with reality and essentially fucked in the head. I'm so sorry that the girl I loved has lost her mind... it's so pitifully tragic.
Good luck out there in the world name redacted... you're going to need it.
Nessa"
Obviously the proper course of action is to leave her alone, which is np! I'm changing my locks because she has the key still. I just got a taste of what an irrational female is capable of, and how they can spin the situation of what actually took place into a very destructive light.
I'm not posting because my heart was broken so much as I'm just kinda venting here. It's utterly bizarre and idk... maybe a few of you guys who have had crazy ex's can relate.