This cannot be overstated. Y'all are touching upon stuff that we as a civilization and society haven't dealt with before. A sobering fact is that the WPATH document hasn't been updated since 2011. Maybe it doesn't
need to be updated on a clinical level but socially a shit-ton has changed. A radical change of tone just in the past 5 years alone is the fact that I haven't heard the term "gatekeeping" used by the trans community hardly at all lately. The term was a catch-all complaint by trannies who couldn't easily get on HRT due to various roadblocks of either required lived RLE, referral letters via psychologists/therapists, or even certain court and legal entities. I used to hear that term relatively often, and I think it makes sense why I don't that much anymore.
Most of your post wasn't questions though, and I'm goofy and sarcastic IRL, sorry... it just translates directly through here too haha. I truly am sorry if my answers disappoint but reality is more banal than you'd think with transition. FYI, I'm not a dick chopper yet and may never be if me and the S.O. can actually not fight for a change (we're working on it). The bathroom issue is a hotbutton topic because you have a bunch of unpassables going into them and locker rooms freaking out women because there is a dong in there. Any of these "women" would, frankly, make women uncomfortable to sit adjacent to in a stall:
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This is not transphobia, this is not TERF idealistics... it's called "living in reality" and those trannies above are the EXACT type to run to HR with a discrimination complaint when a co-worker accidentally calls them sir, and the exact type to claim that they are a WOMAN and need to be treated as such. As if this bullshit wasn't already complicated enough, let's throw in non-binary trannies into the social mix:
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...then try to make rational statements about where THEY go take a shit in public!
The bathroom issue is a nightmare precisely due to the two examples I gave above. Like I said, I don't even remember the first time I went in the ladies restroom... I just had to take a whizz.