The wife and I were at a dinner party on Saturday night with two other couples, one of which I had never met before. Halfway through the evening someone said I was "lucky" about something, to which I replied "I don't like the word luck, I prefer fortunate." They asked why and I said the word "luck" tends to remove one's personal accountability for events in their life. Not that I never use the word luck, but I try my best to be accountable for all my actions in life good or bad, things don't just happen to me. Then the dude that I never met before says to me "you have to admit you are lucky that you were born white."
Basically he did not even listen to my response about personal accountability in an effort to challenge me and further his own personal agenda. All the conversations prior to this was about college or kids or our town etc, again this is the first time I met him. Like WTF dude? Religion and Politics are things you don't discuss at a nice dinner party meeting people for the first time. or at the very least you don't draw a line in the sand the way he did. Perhaps make a gray area political comment first and see how I react and size me up. Up until that point it was a nice evening and we were all getting along great.
Out of respect for the Dinner hosts I did not take the bait and I defused it pretty quickly, however in my mind I had like 10 inflammatory things I wanted to say.
