So, way back I was part of an investigation regarding a soldier who committed suicide. Another happened not long ago and I can see similarities.
Cue my rustle.
Those fucking Facebook virtue signalers. "If you ever have thoughts of suicide, call me, I don't mind to stay on the phone all night if that keeps another soldier from taking their life". You know the type. Some people in need of real help fail to recognize those jackasses as the empty virtue signalers that they are and go to those clowns expecting a helping hand. Except they don't know how to talk to a suicidal, much less keep the conversation going or actually want to. So the result is an awkward 5 min talk before they say they have something else to do: put the kids to bed, take out the trash, go to bed early to work in the morning, etc. So the guy essentially get rejected one more time, maybe try another one with same result and off himself.
I think I've told this story here before.
OK, Ft Riley. Maybe 1994? 1/4 Cav, HHT
A young guy in one of the S-shops...kind of a nerd, I think...awkward, just out of highschool, not ready for life, if you know what I mean...
So he does what soldiers do, and he found some local chick to bang. Long story short, he got her pregnant, she said she was keeping the baby, he was like 'ok, let's do this as a couple' and she was like...'no, I'm keeping the kid, but there's someone else, sorry'. Or maybe it was more 'I'm going to find someone else, wish me luck' (it's been 25+ years? FML)
So dude comes back into the barracks (it's a friday night btw) and he's fucking suicidal. IIRC roommate hears the story, worried about him, and goes down to CQ to tell them what's up. They come up, talk to him, and pass it up the chain.
Our 1st Sgt, who usually went out drinking like the enlisted always did (single senior enlisted out drinking and slaying young snatch, LOL) came right in and started laying things out to people. Delegates to the E6 that's on staff duty @ squadron HQ (a medic) to take charge. He's already on staff duty, 24 shift, so he's told to watch the soldier and make sure he doesn't...you know...commit suicide. 1st SGT goes home, intending to come back on Saturday to see what they can do with the kid. E6 takes kid over to HQ and makes him sit for an hour.
After a while, the E6 decides...hey, how about I let you go back to your room. You don't seem too bad. But I'll come by every hour on the hour and beat on the door to check on you.
Rumor I heard was that this lasted once...maybe twice...and they just quit checking on him.
So Saturday morning, we're all hungover playing video games. One guy (E4 medic) goes down hallway to do laundry in the laundry room. He notices someone standing in the doorway of that room, with the door open. Just standing there, not moving.
Well, he bursts into the room we're in, door flies open, and he's like 'OH SHIT OH SHIT' and he dives for the phone. Calls CQ. Tells them to get up there pronto. Tells us that the roommate came back, opens the door, and finds his roommate dead. We just didn't know the backstory at that point. Apparently the guy had bought a pistol at some point and (no surprise) didn't tell the unit and didn't keep it in the arms room. So after dumb shit E6 lets him go back to his room, he shoots himself in the head, and his poor roommate had to find him.
So of course the shit hits the fan and the entire building is locked down. MPs and CID come in. No one is allowed to leave. Eventually we get herded down into the dayroom. I get pulled out and questioned because that was actually my previous barracks room and I still had a key (they never asked for it back, just signed me a new key, but they started going over everything with a fine-toothed comb and I got questioned. Who had access to the room? They went over the key logs, and I gave them that key back LOL). Hilariously enough, there was this one POS soldier who didn't like the guy that suicided. So while we were all locked in the dayroom, there's a line of MPs and CID at the soda machine. There's probably 4-5 of them standing within earshot, and this dipshit, while we're talking about what happened, just starts talking about how he never liked the guy, fuck him, 'we shouldn't be losing our Saturday because of him', and then adds in a sort of 'I'm glad he offed himself' string of comments. The rest of us exchange glances, look at MPs/CID and see THEM exchange glances, then watch as they put their money away and walk out together. Then a couple of minutes later, guess who gets dragged out to be questioned? LOL
AFAIK that E6 just got yelled at. But maybe I'm wrong and just ignorant of what might have happened to him (could have been kept behind closed doors).
So anyways, back to what you were saying
Lejina
...there's times I wish that E6 had done different. I mean, FFS, he could have grabbed the kid and put him in a room with some of us enlisted shitlords, and we would have just made him sit on the couch, play vidya games, bullshitted with him, been like
"Naww dude you're crashing in HERE tonight...bro, you're going to the bathroom? I'ma go with you", forced him to play Madden '93 with us, then dragged his ass to breakfast at the chow hall. That sorta thing.
But I mean, FFS, he had the kid at Staff Duty, He should have at LEAST kept him at Staff Duty. The dude basically didn't want to deal with him and chose to believe that everything would just be ok. And the unit ended up with a dead soldier as a result.
I don't know if anyone told the GF or what. No idea what happened to her or the kid after that.