Palum
what Suineg set it to
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I think the real challenge here is that it's a damned if you do, damned if you don't scenario for a lot of black folks. I've known a LOT who try and walk the delicate line of being ambitious and driven individuals while trying to stay connected to a culture their family wants them to relate to, yet they find distant and struggle to understand. You have an older brother who lives the thug life, and a younger one studying to be a chemical engineer. I can't say that I envy that position. To me, finding a struggle between self identity and cultural identity IS an actual burden that I'll never know. I simply don't have one and I imagine most Americans don't either. Sure, I have mementos and stories from long-dead relatives, but I relate to my upbringing and not to the culture of my ancestors. I would be laughed at, and rightly so, if I decided to just don Lederhosen and changed my name to Johannes despite having no functional connection to my heritage 5 generations later.Everyone here that said modern "black culture" is toxic is pretty much spot on. The thug mentality isn't compatible with civilized society, plain and simple. But the underlying assumption by people that all black people are thugs isn't right either. This attitude is what makes the blacks who try to integrate into society mad. Cops always look at you suspiciously, even if you follow the rules and obey the law. You always fit the "description". You try to be nice and help an old lady across the street, they will scream for help or yell at you to get away. The very color of black skin makes them fearful. People that cross the street when they see black people coming. Shit like that. I'm not talking about gang bangers. I'm talking about normally dressed blacks that act non threatening. Teachers shaming black students for wearing their hair in ways non whites don't (braids, cornrows).
I'm not going to lie, at times I feel lost having no cultural identity. I have friends who are raised with some identity, they have relatives in their home country and grew up with the traditions and culture being passed down to them from their parents and grandparents. I find a certain emptiness to the commercialized American identity. Humans have a long history of story-telling and tradition; it just didn't survive for a lot of groups who came to America. Some, like so many blacks, have adapted theirs yet modernized it to distance themselves. I had a few Jewish friends who did this, too. Their parents would specifically segregate them from activities and force them to identify as a Jew publicly instead of just getting on with life. Like creating a big scene because pork is available at a community function. Just don't fucking eat it? I think it's a shame, frankly.