If someone "verbally shreds" you for some mild exploring, then you're probably lucky to get that red flag thrown in your face early. Even among mostly sane people, you don't want to wait too long to try what you need to try to be sure that you're going to have compatible interests. The internet is filled to the brim with posts like "how do I get my wife to do x". You should have made sure she was into x before you even considered making her your wife.
I'll never get all that "how do I get my wife to do X" stuff that's all over the internet. Always makes me wonder why they married someone who isn't into their main thing. Usually it's a three-way or buttsex or something. I know people have other priorities and lots of other things can draw you to a woman (or you're just desperate) but I'd think guys would at least mention things early-on and find out if they're out of the question.
Most things are pretty basic to get someone to go along with provided you have mutual trust and she likes you enough. Shower sex or at least making out in the shower/bath and wasting lots of water is my #1 "thing", so if someone refuses to take coed showers with me that's a dealbreaker.
How's it going for you
pharmakos
- getting that sacred pussy?
Yeah, where the fuck is
pharmakos
?
You guys are crazy with the coworker thing being a no-no. Most meet eachother at work over here. SH and HR can go screw themselves, heh.
I've seen plenty of coworkers hook up. The younger the people working at a place, the more common it is. Restaurants are basically big orgies around here, all the waitresses and all the waiters are boning on the side. Political canvassing organizational offices are also hotbeds for couples forming, shared causes and all that.
When I was pretty young I worked at Home Depot. Met the HR woman and she was surprisingly about my age, new at the job, and a very cute Italian. Her and I hit it off and had a good rapport. Was talking to my main co-worker (who was also training me) on the dock a couple weeks in and the cute HR lady came up (mostly him going "how about that cute new HR lady") and I said I'd like to ask her out for dinner but who knows if she'd be interested so I don't know. Was more or less fishing to see if he had any advice (like "don't do it") but he didn't.
Next day I go in there and the entire fucking Home Depot knows I have a thing for the HR lady, but not in a "aww, he's got a crush" kind of way. No, in a gossipy "oh boy can't wait to see him get in trouble lol" kind of way.
Store manager pulls me aside for a quick chat and tells me it's 100% against the store rules for employees to date, so he was just letting me know that if I had any ideas of dating anyone who worked there, I should get rid of them now.
I left that job soon after because my co-worker was such a shifty POS gossip and so to, apparently, were everyone else there. The HR lady never said anything about it and kept being just as nice to me as always, though she did look at me a bit differently after that. Almost like apologetic or something? Not sure how to describe it. After a couple more weeks of dealing with how everyone I worked with was an annoying gossip-hound and being outright harassed by one guy, I did go to her and tender my resignation and she seemed sad to see me go and that was that. Shoulda asked her out on the way out the door, because why not.
