Keep in mind most chicks, especially ones that seem a bit flaky (to put it lightly), may have a hard time understanding sarcasm. So, you"re either being sarcastic with "pfft, a likely story" and she won"t get it and will think you"re being a dick or suspecting her of shit. Or you know the reasons are legit and being passive aggressive. Either way, danger.Eomer said:
Hah, yeah, so did the woman you grew up with and who has been your primary model for women always end up being so forgetful (read as: disregarding) of your time (read as: emotions and worth)?
Send your mom a text of this nature:
"Sorry we can"t get together. I was looking forward to it, to the point I ended up cancelling/not-making other plans. In the future, I"d appreciate a little more notice and consideration, because while I greatly value our time together with family, I also value my own time."
And yeah, she may get butt hurt, and if she"s a woman may accuse you of being passive aggressive or dramatic, but that"s how you know you"re not being those things. Eventually, she"ll get the point, and you"ll have grown a nut back.
Then, text the girl:
"My plans fell through for this Sunday. I want [fill in exactly what you want from her and expect from her.... not in a creepy meta sense, just for the night! So, not, I want to start a relationship with you and kiss your forehead as we weep in each other"s arms while watching Titanic, but more like: I want you to get dressed up so we can go to [some restaurant] or I want you to come over, don"t worry about hair or dressing up, we"ll just hang out on the couch and watch movies to relax after a long work week.]
No, "what do you want to do" or "Well, we could do this, I mean, if you want, or whatever."
Tell her what you want, what you expect, and she"ll decide if it"s worth it. If it isn"t, or she blows you off, then hey, you don"t have to worry about playing social-tag with her in the future. Most likely, if she wants you, her panties will be so wet from you growing your second nut she"ll come over doing exactly what you"ve expressed you want/expect from her (so be pointed, and no sarcasm, or she may actually show up in a furry costume).
And the brilliance is you"ll actually have to think through and figure out exactly what you want from this chick, which my guess is probably/hopefully not much. Then you"ll avoid ending up doing shit or in a relationship or whatever "just because it happened or something." If you think through it and really can"t come up with anything specific you really want from her (on various levels, but don"t mention the sub-levels!) then, problem solved, let her think you still had other plans, because you would have other plans at that point: anything but her.
